Difficult to ejaculate

[Jinnous]

My husband has difficulty ejaculating during sex unless its a "woman-on-top, man-below" position, and sometimes I have to lick his ear before he can ejaculate. He has no problem with his erection but he says he doesn't really feel that gratifying with all the other sexual positions. I think that might be a problem as we trying for a baby and I read somewhere that the worst position to conceive is the "woman-on-top" position.
He says it has something to do with the direction of his penis, that its pointing down instead of up when erected. I'm not so sure bout that though. Should we be seeing a doc or what?

[banter]

Men have a wide variety of sexual tastes.  I really wouldn't argue if he states that he has a favorite position.  Okay, the ear-licking thing sounds kind of kinky, but no big deal.  Do that too if it helps him.

As far as conceiving goes - that is easy.  After he has his orgasm, you just turn over onto your back into a more favorable position!

Ummm... I just Googled this topic and found the following -
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From: http://www.babycenter.com/0_sexual-positions-for-baby-making_1812.bc

Are some sexual positions better than others for conceiving?
Will having an orgasm help my chances of conceiving?
Should I stay lying down afterward?


Are some sexual positions better than others for conceiving?

There's no evidence that any particular sexual position is more likely to lead to conception. You may have heard that positions that deposit the sperm closest to the cervix — such as the missionary position (man on top) — are more promising than other positions. But there are no studies to back this up.

Proper timing, on the other hand, is a crucial factor. To make conception more likely, have sex a day or two before you expect to ovulate and then again on the day of ovulation.

Will having an orgasm help my chances of conceiving?

Some people believe that a woman who climaxes after her partner ejaculates is more likely to get pregnant, but there's no evidence to support this notion either.

The female orgasm isn't a necessary component of conception, but it is possible that uterine contractions help sperm move toward the fallopian tubes. (Such painless contractions happen involuntarily even when you're not having sex, particularly around the time of ovulation.)

Should I stay lying down afterward?

There's no evidence that it makes a difference, but it can't hurt. Remaining horizontal for 15 minutes or so after intercourse allows more semen to remain in your vagina. Of course, with millions of sperm in every ejaculation, there should be plenty of sperm in your vagina even if you get up right away.

NOTE: If you've been trying to conceive for a year or more without success (or three to six months if you're 35 or older), or your periods are irregular, your best bet is to see a fertility specialist.

[jml1986]

If that is what does it for him, then by all means do it. I would however continue to try new things to see if there is another way for him to achieve success. As long as he is ejactulating and his sperm count is okay, there is no reason why this position can keep you from getting pregnant.

[Jinnous]

Last nite we tried to have intercourse. We tried for 45 mins but he still can't ejaculate. Even with the ear-licking part. He said he's almost there but just can't ejaculate. We tried other positions but end up still with the woman on top position. But is it normal that a guy probably needs those e.g sexy lingerie or super high heels etc to help him ejaculate, everytime? We have tried many positions (at least I think so) but he just couldn't do it. And I don't reallly think he wants to see a doc bout this. I guess its a guy's thing or something....I'm not sure. But it sure is frustrating for the both of us. He's 31 and I'm 28.

[remar]

my daughter is living proof that you can get pregnant with the woman on top. is he feeling pressured to make a baby? it can be stressful for the couple when they're trying to concieve. it sounds like he needs to relax and keep trying other positions with you. i would think trying other positions would be exciting for him. maybe it's all in his head that the only way he can be satisfied is with you on top. you've heard before that the biggest sex organ is your brain have'nt you? good luck and don't give up.

[jml1986]

What's normal for one guy may not be normal for another. That however does not mean there is something wrong with a man that needs visual stimulation in order to preform. Everyone is different in what turns them on but that is okay, it makes life more interesting. I do agree that it is a man thing when it comes to going to a doctor about a sexual related problem. It took my husband a year to tell me that he was having pain in his testicles. When he did I made him see a male urologist. After having 5 cysts removed, his preformance problems went away. So, I would strongly urge him to go see one, but do your homework ahead of time so that you can find someone that does not make him uncomfortable.

[iamtheone39]

I can relate to this question in my own life. I can have sex for hours,but ejaculating is very difficult for me. I think it is psychological as much as it is physical. I know when I was married the ex would get upset if I came too quickly and she didnt have an orgasm...so as you can imagine,it affected me alot psychologically. I feel very pressured NOT to *** too early thinking about how my ex got so upset. So now I sometimes don't ever *** with my partner. Hopefully this will change so the pleasure will be with both my partner and I.

[Jinnous]

Er, I think I have never reached an orgasm. I mean the pleasure is there but I don't think I ever got that kind of release everyone's talking about. Well, I could be wrong. But I can't go around asking ppl if they had an orgasm can I? This sounds weird but is an orgasm similar to masturbating?

[SixStringer]

When I first glanced at your post, I thought instead of:  " . . . sometimes I have to lick his ear before he can ejaculate", you wrote:  . . . sometimes I have to lick his rear before he can ejaculate.  I thought we had something interesting here.  Anyway, I would think that you being on top would promote your orgasm to a greater degree.  Also, I like that position because it allows me the chance to massage my partner's butt cheeks and feel her *** hole, resulting in greater excitement for me as well.  As far as "making a baby", this position would be no problem, from what I know.  

[Jinnous]

Does the position of the penis when erected affect the guy's "feeling" of an orgasm? My hubby's pointing down. Most of my girlfriends I talked to, their hubbys' point up. Is there a problem?

[SixStringer]

Are you saying that the hard penis shaft is aiming down instead of aiming up when he is standing?  I would say that it is no problem, as long as he says that he's feeling the orgasm, and that the ejaculate flow is happening.