Condom Broke Whilst Having Sex With Prostitute

[stupidstupidman]

I am a 34 year old hapily married man with a fantastic wife and 2 kids.

My wife is the greatest, but last night I got tempted into going to a brothel to see what it's like.

I ended up going with a Romainian girl and she gave oral sex (unprotected) and then we had full sex.

However the condom broke, I realised this after about 30 seconds and withdrew. She got a new condom, I put it on and then I finished.

She says that she has an AIDS test every 3 months and she is negative. But I am not sure.

I am a very stupid man, I do not understand why I did it and I WISH I could turn back time. I am kicking myself today. I feel guilty as sin and pray to be forgiven.

What are my chances? I want to tell her to protect her but she may leave me and if not probably NEVER forgive and trust me again.

We have sex quite regular (without protection) and will know something is wrong if I don't want sex. I really do love her very much. I will NEVER ever do this again! What do I do?

Please help this stupid-stupid-man.

[Teak]

Well all I can say is use a condom or don't have sex with your wife until you've had and STD panel and HIV test done. More than likely you didn't contract HIV but don't take a chance with your wife.

[ECN44120]

The chance for one unprotected vaginal sex is 1/2000 if the other partner is confirmed to have hiv, since she says that have been tested and until know always negative it would be even lower, anyway the only thing you can do now it waiting for the test, at 6 weeks you`ll have a 95% accurate result an then at 3 months for a conclusive result, about what to do with your wife is really up to you, the best thing would be telling her what happen and to avoid having sex or using a condom for any penetrative sex with her.

Good luck the odds are really big in your side.

[alienshadow]

you need to come clean man you had a risk and you dont want to put your wife at risk neither

[stupidstupidman]

Thanks everyone for the feedback.

I have been utterly traumatised by the experience. I havn't been sleeping, sweating, constantly beating myself up for being SO stupid, permantly thinking about it and feeling guilty guilty guilty!

I have seen the doctor and am going for a test in a couple weeks. He says this is all I need(?), but I'm thinking about another test at 3 months. My wife thinks I am having a problem (pains) with my testicles. I do not want to hurt or lose her and if we have sex I have told her that doctor says we must use a condom until testing is complete.

I am doing this because I really love her and I DO NOT want to expose her or ruin her life for MY stupid mistake. I also really really don't want to lose her or my family. If I get this chance, I vow I will NEVER again do this and be faithful to my wife always.

Please wish me luck, from a stupidstupidman!

PS: I am circumsized, does this help my chances?

[ECN44120]

Yes it does help to be circunsized, it lower the risk, but not to zero,

Good luck.

[worried826]

Youre not stupid, youre just a guy. Guys like hookers, lol. Woman have their vices too, that doesnt make them stupid.

Try to chill out some, the chances that you caught HIV are so low, especially since your exposure was only about 30 seconds.

You guys would hate to be in my shoes. Multiple unprotected sex with multiple women (not hookers) in the last year.

[stupidstupidman]

Today is Saturday 17th May.

I have chilled a little. Can focus a bit more and trying to live normally. Still very worried though.

How long can the HIV virus live staying exposed to air? My worry now when the condom broke, we changed it for a new one then finished. This took about 20 seconds to change (I think). I wonder if the virus was already on my penis, then I put a new one on wouldn't it be trapped giving a higher chance of infection?

I am also having 'clod-sweat' sleeps since the 1st night and my poo is not solid, but could it be because I have a permanent worried/guilty feeling in my gut? I hear these can be symptoms of infection!

I keep praying. I wish I could turn back time.

[ECN44120]

We`ll keep praying, hiv is not infectious outside the bosy, anyway dont waste time thinking about symptoms just read al the forums answers to symptoms, they are meaningless, just try to calm down until you get your innitial 6 week test, good luck

[stupidstupidman]

Today is Sunday, I have been pretty good today, but the anxiety is coming back slowly.

I have stopped the cold sweats, but I am still having runny poo's, but not diahorrea.

Still haven't had sex with my wife (with condom), still feeling too guilty (although she wanted yesterday). I am usually highly sex'd, but cannot even think about having sex with anyone or even look at a female.

10 years ago it wouldn't have bothered me so much. But now I have a family and close friends that like my wife will think I am a total dirt-bag if all came out.

I pray I am negative for many reasons, my family, our friends and of course my life. It is just too risky nowadays to mess around, it is DEFINATELY NOT worth it, for 20 mins! What was I thinking!!

I go for a test on the 26th, the results take 10 days, wish me luck. I am planning another at 3 months. FM I am nervous!

I am a very stupid-stupid-man!!

[worried826]

Forget taking a test that takes 10 days to get back, go get a rapid test at a place like plannned parenthood, the results only take like 30 minutes, that way you can be done with it.

[LIZZIE LOU]

the 26th will only be 12 days since your exposure !!!!!!!!!!!

[stupidstupidman]

Monday 19th today.

Not feeling too bad today, still feeling guilty and praying. At least my 'stool' wasn't runny today, I think it is because the feeling in my stomach has eased up.

I am still praying by myself for forgivness and for this chance. Apart from you guys God is the only person I can talk to about what I've done. Funny how you always turn to God when you need him...

I am English, but am living in Spain, I don't think the doctor I saw was very clued up about HIV and he says the laboratory test that will be done will be 100% accurate. I doubt it.

I have to wait 10 days as they don't seem to have the 'quick tests' here, it has to get sent away to Barcelona. I can get the quick tests from the UK, but it wouldn't look good in the post box and my wife finding it.

If this test is negative I am going to have another done at 3 months, if it is positive I may as well walk in front of a bus... I am disgusted with myself!

I had sex with my wife today, with a Durex condom. It was good (better than a *****) but I didn't feel the same and didn't feel like I deserved her.

Anyone got a time machine?

[LIZZIE LOU]

i dont know what else we can tell you to ease your mind...the facts have been laid out for you :)  10 days from exposure is toooooooooo early to test.

you might want to use a feature that is available on this site.  go to "my medhelp" at the top of the page.  click on "journals".  this is a place where you can post and talk about your feelings and fears.  you will get some feedback from there.

[worried826]

You got issues man.

[LIZZIE LOU]

bump

[viv_xyz]

I am 25 years old and I also did sex with one