orgasmless

[lynne169]

So i am 20, and i havn't ever had an orgasm. dont get me wrong, my man tries and i do enjoy it. is this normal? any suggestions?

[crabby70]

It is very hard to have  an orgasm during sex....are you trying any other ways like oral sex, touching yourself..?  

[lynne169]

he always goes down on me, i have touched myself a few times, maybe ill test it out a little more. thanks!

[crabby70]

It wasn't till my twenties that I had one....23 I think

[kathryn80]

Try having your partner insert 2 fingers and rub the upper wall (g spot - check out http://www.****.com) in smooth circular motions while playing with your clit with his tung... you have to relax and you may try kegel exercises (http://www.****.com).  Also, woman on top sometimes helps to hit the right spot and you can play with yourself easier.  If all fails, go to a fun sex store together and buy a vibrator that you can use while he is inside of you.  ;)  Good luck!

[kathryn80]

I guess I don't know the rules:)  Google or search on this site for g spot and then run a search for kegel... I found great info on the Mayo Clinic site for kegel exercises and then askmen can help your bfriend find it.

[crabby70]

I'm good tell it to lynne169 lol

[kathryn80]

Ha!  That's funny;)  I've been a bit dyslexic lately, so maybe now I'm switching names around!

Lynne169 - see my above postings:)  

LOL good luck!

[lynne169]

LOL. thank you so much for both of your help!!!

[marissposa]

Definitely play with yourself more.  Once you know what you like you can let him know what you like.  Try different locations on the clitoris.   I know it is small, but a millimeter to one side can make ALL the difference.  Try different pressures and tempos.  You might be a slow soft type o' gal or a fast and hard one.  Maybe you need some more mental stimulation. For your alone play, try reading erotica, and for your time with him  you can try things like having him talk to you about what he is doing while your blindfolded, or watching a porn together.  It is great that he is an eager-eater,  but  to take the pressure off for awhile talk to him about how you want to focus on experimenting and not on climaxing for awhile.  I think we can sometimes focus so much on the finish line that we get ourselves  a little too anxious about  cumming that we make it impossble to actually enjoy ourselves.