Need URGENT Advice for ovulation after miscarriage

[baba578]

hi everyone.  I was overjoyed to find out that i was pregnant two weeks ago.  But last week (thursday - 3rd july) i had a bit of spotting.  This went on to full red bleeding for friday and saturday and today (sunday) the bleeding has slown to almost nothing.  Also today we went for a full scan which found that there was nothing left inside the cervix.  Doctors have said that most likely i have had a miscarriage and that i've lost the baby through the heavy bleeding.  The doctors have said that I won't need a D&C though.

I would have been 6 weeks pg tomorrow (monday) and going through this first miscarriage loss has really put me down because i was looking forward to this baby but the mc was very early that i think this is the reason it has made it easy for me to keep looking forward and not to dwell on what was not meant to happen.  I have heard that after a miscarriage, a woman is more fertile and the chances of getting pregnant are higher.  Therefore i want to take my chances and have another go for my ovulation.

Now i want to know a few things regarding ovulation after miscarriage and would be very grateful if anyone can guide me.  

First of all let me give you some info:- my last period was on may 26th and if i wasn't pregnant then my last period would have been on june 23rd and my next period would be 21st july.  My cycle is always 28 days, give or take day.  My ovulation is also always 14 days from the first day of my cycle.

Now my questions are:-

1.  Just like a period 1st day is classed from the start of full-flow bleeding, which day do i class a miscarriage from?
2.  Is having a miscarriage classed as having a period?
3.  From the info i have given you, what is the most likely day/date i will ovulate?

Sorry for such a long post, but i would be very grateful if someone could help me ASAP.

thank you

xx

[Diane1003]

I'm sorry for your loss.  Unfortunatley after a m/c it's difficult to predict when you'll ovulate.  Your body has to get the pregnancy hormone back to zero.  They way it increases - doubles every 48 hrs or so (HCG) is the same way it goes down - by half every two days or so.  This cycle for you is going to be longer than your other cycles by nature of you having the miscarriage and your hormones needing to settle down.  I had two m/c's back to back - both early term (about 5 weeks - I went through fertility testing and found a blood issue for which I take baby aspirin. I now have a 12 day old son!).  

Have you been charting your temps at all?  that might be a good way to predict or know when you're ovulating.  Best of luck!  

[baba578]

hiya.  Thank You for your prompt reply.  Yes I have been charting for a while now and i ovulate 14 days from the 1st day of my period.  But when do i count it as my 1st day? from my period which was due or the first day of my miscarriage?

[sadiesmommy]

I agree with Diane, it can be very difficult to know when your cycle will resume its normal course. I will tell you this though my cycles returned to normal almost immediately following a natural m/c (no d&c). When I did have a d&c a couple of months before I had to have the d&c and it took six weeks for my period to show up I was so convinced I was pregnant again and was very sad when AF reared her ugly head. Anyways so having had a natural m/c I think you can expect things to get back to normal relatively quickly and if they don't the good news is that i have heard women are more fertile for up to 3 cycles after a miscarriage!! Good luck to you.

[KellyA74]

The other girls are right......it sometimes takes several months for your body to readjust itself after a loss.....The only thing that I can suggest is perhaps trying to use OPT's until you get a +.  Some people claim not to have luck with them, I always have.  Just a suggestion.
Also, I'm very sorry for your loss.

[ernie13]

i just had a miscarriage a lot like yours on june 27th. for me, the spotting started 3 days after my normal period should have started and ended about the same length of a period. i am kind of counting my miscarriage as a period, since it was so close to the normal day. i was supposed to start june 22nd, got BFP june 23rd and started spotting june 25th and miscarried the tissue the 27th. i stopped bleeding a couple days later. it's hard to tell when you will be back to normal, but for me, my body seems to be normal already. i think i am going to prob ovulate again on time. i would suggest buying some OPK's and start peeing on them every day until you ovulate...that's what I am doing. you could O early or late or even on time...if you want to make sure, just start BDing now to be safe and you will prob catch it! i asked how many people on here got BFP's the month after an early miscarriage and many, many did....so good luck to both of us this month!! hang in there...i know its stinks. i wanted my baby so bad too, but i keep telling myself something wasn't right and maybe this time will be better!

[baba578]

Many many thanks for your replies girls.  I feel a lot better knowing that i'm not alone feeling like this.  My question is that if the Ovulation is not predictable, then surely it can't be just a week after the m/c? surely it would be approx 2 weeks from m/c?

Lastly you girls recommend i start BDing straight away..if i still have very minor spotting today, then how many days after the the spotting do u recommend i should start BDing?  

thanks

[sweetangel7]

Whenever you feel ready to bd you should...just keep in mind that a mc can really change things with your cycle and your body.  I had a mc in December and I bled and spotted for like two weeks...Then I went 44 days without a period and like you I had always been a 28 day cycle girl with ovulation on day 14...Then I had like a 35 day cycle, then it went to 28 day cycles AND now I am on a 30 day cycle with no period and no positive pregnancy test!  Good luck!

[baba578]

sweetangel17.....Could you tell me how meny months were you when you had your mc and did you have to have a d&c after,
the reason i ask is that i have noticed that the ladies that have the d&c prosiger done their cycles mess up, im not saying that this is the case in all ladies but in the mojorety i recon.
my bleeding has almost stopped now,if this was my normal pariod then i would have bled just the same as now and i feel that my body has gone back to normal, i am only spotting now as though i have just finished my af.
and i think your right you should only bd or do anything els if you feel you can.
i also like the advice you gave for ovulation,i wish you all the best and good luck on ttc.

[sweetangel7]

I was 11 weeks when I had my mc and I had misoprostol inserted vaginally to dilate me and then induce contractions to expel the tissue, etc.  This essentially was like labor for 14 hours but at least I didn't have to have a surgery where they put you under anesthesia...my obgyn doesn't favor d&c, he favors the aforementioned method because it is 'more natural and non-invasive'.  Thanks for the luck and I'm sending some to you too!

[Mumita]

I had a natural m/c on june 15th, I went to ER btu they didn't do anything for me so I basically expelled everything on my own.  I bled for 7 days and that's it.  I ovulated on July 2nd, so basically my body went back to a normal cycle after the m/c.  I'm counting the first day of m/c as first day of af since my body has worked excatly like it.
I feel that my body is being too normal since I usually have something but I feel great.
So I'm expecting af on 7/15 maybe hopefully I'll miss it and have a BFP!  
My best friend is an MD and she said that natural m/c's are counted more like af and that D&C's have more of a potential to cause damage and that's why your cycles are messed up afterwards because your body doesn't prepare for it and expell it when its ready.
She didn't say tho that women are more fertile after a m/c she said you are just as fertile as before m/c :(  I was kinda hoping I was more fertile.

[ernie13]

i read you can have sex 2-3 days after the bleeding stops, but if you feel up to it, I would go for it. i just used OPK's and didn't have sex for a few days to make sure my cervix was closed..i didnt want an infection! i really think they might be the best way to predict what may happen. everything i've read on the internet said you "can" O as early as 14 days after miscarriage, but that doesn't mean you can't earlier in my mind. anything can happen at this point...good luck!

[northrncwgrl]

Yes, it all depends how your body reacts to your M/C. I've also heard a woman is more fertile after a M/C. I had one as well that started on June 24, and lasted a week. I was about as far along as you were, and also didn't need a D&C. I've been told to start counting from the day your M/C started, as your normal timing for your period starts over. I know you can start O around 14 days after, but it also can takes a few months to get on track, as the other ladies have said. But I'm at day 13 and I started O yesterday. So you never know! Good luck!

[baba578]

well thanks for all your replies girls. Ii felt very isolated when my m/c happened, but since i've read your accounts, i know that i'm not on my own.

Since m/c messes up some women's cycles, me and DH have had intercourse today.  I know its early, but we don't want to risk missing the O, incase it came too early.  Also just to let you know, my bleeding has stopped today..i don't even have spotting.

[baba578]

just to up-date you all, i have noticed since yesterday evening that i am still spotting. It is day 5 today so i assume this is normal as many of you have said bleeding/spotting continues for between 6-8 days after the first day of full flow of bleeding just as like an AF, it is water like blood, in very small amounts like the end of my AF.  I also did a pregnancy test in the morning today and it still shows positive.