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Here I go again!!!!!!..oh no.....
by HockeyShark, Jul 15, 2008 04:24AM
As i approach the one year mark of my mothers very sudden and traumatic passing on July 23rd, My Aunt has passed away suddenly.
Last year while i was crushed at the very sudden and unexpected loss of my mom (while we were camping in Yosemite where she worked) my aunt was of great support to me. My Aunt was her sister, and although I she also was suffering at the loss of my mom, she was there for me to get me to my appointments, and to talk. We would talk at least once a weekwith my last talking with her a week ago Monday.
last week on Saturday she did not show up to take her friend to church, as she had every Saturday for the last several years withut fail. Concerned, her friend called the Police who went to her house. After looking around and seeing the mail and papers stacking up, they went in through the front door and found her dead. She was in her bed, and had been gone since late Wednesday they had figured.
I am VERY angry as ther were some warning signs no one paid attention to. Early Wednesday morning, 3 a.m. She called her friend quite disoriented, asking her if shewas ready to go to church. Leena, her friend told her it was Wednesday and it was 3a.m. Leena figured my aunt had a dream or something and didnt think of her odd behavior.
Later that morning she was seen by a tennant at a dulex she owned where i used to live till just a few months ago. She pulled in the driveway about 9:30 a.m. almost hitting the side of the garage, VERY disoriented and unable but attempting to speak. she stummbled over to what used to be my back porch, laid down and went to sleep. This was all wittnessed by her tennant. Who went over, woke her, and my aunt then able to talk, said was not feeling well, and drove home. The tennant never stopped her. Never called 911. nothing.
It was obvious she was havig a stroke and had i still lived there she would have been taken to the hospital right away.
From what we know now, she went home and died sometime that day or evening.
I am sick. I am depressed. I feel lost.
Again.
Last year while i was crushed at the very sudden and unexpected loss of my mom (while we were camping in Yosemite where she worked) my aunt was of great support to me. My Aunt was her sister, and although I she also was suffering at the loss of my mom, she was there for me to get me to my appointments, and to talk. We would talk at least once a weekwith my last talking with her a week ago Monday.
last week on Saturday she did not show up to take her friend to church, as she had every Saturday for the last several years withut fail. Concerned, her friend called the Police who went to her house. After looking around and seeing the mail and papers stacking up, they went in through the front door and found her dead. She was in her bed, and had been gone since late Wednesday they had figured.
I am VERY angry as ther were some warning signs no one paid attention to. Early Wednesday morning, 3 a.m. She called her friend quite disoriented, asking her if shewas ready to go to church. Leena, her friend told her it was Wednesday and it was 3a.m. Leena figured my aunt had a dream or something and didnt think of her odd behavior.
Later that morning she was seen by a tennant at a dulex she owned where i used to live till just a few months ago. She pulled in the driveway about 9:30 a.m. almost hitting the side of the garage, VERY disoriented and unable but attempting to speak. she stummbled over to what used to be my back porch, laid down and went to sleep. This was all wittnessed by her tennant. Who went over, woke her, and my aunt then able to talk, said was not feeling well, and drove home. The tennant never stopped her. Never called 911. nothing.
It was obvious she was havig a stroke and had i still lived there she would have been taken to the hospital right away.
From what we know now, she went home and died sometime that day or evening.
I am sick. I am depressed. I feel lost.
Again.
Member Comments (2)
by margypops, Jul 27, 2008 05:18PM
To: Hockeyshark
I am so sorry it hurts doesnt it,and the Loss of your Mom was hard for you also, try to endure the pain it will ease abit at some point ,we feel helpless when these things happen,People dont always act the way they should do they, they kind of dont think it through ,so you are feeling upset alsothat it could have been differant, and the thoughts of her alone, Let the thoughts come and work it through its good to Talk come here and speak it out ,the people here have been and are going through similar Grief.
by HockeyShark, Aug 01, 2008 02:02AM
Thank you for your Kind Support
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