sex and genital warts

[LAYLAS]

My boyfriend has genital warts. We just found out and before hand had already slept together without a condom. I wanted him to go get tested to find out what strand he has (or if he has anything else we don't know about).. but as we live outside of the states, and he is not American (different mentality about protection and std testing), he doesn't think its necessary to get tested given that whatever he has I must already have. And also because I've been vaccinated (Gardasil). What makes matters worse is that we just moved to a country where neither of us speak the language yet.. so going to the doctors is complicated. I can't get it this whole situation out of my head (which makes sex unenjoyable) and told him that I wanted to wait a little before we started sleeping together again. ..which he isnt taking well. I'm scared that I'm more likely to get an outbreak (even though I havent had any symptoms yet) if we sleep together (with a condom) while he has an outbreak. Am I being paranoid and/ or over dramatic??  Does anyone have any advice for me? Should I make him go to the doctors? And what about oral sex.. is it completely off limits when he has little warts on his penis.. will i get it on my mouth?? Do I have to wait until they go away.. how long could it take if i do?

[Letshopeforthebest]

Oral warts are rare, but possible.  I too am out of the states and have had to deal with doctors
i can't communicate with well.  I reccomend doing a rough translation of what you want to say and bring it with you to a hospital/clinic, and go from there.  Get tested, get him tested, do it for the peace of mind and for the start to recovery if there is indeed a problem.  Tell him to grow up, STD's don't go away by themselves, even if you play the ignorance card.  Its completley normal to freak out right now, bu I know from experience that the more you know the better you feel.  Buona fortuna!

[empathy60]

He can't get tested for HPV, there is no formal test for males.  Males are only diagnosed with HPV when they show visible genital warts, which it sounds like he has.  But it certainly isn't a bad idea to get screened for other STD's.  Genital warts require treatment, he needs to see a doctor.  Most doctors would reccomend you abstain from sexual contact with a partner who has visible genital warts until they are gone.  Has he been officially diagnosed yet?  If not, he needs to see if he even HAS genital warts.  If he has strains 6 or 11, you can't get his infection (you've been vaccinated against this).  However, there is no way to tell without biopsy, and biopsies can be expensive and aren't routinely done.

Bottom line: He needs to see a doctor.  Unfortunately, no one can make him do this but him.

[LAYLAS]

The problem with being in another country is not only the language, but also the health insurance (or lack of) / money. He has it because he is working.. I don't. I'll probably get tested in October when I pass through the states anyways. If I don't have symptoms can they still detect it/ and know which strand I have?  I convinced him to go to a doctor- he has an apt with a dermatologist here. How long are we talking about until they go away after treatment?? We live together, so not having sex like normal is effecting us.. even spooning can start a fight between us, as I shy away when his penis touches anywhere close to my vagina. :-(