dont know what to do?

[mowy]

since we get engaged her opinion should be confirm, am an excellent negotiator but when it comes to my wife she always wins!!!
the main problem is when she got mad, she say lot of disappointing issues like my life is disaster because of you, i wish i never marry you, you are so mean,,, etc or i think that when she got nothing to say she tells me that she`s not comfort and when i ask why she says i don't know, i just feel that!!!!
if we were talking on the phone and she get mad of something she hangup!!! which drive me crazy.
if i had an opinion like she was planning travel, i tried to convince her to do so but she wont listen, but when i talked to her sister she convinced her so easy... why she don't listen to me from the first place??
the other day she told me ( i dont know what my life would be if we did not get married or if she got married to a different person or did not married at all?? ) she was OK before that, it happened suddenly, i told her why you  think this way, she say nothing am just thinking, so i told her what do you think? she say i don't know but one thing for sure that my life will be different, i told her i also think so but no matter this life would be am much happier with the life you gave me,, she just closed her mouth and when we talked about that next day she say ( don`t make me feel sorry for sharing you my feelings and what am thinking of)
one more thing, she create any excuses to avoid making love with me...

please tell me what to do, am desperate and i don't wanna make any dissensions to fell sorry about

[jo929]

Sonds like this is not true love let this one go, find one you can get along with.
                                                                                         luck  jo

[RockRose]

She seems really mean and nasty,  mowy.  Do you have kids?  I think you should think long and hard before you create any - she seems to be treating you cruely on purpose.

[treazzure007]

that woman needs to grow up.  whether it's stress, hurt, anger, tiredness, or a headache, this behavior is both unacceptable and unbecoming for a wife, much less a lady.  she needs counseling and reading to learn how to speak and treat people and deal with her tantrums

[mowy]

thank u all for ur attention...
i cant let her go,,,,
i thought about that so many times, but i believe me i cant imagine my self divorced, i need to know how should i treat her?
should i do the same???? or what to do?  

[jo929]

It sounds like you are lacking when it comes to standing up for yourself, so if you dont stand up for your self WHO WILL, also you seem to be lacking in self esteem, you need to find a class or read some books on self esteem.you say you cant let her go, then put up with it, but she will leave one of these days anyway, as she will probably will get tired of walking on you, and will try for someone else, and they  will put  up with her big mouth for about 10 min before they are gone  luck  jo

[mowy]

let me put it this way, am sure that theres other options befor getting to divorce, like:
1. treat her the way she do 2 me, she will feel exactly what am feeling
2. stand up for my self when she over step red line by words (all ready started yesterday)by verbal warning, but should i get mad and yell or take gently and letting her know that am mad?
3.ignore her, as if she said nothing
4. get mad and lose temper and not talk to her for couple of days.
what do u think???

[teko]

Are you two in a competition or a marriage? A marriage is where both people meet in the middle and discuss their differances. A competition is when someone always has to do or say something to get the upper hand. I would think not reacting to her would be the calmer, and safets way to handle things and then when tempers have cooled, come back at a later time to talk. Invoking her anger will do nothing except lead to the same thing you are currently dealing with. A marriage counselor needs to be contacted to teach you both how to communicate and if that is unsuccessful, it may be in both your interest to go your own ways. If she gets a reaction from you, she has won! Be the adult and do not play the game.

[jo929]

I really do not think any of these answers are getting through to you you have your mind made up so i will say good luck and god bless  jo

[jo929]

I looked at your profile, and if i am not mistaken there was a man from the place you are and his name was prince,and he had woman problem, sounds a little like you, but what i really wanted to say you may post this in relationships and get more responses also from the males  luck  jo

[mowy]

actually am not prince, am the king...
but day before yesterday something happened, and i really put it up with her telling her NEVER SAY THAT AGAIN, she said OK, i say NO I MEAN IT,NEVER SAY THAT AGAIN,DO U UNDERSTAND??and i was talking calm but serious , i didn't lose my temper, she said OK i wont,,,,then we hang up.
next day i didn't  called her and she did at night,like nothing happened.
any way thank you all 4 advice,

[mowy]

really i think that's exactly what i want,
sometimes i did that before and it works, but i cant keep it inside all the time so i need to work on how to control my temper for a while...
thanx