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*Being Functional*
by BriannesMom#4, Jul 01, 2008 11:46PM
Hi Ladies I need to know this before I loose My Mind and also I want to see how many of you are doing all the House work, Cooking and arrands....Excuse my spelling its late!
Is it me or am i supposed to do all this? I dont think its right that DH thinks I"m SuperWoman!
But am i not managing things right? I do all the laundry, clean, and take very good care of Brianne but outside of the House i am not doing much its so hot here I could just scream, I"m not used to this weather at all!
Do i sound like i"m making excusses or is this Normal?
Thanks Sandi
Is it me or am i supposed to do all this? I dont think its right that DH thinks I"m SuperWoman!
But am i not managing things right? I do all the laundry, clean, and take very good care of Brianne but outside of the House i am not doing much its so hot here I could just scream, I"m not used to this weather at all!
Do i sound like i"m making excusses or is this Normal?
Thanks Sandi
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If you are referring to outside yard work.. definitely do not think you have to do it! And DH shouldn't ever expect you to do it all!! Scott (my DH) has been working his fanny off and hasn't had time to do any yard work here for a few weeks now due to his father having his cancer removal surgery and working so much and he would never expect me to do it all! If he did.. oh there would be a fit on our hands! My brother in law is having a spat with his wife too at the moment because she isn't "up to par" on the housework (her little one is 6 months) and Scott and I were talking about that and he assured me that he would never say anything to me if the house wasn't clean when he come home or if the dishes weren't done! There has been many times he would come home on the weekend after working all week in Columbus and there were a few dishes in the sink that he would just put them in the dishwasher for me! All this was before I got the Baby Bjorn carrier.. now things are a little easier for me to do!! Thank Goodness!! I did feel bad big time for *slacking* a bit with the housework at times when he is working his fanny off, but hearing him say that all he really cares about is how well I take care of Brayden, that made me feel so much better!
Have you talked to DH about all the responsibility it is to actually take care of a little one like we have? If it becomes a huge problem for him to understand maybe write out a daily schedule that you go by (not that you should ever have to account for all your waking hours.. but sometimes they just don't understand how much time it really does take to take care of our little babies!!)
Good Luck!!
You are managing things just fine!! You should be proud of all that you accomplish in a days time...... and so should he for that matter!!
Our dog passed away so thats been stress, his mom was here and that was stress, his brother is still here and thats stressing me, if i ask him to go to the store he always gets the wrong stuff or forgets things, Hes been here rent free for 3mnths and is leaving July15th but DH is like Sandi you wont have a Maid anymore i just wanted to hit him cause if thats Maid service than i"m A Queen...OMG!
His mom was supposed to help me for a Month and she couldnt even climb our stairs without needing oxeygen? I didnt know she was that sick or I would have wanted her to stay Home, I ended up waiting on her even when i was in Labour she had guests in my Home and she got mad cause i wasnt Socializing with them? wt....
How can you tell i"m Fed Up!
BIL will never get a job we have been over this many times, he started going on my comp to look at Asian girls for 10hrs a day untill i kicked him off and told him all this time on the comp you could have found a job, Well hes leaving cause he wont get a job suits me just fine its like having a 12yr old around in a 47yrold body!
Dh says he works so i need to have dinner for him and my son, And if i dont like it i should get a Job and he will take care of her as long as i can earn what he does!
I do feel like i"m having a nervous breakdown seriously!
Men aint sh*t! Most of the time any damn way! I know exactly how you feel. Patrick is on the road Sun-Thur so I have NO HELP, I feel like a single parent. I have to do everything for the baby and the other kids and it's exhausting! When he comes home blowing b/c he's tired I try not to take away from that but at the same time I'm looking at him like "Negro Please; get your ugly a** away from me" (Sorry ladies that one just slipped out! LOL) He cant possibly imagine how I feel not getting any sleep. If I were you I wouldnt feel bad for anything that doesnt get done during the day. You're only one person and you cant do it all. He needs to remember you didnt just push that baby out; you had to go through 9mnths of a pregnancy and it takes time to get back in the game.
There are some crock pot recipes on the healthy cooking forum or I could pm you a few.
Girl you know how I do! LOL (SMILE)
Around here it is even-steven... even if I tried, I don't think I could do everything on my own, and I really don't see any point in trying to kill myself when there are two able bodied people in this house :) DH is a better cook than me anyway :)
DH has been doing more of the house keeping than me, but I do everything for Jacob. DH also has days off during the week while Jacob is in daycare, and I do not. If it bothered him, I'd say we should hire a house keeper to come and clean for us. I even called a service, but he wasn't crazy about the idea, and I haven't pushed it. I figure it won't be too long before Jacob is a little more independent, and I have a little more freedom.
The cooking now DH is saying dont worry about it? God Men just cant make up their minds.
Crock pots a great idea but fussy eaters here only like certain things, I can pretty much eat anything.
Its the Banking, Dry cleaners, Post Office, Grocery shopping and keeping the House clean!
So now its narrowed down to that? LOL.
To me thats alot dont you agree?
Thanks Sandi
when your inlaws finally leave it will all be better. you will have your house back and will be able to bond with her the right way. lol... mine FINALLY left last week and its been stress free snice. YAY
Seriously think about that. That would be one less thing to stress about and you'd be amazed how much easier the other stuff would be to handle. I hired one during my pregnancy and it was amazing at how nice it was not to worry about the house (I too have a large older home) plus it was nice to just come home and see everything clean.
With all that you have to do, think seriously about what I said - I know you're counting the days until BIL leaves town. Hang in there and also thanks for the b-day message - you're very sweet! - jen
Tennesee i guess your right! Its just so dissapointing thats all some peoples kids never grow up i guess Holly.
Everyone yes dinner wouldnt be a problem if i wasnt seeing a Grown Man watching everything i do so i have been up in my room hes a Flippin Sppok! Bye Bye thats all i have to say I cant stand free loaders! A visit turned into 3mnths...Long Story.
Its hard cause my Parents are both gone and DHs mom should be she ***** for everything she did..
He is in my living room right now farting i want so bad to talk to him and put closier in my mind Should I or just let it go?
Parden my spelling.
Sandi