tantrum

[sheila02]

I HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT MY 6 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER.  SHE HAD TANTRUMS WHEN SHE WAS 3 AND I GOT THE BOOK 1-2-3 MAGIC AND IT HELPED TREMENDOUSLY.  NOW RECENTLY SHE HAS BEEN ACTING DIFFERENTLY, SHE IS DISRESPECTFUL IN THE WAY SHE SPEAKS SOMETIMES.  SHE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A VERY POLITE CHILD, WE HAVE HAD NO PROBLEMS WITH HER.  SHE IS VERY MUCH THE GIRLY GIRL, VERY DAINTY, BUT YESTERDAY AFTER SOCCER PRACTISE SHE WANTED TO STAY AND PLAY WITH SOME OF THE OTHER GIRLS SO I LET HER.  THEN I WAS SHOWING HER HOW TO DO SOME RUNNING EXERCISES ETC.  THIS WENT ON FOR ABOUT A HALF AN HOUR, AND BY THAT TIME IT WAS 7:30 SO I TOLD HER WE HAD TO GO.  I HAD TRIED THIS MULTIPLE TIMES BEFORE BUT LET HER STAY LONGER BUT THIS TIME I WANTED TO GO.  SHE STARTED YELLING, SHE GOT VERY ANGRY AND WHEN SHE GOT TO THE CAR, SHE TOOK THE STICK THAT SHE HAD AND SCRATCHED MY CAR W/IT AND CAME AFTER ME TO HIT ME.  WE DO NOT HIT IN THIS HOUSE.  I DO NOT HIT HER AT ALL.  I PUT HER IN A TIME OUT, THEN SHE WOULDNT GET IN THE CAR, I TRIED TO GET HER IN BUT SHE WAS LIKE A 3 YEAR OLD AND STIFFENED UP.  SO I WENT TO MY SIDE OF THE CAR AND GOT IN AND STARTED THE CAR, THEN SHE KNEW I WAS SERIOUSE SO SHE GOT IN.  I DONT UNDERSTAND THIS BEHAVIOR OR HOW TO PUNISH THIS.  I TOLD HER THER WOULD BE A CONSEQUENCE FOR WHAT SHE DID.  CAN YOU HELP WITH THIS?  I HAVE ALSO TOLD HER (EVEN THAT DAY ON THE WAY TO SCHOOL) THAT IF ANYTHING AT ALL HAPPENS LIKE AN ADULT TELLS HER NOT TO TELL US SOMETHING, THAT MEANS TO TELL US.  SHE CAN TELL US ANYTHING, THAT WE ARE THERE TO PROTECT AND LOVE HER ALWAYS.  
PLEASE HELP.

SHEILA

[Bothecorgi]

My daughter who just turned 6 last week has also been having new behavior that we are not thrilled about.  We had a similar experience at a shoe store because they did not have her size. UGGGG. Does your daughter have a younger brother/sister?  We think our daughter is having a hard time because he gets attention when she is at school.  Think about sibbling issues that may spark this behavior.  I've also been reading that 6 year olds crave moma and dad but seek attention in negative or positive ways. Our daughters are just doing it in negative ways.  We are going to buy 1,2,3 magic and see if it helps. Maybe go back to it. We have also been pointing out that babd behavior do not get her what she wants and that it doesn't work. On the flip side when she is doing well or listens right off the bad we have been verbally praising her.  If you have any ideas for us please e-mail or post for me too.
Thanks and good luck,
Mary

[gagecory]

I have a 7 year old daughter.  When she has had tantrums or shows bad behavior, I cut off her sugar intake.  That means no ice cream truck, no candy, no McDonld's, soda, ceral etc.  She has v8 juice or water, eggs and saugage for breakfast, and so on for the other meals and snacks.  One week without sugar seems to really settle her down for a long time.  She does not crave the sugar foods as much, is able to control her moods and bad behavior.  I found that most of her bad behavior happened after bad diet (fast food during traveling or really busy schedules, school parties like Valentine's Day) that had to much Junk and not enough raw veg's and home cooked meats.  I try to limit bread in the diet as well.  As this seems to really stimulate her to wild behavior.

There are natural food stores that sell kid friendly food to sub. for the fatty and sugar stuff.  She really like the Pirate Booty (like flavored pop corn).  It is a lot more on the already stressed budget, but the reduction in stress is well worth it.

I truely believe that children without sugar (reduced sugar) in their diet grow up healthier and better able to handle their emotions.