Really mad

[girl0319]

Okay well for a minute my babys father and I had everything straightend out and everything was going great. Well today he calls and tells me that one of my "friends" told hem that the whole time we've been together Ive been cheating on him and that Im nasty. Okay for one all my "friends" deserted me after I had gotten preg. so I cant think of who this could be and for two I have NEVER cheated on him and he's the ONLY guy Ive ever been with so how could I be nasty. So know he really doesnt want anything to do with me or my daughter and will not listen to word I have to say. Honestly I dont know what to do. I know I have to suck up my feelings because of my daughter but I cant help but to be sad... I mean I love this boy so much. We've been together for so long for him to just blow everything on something thats completly untrue and to believe some girl over me just isnt right. Part of me thinks he is just making it up because he doesnt want to be with me because I know I did nothing wrong during the years we've been together. ANd I asked him to let both of us talk to this girl face to face and get this straightened out and he says no. So now Im stuck. Im about to start school and my daughter will be going to the nursery right across the street and we have NO ride home because he was going to pick us up and now Im here with no car no job and no money. Everythings so messed up.

[teko]

The first thing you need to do is lose the guy! If there is not trust between you then it will not work long term anyway and I agree when you say it sounds like he may be making things up to get out of the relationship. You are way too young to be worrying about long term relationships anyway. As far as your child goes, make daddy accountable for helping in the support of her no matter what else. If your biggest concern is not having a ride to school, this is definately not the relationship for you.

Secondly, you need to go to school and strive to make yourself able to take care of yourself and your daughter. You cannot depend on someone else to do it. That is a thing of the past. Relationships nowadays mean both parties being 50-50 and you should be able to carry your end of the responsibilities that come with long term relationships and you are not there yet. You will need to be able to pay for things like nursery for your child, medical care for both of you, a car and the gas that goes in it, as well as get a career moreso than just a job. School is your first step at achieving these things. These should be your short term goals and you should have fun during your school years. Put long term serious relationships on the backburner for now as they will only interfere with meeting your goals. First things first. Good Luck! You CAN do it.

[Kim1989]

why cant your own family members pick you up or something

forget about him. you dont need him. your daughter might "need" him but thats her not you. so what people lie. he clearly wants to be a boy and not do anything and not have to take responsibilities. dont bother with him unless its about your daughter

[RockRose]

I don't think any of your friends told him anything.  He doesn't want to be a father.  I think all of us reading your story get that 100%.  He's out of here,  he doesn't want to take care of you and your daughter.