Banned from SEX!!! Dr's orders!! UGH!

[agomez333]

Ok I just have to vent... I have been on Dr's orders for the last 4 weeks  NO SEX! I am not happy. My husband is not happy... Don't get me wrong, we are willing to do whatever it takes to keep this pregnancy healthy, but the tension around here is really getting to me. We seem to be fighting more often and I am definately more crabby than usual... I know that there are other things we can do but we don't want to be tempted to have it lead further... Sometimes in the heat of the moment... you know it's hard to control yourself... I know TMI!! But we have 4 kids so reallt this is our only time alone together! I just need to vent because I am definately frustrated... My dh thinks I am being a B**** because of pregnancy hormones but I know better!!
Has anyone else been restricted?? Any  suggestions on what to do to help with the tension between us lately??

[johannaviles]

Why did he tell you that?  Do you  have a high risk pregnancy?

[agomez333]

I had placenta previa and m/c last pregnancy and there is a spot he is concerned about on my ultrasound this time... He thinks it is just where the placenta is forming and embedding, but he is being very cautious... I am also not allowed to work and have to be taking it easy... So I have no escape! : [  

[Mumita]

You know what, I think that you should at least get some action even if its oral or something, you guys need some relief! I'd say if you're feelign ok then go for it just don't let it go too wild or lead to intercourse!  But maybe the sex is not what's making you cranky.

[LauraB78]

I don't know if this will help or not, but the frsutration S U C K S!! I understand b/c I found out I was pregnant a month after my b/f and I broke up.. I haven't had sex in over 3 months.. It can make you cranky!!  I say be happy you have someone to do SOMETHING with!! =)

It wil be a LONG time until I see any action! =)

[sweetangel7]

I agree that you should do something and if you are doing it well, then perhaps there won't be any temptation to have intercourse...if you get what I'm saying...I was on medication recently that would have caused a birth defect if we conceived while I was on it so we had to abstain from intercourse however, we were still intimate and enjoyed each other...I think it isn't just the physical thing that you and dh need, but being intimate releases hormones and helps with bonding so its important that you and dh are 'together'.  Good luck!

[Latrice414]

That s-ucks big time, and here i am complaining i dont want get preggo before my first cycle and was avoiding s-ex with my fiance up until yesterday we tried condoms and that s-ucked even worse, we havent tried since then but i have given him pleasures other ways.

I read that orgasims dont affect pregnancies, my question is, when women get clit-oral stimulation, its so intense, all those contraction like feelings, in a good way, i always wondered if that affects the uterine linning. Boy does my mind wonder a lot.

agomez ask you dr if it is ok for oral, or mayb anal ( i cant believe i typed that, sorry if that is tmi)  Or go out and buy some toys to please him(i mean like the little hand held vagina's that feel real, or the mouths) and you just have to take it a little easy and make sure you keep that baby inside.

Well i hope thats some type of advice, heck i need advice for my own situation, mayb i will try to have intercourse today, hummm, i dont no.

[aabarnett]

Sex????  What is that????  No don't feel bad.  I was told no sex it seems like forever ago.  It is very frustrating and we also seem to be edgy with each other but I try to remember that it is for a good cause.  I am 25 weeks and haven't had sex since the sixth week of pregnancy.  Just be glad they haven't said no sexual activity at all.  We've been on that lovely restriction for the last 4 weeks because I've got a whole slew of problems and am already having some contractions and apparently when you orgasm your muscles contract and sometimes that can trigger contractions to start up.  So, go play!!!  Enjoy it.  It has actually been (although frustrating to no end) kinda fun necking with my husband and fooling around.  Hey there might be a plus side...  I don't know about you but I've been with my husband for 10 yrs (high school sweethearts) and after a while, he tends to slack off in the foreplay department...  use this time to retrain :) him to go back to the time where he had to work to get in your pants.  Hey, my husband at least doesn't really have to work for it anymore.  Really it's good for them... Builds character :) LOL

[Avanaar]

I agree with some of the other ladies that you should still try to be intimate, but make it clear that it can't go any further.  There are plenty of things you and hubby can still do to please each other.  Have you been given Dr's Orders not to orgasm or just not have vaginal penetration?  Because if you can still orgasm, try clitoral stimulation (oral, hands, electronic devices =D)  ...and for him, there's always oral sex.  =D  

I hope you both can get some alone time with each other and have a little fun.  =D  Hey, maybe this is a chance to find some new techniques that you'll both love!!  Good luck!!

[Asking4aMiracle]

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN AND I AM IN THAT BOAT WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! May 26th was the last time we did it and im going insane....you know how usually its the man that is thinking about it all the time, well in our house its the opposite, TMI i have to get myself off at least once a day...sorry...and since the transfer NOTHING at ALL GGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRR..........i have helped him a few times which makes me misserable because i walk away throbbing down there and that ***** so i keep telling him No i cant help you anymore its not fair....AND i keep having very descriptive sexual dreams and waking up wanting to hop on but CANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my RE doesnt want me to do anything until after 12 weeks, just precautions, they make everyone in the office keep away from it. i also lost a twin early on in this pregnancy so i think its best as well but man its fun!!! i must admit though, the tension is not bad in the house, i guess just because we cant believe that were finally going to be parents and this is my first pregnancy so......anyway, i have been waiting to vent on that subject for a while.......

[Asking4aMiracle]

haha.....NOT fun...misspell....i forgot to add, the make out sessions that disspear the rest of the time are pretty nice.....but i need to orgasim

[gokuangel]

I dont have kids or am currently prego but i know how it can make u crabby!! Me and my DH will do that things will keep getting heated between us and we ll be fighting alot and im totally irritated then when we stop and think we re like WOW ok thats why we havent done it lately i know 3 days dont seem like long but its enough to make us super grouchy!! I would do what the girls said ask ur dr exactly what the limitations are and go from there cus yes u do need relief!!

[agomez333]

My limitations are nothing in the vagina. I have done oral fr him a few times but that doesn't help me. He can't do oral on me cause I am on progesterone cream and its kinda gross... I am so thankful to hear all your suggestions and that I'm not the only one... I definately got a great laugh out of some of the things said... I think we really need a date night and sme intimacy... I will put out some candles and some massage oil this weekend I think and make sure the kids have a sitter so we can have a date night... You guys are great thank you!!!