My Gf wants to leave me because she just found out shes infertile but I told her i want to be with her and yet she still says the same thing what can i do to show her wats real?

[luisito2007]

I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now, and we have been talking about having kids for about a year. 2 weeks ago she found out she had cysts covering 1 entire ovary and beginning the next. The Dr told her she was going to be intfertile. I use to tell her all the time that i couldn't wait to have kids and that i wanted many with her. With the news she discovered 2 weeks ago everything turn drastically to a different direction. First i didn't find out about her diagnostic until 2 days ago. She had been avoiding me for 2 weeks and it was because of that. Now she is saying she wants to leave me because she says she can't give me happiness and that she wants me to be happy having all the kids we once talked about. I have already told her many times how i felt and how all i wanted was to be with her. She continues telling me the same thing. I have yet been able to talk to her since that day she told me about the situation. I feel lost becuase she is everything to me and i don't want to lose her over something like this. I keep reading online that relationships are suppose to get stronger with situations like these and yet mine seems to be decling. She says she loves me and she knows i love her, and yet she continues saying the same thing about not being together. She says that having kids is wat make couples COMPLETE and yet i told her its her that makes me complete. Please can someone tell me what i can say or do to make all this better and relieve some of the pain and stress on my relationship. We are engaged but shes finisihing school and I have put so much into this relationship I want it to be back to the way it used to be prior to this discovery. We both have our own kids from different people but she stresses that she wanted to have MY kids. I Love her to Death and i don't want to lose her for soemthing like this on the contrary i want to be there so bad for her now and support her and get married and live our lives together. Can someone Please Help. Thank You and God Bless

[teko]

Time. Give her time and re-enforce your love for her. Tell her you want to take it one day at a time and see how it goes.  It sounds like she has benn shell-shocked so to speak and is talking out of emotion instead of logic.  Talk to her and see if you can get her to agree to keep seeing each other in the meantime until you can both look at all sides of the situation with a clear perspective. Right now, you are both acting out of emotion. You both need to let the fog settle and see where you stand with each other. If your love for each other is as strong as you say, you will survive this. But for now, treat each other with tender loving care. It will be ok.

[ComputerGeek]

I agree, as usual, with Teko.  

You CAN still have children with this woman though - if you adopt.  I know many couples who have adopted - even babies from China!  And the children totally become their own.

You ARE saying the right things to this woman though.  Keep on with that and don't give up!

[BearHitch]

I agree with the other posters- just keep reenforcing things with her and don't give up yet.  I had feelings similar to that of your girlfriend where I kept having miscarriages, and I was devastated because my husband - like you - wanted many kids with me.  Now, we did end up finally getting and staying pregnant, but have had no luck since.  My husband kept reaffirming to me that kids were not as important as me in his life, and I though I still struggle with it somedays, it is not as bad as before.  

There is something about infertility that really hurts, because only women can bring life into this world, and it sucks being a woman who can't.  

Also, on another note, miracles do happen.  Remember that.

[omanlover]

i am with  the other, she seem to love very much& do not want you to strugle with her!
give her time. then tell her , you both can go through it!