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[dizam]

when me me n my girl first started talking and she told me about her past and i told her about mine. she lied to me about several things. first she mention that she and this guy liked each other and that this fling lasted for 2 weeks when she was young.

second there was this guy that liked her at our school. i asked if anything ever went on and she said no. 2 months later i found out she actually had a fling with this guy 2 weeks prior to meeting me and she was hiding it from me because she "didnt want to lose me".

she was also talking to one of her ex's at the time and i told her not to. i later found out she was talking to him anyways behind my back for several months even when she swore to god she wouldnt. this happened about 6 months ago. this also happened twice.

and now just recently i found out her first "fling" actually was her first boyfriend and she was lying to me about it. she claims to have said that he was her boyfriend but i know for a fact she didnt. now i gave her about 3 chances with all this lying. i know shes lying about telling me that she said that that guy was her boyfriend and not a fling.

what should i do? ive had enough of this lying. should i give her another chance? regardless of what happens, im not going to let up very easy. im going to let her know that what she has done is wrong. our whole relationship has been based upon lies. i know she hasnt cheated. but lying about your past isnt any better? do you guys think she could be hiding anything else?

[SeriousSam]

How old are you? This is highschool?

[RockRose]

Have you had relationships and sex (is that what you all "fling"?  I can't tell, honestly) with other girls?  

If you can't get over her past,  give her up.  It's not your job,  as pleasurable as this is to you,   to make her life miserable all the time.  

[RockRose]

Okay,  I just went to your profile and read your post about how you've been going out with  her for nine months,  and now you're planning,  IN AUGUST,  to "officially ask her out".

Where is her father?  Some man in her life should put a stop to this shenanigans and chase you off the property,  dizam.  

[jo929]

You have posted here before, and was given good advice, and did not take it  Why do you not just let it alone stay away from her and  have  some peace, and then she can do what she wants   jo

[mami1323]

I was going to say the same....we all warned you about her and you still wanted to stay.  I think you need to decide on your own what you want to do because I don't think you really want our advice.  She lies, she's high maintenanced and she's manipulative...do what you want to do.  Only you know how much you can put up with.  Good luck.

[Agiesmom]

How did she take it when you told her that you had sex with a prostitute?  I mean, if you're so focused on honestly, I would hope that you have been honest with her.

I read back on some posts too and have to say that you sound like the perfect couple--very well-suited.

All the best to both of you.

[mami1323]

Wow, very interesting find.  I didn't read that far back into his posts.  Don't you just love those archives?

[treazzure007]

the past is the past- especially when it's not here bothering you now.  maybe she considers them "fleeting flings" b/c that's how she feels/thinks about them.  that's how i think of all of my little nothings of past highschool relationships.  you sound very immature

[Agiesmom]

Yes!  Gotta love those archives!  (I normally don't go back that far, but remembered posting back and forth with him in the past.)