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Catching herpes from dry humping
by ramblincuroisity, Jul 01, 2008 10:33AM
Assuming I am negative for HSV2, but my girfriend does have it, is it even 1% possible to catch it by heavy dry humping. Please assume that the clothing would be thin (such as silk pajamas on her), thus we likely would become wet from each others fluids.
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Is she on daily suppressive therapy to help lower your risk from regular sexual activities?
feel free to ask any other questions you have.
grace
To follow up and to take it a step further, I have this pair of briefs (as a gag) that are form fitting (by that I mean it has a sewn on sleeve [real, not the stupid elephant trunk gags]). Material is thin nylon. If HSV2 is not transmitted through material, then why would these briefs, w/ the sleeve cut off nearly to where it is attached to rest of brief, in conjunction w/ a condon (or better yet a female condon) provide nearly universal protection. I understand that there could be uncovered areas, such as my upper legs; however all of the potential mucusal areas would be covered.
Again, this is the start of the relationship---so we both are apphrensive---both about catching and transmitting.
Statistically - if you two did nothing but avoid sex whenever she has ob's, you are about 96% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from her. If you went were told that if you bought a lottery ticket today that you had a 96% chance of being the big powerball winner - would you say nah not with those kind of odds and not run right out and buy one? I think you'd be knocking down old ladies to get to the head of the line and buy one wouldn't you? If your gf also takes daily suppressive therapy your risk is cut in half. throw in condoms too and you are 99% likely each year not to contract hsv2 from her. Darn good odds don't you think?
so about the special underwear question - well in theory it would work but to be honest - I advise against it. Part of adjusting to the idea of herpes is realizing that it's something to use common sense with as much as anything else. Not being able to have sex until you put on your special undies would just call more attention to your fears for both of you don't you think? Also I don't know about most folks but I really wouldn't find it attractive to have my partner always wearing bottoms when we had sex. If you can get the risk down to 1% each year - why go to greater lengths? Just my 2 cents.
grace
Home made ideas for wider coverage "condons" is offensive, yet regular condons is not? Putting aside the risk of pregnancy (such as due to surgery that eliminates the risk), are you then advocating that condons would also be offensive? Also, if such was such a stupid home made remedy, it was not to garner advertising dollars (a/la all the ads on so many sites purporting their home made remedies to herpes).
The question may have been stupid; however it was asked in the context of "what are the odds/risks?". In a long term "traditional" committed relationship, I would agree w/ you. However, what is traditional? One may discuss/talk/share, through internet phone systems, volumes more information/emotions in a month, than a "traditional" married couple shares in a year. To love someone takes a lot more senses than just vision. The heart and mind are vastly more important. Therefore the root of the questions. Risk a long distance love affair of real emotions by an occassional encounter where one may be feeling quilty for transmission and the other potentionally for being the receipant. Love may come in many forms---but sex is only one of many manifestations of such.
Rather than criticize "offensive"questions from those who don't have HSV but may have been smitten by one that does, perhaps they should be encouraged to volunteer for the clinical trials under way---such as di5-29 and those of ImmnoVex (and push that pre-clinical ImmunoVex trials also be conducted in the US, instead of just the UK). After all, the best volunteers for such are those that don't yet have the disease. Their efforts may not only lead to a vaccine, but also a permerant suppressive "cure".