Is my relationship really over?

[angoodnow]

I am not quite sure what is happening with me and my boyfriend right now.  Im not even really sure we are together.  We have been together for just over three years.  I am 19 and he is 18.  We have always thought that it would be the 2 of us forever.  But in the last 3 days everything seems to have changed.  He says he doesnt love me the way he did before and wants to take a break or just be friends for awhile.  But I have invested too much into this relationship to be just friends.  And I think it is the same in his case.  And we both dont want to loose each other and cant imagine spending our lives without each other.  We have spent a good deal of time talking about these things but we never came to a solid conclusion of if we are never going to be together again or not.  When I look at him he seems so confused and lost.  But at the same time he still holds me as if there is something there and he still loves me in a way.  And it broke my heart so much when he told me that he doesnt feel anything when he kisses me anymore but I dont understand how three days ago he kissed me with so much passion and now its gone.  It doesnt make sense.  He did say he still cares about me, but he is very confused about exactly what he feels.   I dont understand how he can say that a part of him still wants to spend his life with me but he isnt sure anymore.   We had had plans to move into together in august and all of his 'not loving me the same way anymore' stuff started the exact same day we found an apartment that we were serious about and liked.  But I am not ready to give up on him and let him go because it still feels like there is something there.  And this has happened way too quickly for out deep love to be over like this.  I just dont see how it could be.  Is it wrong of me to feel this way? Should I just give up hope and move on?  Im just so confused and heart broken.

[jo929]

Of course you are feel like your heart is broken, but my dear, you started the relationship to young,for it to last. I have seen many long term relationships, and if theu dont tie the knot it will not last,you are young, so move forward,and look at the statistics, there are many young peopl that get together to soon, and look at his age, 18 is to young for a male to get a good job, you both need to think about you education and move forward, I know it hurts, but give it some time, and pleses dont chase him, a man will run faster if a woman chases him    good luck  jo

[teko]

He is not ready to commit to one person. He is beginning to realize that he does not want to do that with anyone. No more first kisses, no more first dates, no wild nights out with just the guys without paying dearly for it.  He is simply not at a point in his life where he wants to give it all up till death do us part. He cares about you yes, but is not at that stage that you would like it to be. If you did move in with him or marry him, it probably would not work anyway. Move foreward

[treazzure007]

You both sound like you were highschool sweetys.  Youre both young and though he had fun dating you while in school, hes ready to venture out now and test the waters.  The best you could hope for is that he'll go out there and enjoy bachelorhood and partying vacationing, and girls and maybe grow tired of it and want to come back one day.  The worst you can expect is that he's moving on and it's time for you to as well.  I saw numerous examples of this after highschool.  Best wishes