Very Concerned

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This is very personal and im really embarrased by this
but when me and my husband make love I don't have any mucus and im very dry he does try to stimulate me but still nothing or very little it's hard making love because it hurts
I know they say get KY but im only 23 year's old what could this be from ?

Also when we do make love I go numb down there and don't feel anything in the canal and it just feels like im air humping its very odd this has happend about 8 times now and my husband is not small so it's not him it's me and i don't know what is going on. My husband is starting to think its him but I keep telling him it's not he is also very concerned!  Thanx for any help!

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hello. There are many possible causes of your dryness/pain. The most common is that you’re not turned on and thus not wet enough. This is a reminder to only have sex when YOU'RE ready. Be sure that: 1) you’re turned on when your partner enters you and 2) you’re lubricated. If you ARE turned on, but are still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Lots of women report that Replens is the lubricant that feels the most natural and most like their own vaginal fluids. If you’re feeling “numb,” it sounds to me like you’re just not turned on. While many women enjoy penis-vagina sex, it doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation that many women need to get truly aroused. During p-v sex, most men use an “in-out” motion that feels great for them, instead of the circular grinding motion that will stimulate the clitoris and thus turn you on. In addition, some women experience pain or numbness if they engage in penis-vagina sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous. If none of these is the case, other possible causes are various infections, certain medications and hormonal imbalance. It’s a good idea to see your gynecologist for a check-up to find out if any of these is contributing. Good luck to you. Dr. J

[jml1986]

It can be caused by hormone problem, you would need to have your doctor check your levels.  Your age doesn't really matter, women of all ages have the same problem.

I would rather use KY and be happy then I would not have sex.

[extrmeski]

As silly as it sounds, you also need to stay very hydrated, may not be the problem but I know that I have much less seman if I am dehydrated then if I drink alot of water.  I drink over a gallon a day, but I live in AZ where it is hotter than heck and dry!