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Mental Health (Expert Forum)
I DONT KNOW MENTAL OR DEPRESSED OR SICK
Answered by
Roger Gould, M.D. - Mental Health, Wellness
Questions posted in the Mental Health forum are being answered by Dr. Roger L. Gould, author of the Mastering Stress and Depression program and affiliated with the UCLA. Department of Psychiatry. Topics covered include anger, attention deficit disorder (ADD), bipolar disorder, dementia, electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), learning disabilities, memory, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic, personality disorders, phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), schizophrenia, stress, transitions, and work problems.
I DONT KNOW MENTAL OR DEPRESSED OR SICK
by gauravsharma, May 10, 2008 02:23PM
i am 21 yr old boy, used to love girl and still do from 2004 however she never did so , she is not with me and neither was after 2005 january and in that month also we were simpe frnds not other relation now i dont know what has happen to me i have a frnd (female) how ever she is my frnd but i dont like if she talk to other persons i mean i get angry if he talk to them without telling me sply 4-5 persons are thr whom i hate if she talk to them for any reason to pass info or other thing my blood gets boiled, i am facing this problem from last year my blood gets boils very quicly very very quickly at the same time my care for them also increase but i cant control my anger i have broken my glasses and once my hand (i banged it on wall) for the reason my frnd did not obey me to drink coffee when she was having headache am i mentall sick sometimes my mood goes to ground and i feel like sucide without reason but sometimes it is ok , have not been happy from last 3-4 years exxcept for a day or two, one more thing this person became my frnd 2 yr back before to that i was very quiet i never used to share my feeling with anyone now i share it with this person and all anger goes here only and i safeguard my self that only you can understand i have a lot of guilt in me what to do tried sucide 2 times but failed not have courage to go for third what shld i do please help have a lot of hope from ou
Doctor's Answer
by Roger Gould, M.D., May 10, 2008 06:29PM
, May 10, 2008 06:29PM
To: gauravs
You need to talk to a professional about your feelings and your behavior. I hope there is someone in your country you can talk to about this, and if not, then maybe a religious person, or someone at your old school. Your possessiveness and jealously lead you to want to have too much control over your new girlfriend, and your anger is a result of your not having that control. That makes you feel helpless and depressed and hopeless. The way out of that is to begin seeing that you have no right to have that control, and you must learn new ways of handling your jealousness and insecurity. Perhaps you could start talking about just that with your girlfriend, and that may relieve some of the pressure. You will learn to master this, and when you too, your whole life will look brighter...but be sure, if suicide comes up again, to go to your doctor or suicide prevention service...reach out, don't let the demons of your fears control your life.
