how to help a pyschopath?

[dio123]

i obsess over people. i am a very sensitve person who cares so much of what people think which makes me very insecure about myself. i am also a gay male who believes to have fallen in love with a pyschopath. the need for love is far more imoportant than anything else, but why does it consume me. i've finally had the realization that this person, who i've grown accustomed towards for about 8 months now, has psychopathic tendencies. he says that he loves me, yet he also says things that if he cared about me he wouldn't say. i was diagnosed with an eating disorder and he had the nerve to say that he was skinnier than me. he's lied on too many accounts and is now imprisoned for a crime that he supposedly says was to benefit me. when i'm with him i feel like everything is ok, but he has cheated on me, lied about it and having to find out from the other person is far more heartbreaking. i am currently seeing a therapist who i feel doesn't have the knowledge of informing me about pyshopathy, but i also understand it's their duty to figure out what is wrong with me. i've never had a relationship for more than 2 weeks, and i'm only 20 and understand that i have  my whle life to figure it out, but i'm batteling with myself mentally because i want to understand why some people are incappable of feeling. i'm a very genuine person, who is well in contact with his conscience, but is there anything that i can say or do to trigger something in his mind, a feeling to say the least? i've put so much effort in this and i can't seem to get that there is a line between hope and reality. i love him and want to help him, but i also realize i need to help myself first. i need reassurance that there is hope, regardless if i can do anything or not, well that's up to you.

[susieq87]

It seems as if you need to work on your self-esteem issues.  One has to be good for ones self before you can be good for someone else.  Chck on a group called CODA, it is for codependency issues.  Good luck