I think I need Help

[PoppinCL]

I am 16 yrs old and have over the last 6-12months have had major changes for the worse in my life. I have now been living with my mother since Feb. and think that I am experiencing depression. The most important person to me in my life was taken from me and I am no longer aloud any contact with her. I can hardly eat or drink anything. I am now an ex-smoker (MJ), which was the one thing that actually worked as an appetite booster. Being that it is illegal i had to quit... I dont regularly hang out with people, but still talk to people regularly. So does that mean Im not depressed? My life is kinda messed up and drama seems to keep on coming no matter how hard i try to avoid it. All my family has suffered from depression, due to a bad father... I would like to eat or drink more than 1 small meal every 3 days. Can anyone help?

[LLFgirl]

Hi,

I would suggest that you talk to someone you trust about how you feel. Sometimes when a person experiences something tramatic like losing someone it can be very difficult to get from day to day. Talking about how you feel to a trusted person would be a good idea.
Regards,
LLF

[Cindee56]

Hi, why can't you eat? You just have no appetite?  I thought smoking was supposed to suppress the appetite.  If it's from the depression, then if you can't eat why don't you try some of the meal replacement drinks, like Boost or Ensure.  They will at least add some calories and nutrients.

Why can't you contact the girl (I'm assuming) you like?  Is your mom stopping you?  I'm very sorry.  I know it's hard to lose someone this way.  It would be good if you could make a friend to talk to.  Can you talk to a social worker or even a clergyman?  A teacher?  Everyone needs to confide in someone.  

In the meantime, keep coming on MedHelp.  You will find there are really nice people here who care and know what you are going through.  Read through some of the posts, you are not alone.

[idesofmarch]

I agree with the previous posters.  Talk it out, journal your feelings, use art or music to get it all out.  Don't keep to yourself or it will get worse for you. Was your friend a bad influence on you, is that why you can't see her?  Years from now you may understand how parents think and why they do what they do.  Your Mom loves you and wants to protect you for one thing.  But parents are just human like everyone else and have to learn by doing then undoing then fixing and it goes on and on.  You can see that I am sure.  It is the same for babies to adults.  That is how we learn.  Do you think that your Mom is too protective? If so talk with her about your concerns.  If it gets heated or too loud, you need to call and take a time out, both of you.  You can hear something if their is screaming involved.  If you feel you can't talk to someone, write a heartfelt, decent letter and slip it under their bedroom door.  Give them a chace to read it, think on it, review options; it may take a few days so just chill out in the mean time.  That's how I raised my boys (most of the time) and it can work well.  Stay in touch, you can vent here. Sharon-once a Mom always a MOM.

[therese83]

Do you go to school?  could you talk to the counsellor there.

If not find someone to talk to.  You might need some professional help.  Eating so little is not good.

[bell24]

poppin, can i just say your mother is only looking after you ,it would be worse if she didnt care so dont hold to much against her ,you are only 16 years old your still her baby weather you like or not and thats the way she is thinking as your mother,you are still developing into a young lady, you know body changes and all that ,is your mother an easy person to talk to, like can you talk to her and not be rowing and stuff ,i do agree you need to talk to someone ,why wont she let you be with your friend ,does she think she is a bad influence on you ,you never said ,at least you came here to us and thats a start ,we will be here for you hun,i am here because my two children took there lifes my daughter was only 17 years old and the hurt never stops ,and it hurts even to think she never told us how she was feeling  till it was to late ,so if your starting and i dont really know depression please talk to someone if not your mom,you can talk to me anytime god bless and take care bell