anxiety attack

[susan123456789]

Hello. Im one of the most positive people I know, friendly, helpful and 99% in good mood. i sometimes annoy people cause im positive. in my 30s, so not a child anymore. had couple of very good relationships in life and cannot complain at all. all of sudden a get panic attacks, and believe that a specific woman is going to interfere in my relationship (of 5 years). my partner is in new business. and it feels like the woman buys things for my partner. they call it the company provide, I feel different. its great that a company provide but bit much if company provide exactly the same 2 bikes for each of them. Im not use to these attacks, and every time we talk about it the conversation explodes!!! even though I stay calm, my partner does not. I never really get jealous so these panic attacks drive my nuts. they have a 50 50 partnership and if they get something - it is the company that provides, but my throat closes, my heart started beating and although I really try not to show my emotions, it obviously shows on my face, then my partner gets irritated cause it shows on my face and as soon as we talk, its a nightmare. So I try to avoid these conversations. Makes sense in my eyes, but all notes, and reports and help lines says you must not avoid it. So im in bit of a catch 22. I do the breath thing, I try to do mindswops, I drink rescue remedies, I try to calm down, I sometimes try to do exercises but have to admit not really in mood, I try to understand, I try to listen, I try to do it right. But these panic attacks come, not very often, but its part of me. Please tell me how to get rid of it. I cannot spend thousands on it, I must just do a mind trick on myself - please just say how you get pass it, because my partner is willing to leave me, which is kind of disappointing news, but true, and I know the answer lies within me

[worried788]

The answer lies in the question.

You are positive, strong, healthy and happy. Your partner must assume that there is an underlying issue of mistrust by your questioning of his actions which in turn would exacerbate the situation and cause feelings of resentment.

My advice is that a cycle of tension is created. Rather than stir these emotions, which would have further repercussions on your own anxiety, consider the fact that talking to someone else may be a better way to release your tension and prevent this cycle. Places such as these forums are a great outlet where you can find people who care. However, there is no contact like human contact, and having said that speaking to loved ones and friends can often alleviate enormous amounts of pressure.