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Need help please...
by MMomma, Jul 18, 2008 10:55PM
I haven't had a attack like this in a long time..I can't stop crying.i can;t breath...And I just sent the only person i want in my life 800 dollars and now he won't talk to me.,Nobody understands what true love is any more,it hardly exsist..I just don't understand how somebody that u love that much can hurt u so bad without feeling one ounce of guilt..I just don't understand what i ever did so wrong...I've been used twice now..all i ever wanted was him..i guess i'll never get to be happy
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Take some calming breaths and talk to me.
Sometimes we can be cruel also. But as I tell my daughter now. There is happiness in your future. Pain goes away in time and love always returns. It always has with me.
You are going to have a wonderful life. Just wait and see
So basically, there are good guys out there! :) But they are hard to find because most of the time they are rushing to work for 9am, and then rushing home at 5pm, and very rarely are they hanging around in the park or in clubs or whatever, posing and picking up girls. But they exist! And you can find them, but you need to be prepared to ditch the bad guys and do yourself a favour and treat yourself to the good guys.
As for your baby situation. There are about a billion single moms now days. All you need to do is ask, and people will help. It's probably not easy, but you can do it! In fact, you know that handsome good guy I was talking about? He was raised by a single mom :) She is so cool. It's better to be raised by a good single mom, than a pair of parents who aren't good. Also this guy of yours, whether you are together or not together, or whether he is being nice or a nasty, no matter what.. he has to pay for his kid! There is no sneaking away from that. He has to do that now and the law will back you up. If he asks you for any more money, tell him where to get lost and get real and he should be giving YOU money to make yourself happy and comfortable. Because that's how you need to be.
Also, I don't know if you have any family or not, but it's very rare that someone is ever all completely alone. There is usually someone who will step up and help. A parent, a grandparent, an uncle, a cousin, a friend, etc. There are lots of good people out there who will help. And even if you don't have a relative or friend, there are places you can go to get all kinds of support these days.
The important thing is that you don't freak out, and you try to stop being upset. No man is that important to make you make you really upset. I think it might be a good idea for you to start being a little selfish now. You need to look after you, and that will help keep your little one good too.
I know in the begining it was a lye but he promised everything was good now,, he called infront of her and everything..told me he loved me..I just don't get it...why some ppl ahve to do that..its just not fair..
I was 15 and alone when I had my first child and it completely turned everything around. Having my son gave me a reason not to go in the bad direction I was gravitating towards. There is no love like the love a mother has for her child. It more than makes up for the behavior of the loser you were in love with. Sorry for saying what I believe, maybe he's a really nice guy and maybe I'm the Queen of England. You don't need him. He'll only bring you down. A relationship built on lies and deception will only result in misery. I've been there.
When your baby is born and you see that perfect little person you will be part of the parents-for-good club. I hope you post some pictures of him/her.
and worrying about him will make your anxiety so much worse x
Kick the man to the curb and focus on yourself and your children. Make yourself happy and them happy. Do you go to school? Do you have a job? Start working on establishing a career for yourself that you love. You love your children, now you have to love you without a man. Become an independent woman. This way, when you do meet a man in the future it won't be because you are needy...it will be because you enjoy each other. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is sure of herself and who loves herself. You are way to young to get into "relationships". They very rarely work in this day and age. If you like, date many fellas and enjoy their company (date...no sex) and find what you like and don't like about a man. So then, when you are older you will know exactly what you want in your life. YOU DESERVE IT and so do you children. This is just my two cents.
If you believe in God draw closer to Him. Find a relationship with Him. He is waiting for you. Get yourself in a good faith based church and you are bound to find a man that will truly love you.