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Please help me help my daughter!
by Liz50, Jun 01, 2008 06:45PM
My 24 yo daughter has suffered on and off from depression for years. She has been on more AD's than I can count, nothing works in the long run. She is married to a MD/PHD student and is a BioChem major herself, set to graduate in December. So she's super smart, as is her hubby--and these bouts of deep, unrelenting depression are becoming a serious issue. She sees a psychiatrist, but only to change meds. Recently she began therapy, but I know her and she is far from honest in the sessions. No abuse, stable family life growing up,supportive siblings, happy marriage (2 years, though hubby is a freakishly smart student who spends every second studying, but he adores her and she knows it). She has issues with her body image, but if you saw her on the street you'd stop and take a 2nd or 3rd look, she's that beautiful. Her depression appears to be cyclical, she can be perfectly fine for a length of time, 10-15 days, I mean, upbeat, handling school and life and being fine, then she'll cycle downward and spend the next week in bed sobbing her eyes out. Also she'll vomit and have raging bouts of diarrhea. I could almost chart these episodes. She definitely does better in the sun than on gloomy days, but can also be OK on a snowy day. Is on the NuvaRing for Birth control and has been on it for several years. I am wondering if that could be adding to her issues, but I do not know the cyclical ramifications of that....she goes 3 months w/o a period, then has one, then another 3.
She will not take an AD that might cause weight gain. She is quite negative by nature, which sure doesn't help...and her hubby is really pushing her to start a family and THAT really doesn't help. He is literally NEVER home and won't be around for the next 5 years, at least, then residency and fellowships...she is terrified of being depressed and not being able to handle babies and normal life.
I am trying to stay out of their marriage and their issues, but she is down and laying on my bed bawling her eyes out day after day....I am involved whether I want to be or not.
A couple of questions: Does this sounds like Bipolarity to anyone?
Could it be the Birth Control?
Would a longer term stay in a psych facility give them a better understanding of what is going on? Her current psych doc said she is going to have to get ECT and she totally freaked out. (Understandably..it seems a biut premature for that!)
Was I overstepping my bounds lat night to tell her sweet hubby her had no right to tell her to get pregnant--that a baby at this point was not the answer to anything??? He was upset with me, but man, I know my daughter and if she was pregnant, I would be caring for her 24/7, she would probably try to kill herself. As a Med student, yould think he'd get this type of thing, but he really wants kids soon....good grief, she's only 24!! I was as gentle and loving as I could have possibly been under the circumstances, but he just didn't "get it". I said she deserved to work in her field for a while and that motherhood was her decision and not his place to force the decision upon her. (She's out of town, currently.) Don't get me wrong, this guy's a gem, he just wants a family and is frustarted by my daughter's depression and somehow thinks babies would cure it (!)
Any ideas (aside from having a baby--don't go there!) based on what I've said? I am baffled and sad and worried.
Thanks in advance.
Liz
She will not take an AD that might cause weight gain. She is quite negative by nature, which sure doesn't help...and her hubby is really pushing her to start a family and THAT really doesn't help. He is literally NEVER home and won't be around for the next 5 years, at least, then residency and fellowships...she is terrified of being depressed and not being able to handle babies and normal life.
I am trying to stay out of their marriage and their issues, but she is down and laying on my bed bawling her eyes out day after day....I am involved whether I want to be or not.
A couple of questions: Does this sounds like Bipolarity to anyone?
Could it be the Birth Control?
Would a longer term stay in a psych facility give them a better understanding of what is going on? Her current psych doc said she is going to have to get ECT and she totally freaked out. (Understandably..it seems a biut premature for that!)
Was I overstepping my bounds lat night to tell her sweet hubby her had no right to tell her to get pregnant--that a baby at this point was not the answer to anything??? He was upset with me, but man, I know my daughter and if she was pregnant, I would be caring for her 24/7, she would probably try to kill herself. As a Med student, yould think he'd get this type of thing, but he really wants kids soon....good grief, she's only 24!! I was as gentle and loving as I could have possibly been under the circumstances, but he just didn't "get it". I said she deserved to work in her field for a while and that motherhood was her decision and not his place to force the decision upon her. (She's out of town, currently.) Don't get me wrong, this guy's a gem, he just wants a family and is frustarted by my daughter's depression and somehow thinks babies would cure it (!)
Any ideas (aside from having a baby--don't go there!) based on what I've said? I am baffled and sad and worried.
Thanks in advance.
Liz
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