very sad and confused

[temer]

my best friends little brother just killed himself and i am really upset. why do little kids do that how can a 13 yearold think about suicide where does he get the idea to hang himself it was so selfish this was not something i wanted to deel with this summer. plus i went to his funneral and a bunch of kids were there that did not even like him please help!!!!!!!!!

[jml1986]

First let me say, noone knows what is going through another persons head at any age, so knowing what made him do it will most likely forever remain in the grave with him. He must have had some issues that he felt the only way to be free of them is to die.

Second, I know what you are saying about the kids that show up to the funeral acting like they were his best friend. Had they been his best friend, he may have not been in such a dark spot mentally. My therory on that is that they use the death of their classmate as there 15 minutes of mortality fame. It *****, when you are truely a friend to the person who passed or a closs family friend. As irritating as it is, just blow it off. At that age they will forget he died as fast as they decided he was their best buddy. It is sad, but it is reality.

[bea964]

Your friend's little brother was in such a state of despair he just wanted to end it and saw suicide as a way out of that pain.  No one knows why an adolescent, a teen, a young adult or any other person end his/her life... It is unfortunate that this child didn't confide in an adult that could have helped him... He was probably depressed or suffering from some type of mental illness that didn't let him see things as a "normal"  person would... It is tragic...
As far as the other kids that were not his friends and went to the funeral home, that is a normal response for teens... They might not have thought of him as a friend, but no one wants a person to end his/her life and the reality of the situation softens the individuals toward the deceased...It might a way of say, "I'm sorry I was not your friend, but I am here to say good-bye."  You have the maturity to understand and accept others as they are...
You and they have been made to feel something nobody should have to feel. You are too young to be exposed to this kind of pain... It is not fair that young people are forced to learn these things...
Warm hugs to you and to the friend who lost his/her brother.
I would like to hear how you are doing with your grieving...
Bea