Need More Advice, Ladies!

[tyjaksmom]

I am about to give birth at any moment- my fiance of over a year has completely stopped caring about anything to do with this baby. This has been going on since I went into labor the first time 9 weeks ago. Before that, he was an amazing man. He was with me every second he could, but now, he would rather hang out with his buddies or sleep all day. He seems to want nothing to do with me anymore.

-Is it that maybe I've gotten too unattractive to him since I have gained 54 pounds with this baby. He makes me feel like someone else is getting my time, and making me think he's not going to be a good dad. I don't know what to do...

I need some advice*
Thanks,
-Stephanie.

[Kim1989]

I dont kno you and i dont know much to say but HANG IN THERE!

[Kim1989]

i dont think hes stopped caring. maybe hes getting a little scarred. its a big thing thats gonna happen

[Michele, Katy, TX]

Yikes!  I wish I had some advice on this one, but the only thing I can suggest is that you try to talk to him???  Have you done that yet??  I would explain to him that the sand is almost through the hour glass, so to speak, and that when the baby gets here, it will be harder for the 2 of you to spend time together.  He may completely turn around when he sees the baby.  If not, I would think long and hard about whether I want to marry someone like that.

I  just don't feel like I am giving you very good advice, but this is a tough one.  To have him just lose interest in things overnight......I'm just not sure where that could be coming from.  Maybe he's nervous about being a dad.  The reality of it may be just now hitting him since the time is so close........

[JoyRenee]

I think he's getting scared and this is a big, huge step. He knows once that baby comes his "freedom" is going to be a short leash. Give him time!!! Let him know that you need him.

[tyjaksmom]

Thanks, guys!
Any advice is good advice to me.
I've talked to him, but maybe you guys are right... he is only 21, and maybe he feels like his free life is over... I guess I was over analyzing it too much*

I just worry alot about the welfare of my children... they are all I have*

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I'm sure he is just scared.  

Best of luck with your delivery and give us an update as soon as you can once the baby is born :)