I cheated and it was wrong! How do I gain back trust???

[ur_angel]

I do dearly love my boyfriend.. but i cheated and left him for someone else.. but i wanna leave the guy and go back to my ex.. and he's excepted me back.. but doesn't trust me no more... how do i gain his trust back on me???????? please help
thankyou

[crk05]

I would suggest being so very,very honest with him. There was obviously a reason for you wanting to leave but in doing so you have found that you do really love your ex and are much happier with him. Although it may suck it will take a long,long time for him to gain his trust in him. You have to just make sure that you are honest all the time and a 100% his. Don't give him a reason to be jealous or unsure of your relationship.

I had a boyfriend whom always accused me of cheating although I never did, he never trusted me. It was hard because he was the one whom was actually cheating. Just be honest and things will get better with time but unfortunately it will take time and sometime it feels like forever. It will get better.

[txsilver]

Trust takes time to build and once it is damaged it takes longer to restore.  Have you asked him how you can regain his trust?  He will have the best possible answer, above any you receive here.  By asking him you will be opening up to him and that will help engender trust.

[treazzure007]

You probably never will.  Accept that.  Sometimes the best that can happen is that the person who cheated can ask forgiveness and ask that the victim doesnt hold this against them and continue to love them.  I believe the victim should be fully accepting of putting the past behind and not dwindling on it if he's accepted the one who cheated back.  They can continue to love one another and live happy lives together.  

The victim always wondering what could cause you to do it again, if you'll do it again, or with whom may just always be in the back of their minds.  There's nothing you can do about what people are thinking.

[jo929]

.If the situation were reversed,What would you do? answer this., and you will have your answer.  luck  jo

[hopefulmommy2007]

I am in a similar situation. I lied to my fiance and told him I would not contact an ex of mine. Well, I tried, didnt get in touch with him, but tried to, and then lied to my fiance about that too. Well...he found out...so he knew I had betrayed his trust. Though I didnt have sex with or even talk to my ex, the fact of the matter was that I still lied to him and betrayed him. He still doesnt trust me completely. I have accepted that, but hope that one day I will have proven myself to him enough that he will trust me again. I have even agree to do a polygraph for him to prove that I have not done anything else dishonest to him since that day almost 10 months ago.

It may take forever to gain his trust back, and you may not ever get it back, even if he does forgive you. My fiance' has forgiven me, but cant forget it and it still hurts him to know that I did that to him when he finally trusted me and wanted and needed to trust me the most. I have just accepted the fact that he needs to question me and hear my answers to feel safe. Good luck, and if you truly love him then make sure you prove it to him. :-)

[teko]

When one partner of a committed relationship cheats, it shows that they are not committed. The hurt and anger and humiliation that one experiences by being cheated on is not something that they want to deal with on a daily basis. Marriages of 30 years or more have been ruined this way. If my mate cheated on me, I would never take him back. To me that is the core of the committment. Once it has been broken, its over. That is me. I have seen others learn from it and go on to have solid relationships. It will truly depend on how your guy sees it. If he is like me, your a gonner.  If he is like some of my friends, it will take time, lots of it, but he may be able to pull it together and be stronger for it. Time is the only way, one will be able to tell. I wish you well regardless of how it turns out and hope you truly have learned from your mistake.