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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
Problems with son and stepfather
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Problems with son and stepfather
by Niki918, Jul 11, 2008 01:38PM
My husband and married when my son was 10 years old. Over the years my husband has developed no emotional attachment to my son. His only interaction is to discipline for things he doesn't do. My son is now 18 and beginning to outwardly show his distain for his stepfather. I have asked my husband on several occasions to sit down with my son and listen to his feelings and try to work on building a relationship. My husband sees nothing wrong with the situaion. I am completely frustrated!!! Even though my son is leaving for college soon, I want the two of them to get along and like one another....Help I need some tips on how to deal with this situation.
My husband refuses to go to counseling as well.
My husband refuses to go to counseling as well.
Member Comments (1)
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Jul 11, 2008 02:31PM
, Jul 11, 2008 02:31PM
I wish I could reassure you, but it's time that you accepted the situation. At his age, your son is not going to be reaching out to his stepfather at this point. Neither he nor his stepfather appear to be interested in altering the status quo, and you can't make that happen. It's not unusual for children to not warm up to a stepfaher or stepmother. When you think of it, it's a lot to expect, particulalrly when your husband has acted the way he has. Would you warm up to a parent who has adopted the role your husband has adopted with your son? It really is no wonder your son has not welcomed his stepfather into his life. The family is reaping what your husband has sown, so to speak. It is a sad situation, but I understand why your son has taken the stance that he has.
