10 Year Old Daughter

[sumshe]

My daughter is 10 years older now when she was 3 years old I was called to active duty therefore having to deploy overseas. When I returned she would constantly cry when I would drop her off at the day care thinking that I was coming back to pick her up and since then everytime I said that I was leaving the house to go off with friends alone even for a couple of hours or go out of town without her for a long period of time she starts crying not wanting me to leave. I have tried to comfort her assuring her that I am coming back but she starts crying telling me not to go. We also share a room because she doesn't want to sleep by herself. She sleeps on her own bed while I sleep on a mattress. I have tried to sleep in a different room but she starts to get upset. She doesn't like to ride the bus because she wants me to take her to school. She doesn't have any problems in school and she doesn't have a problem with staying overnight at friends houses. Could this be seperation anxiety and if so should I take her to see a counselor?

[margypops]

I think you are correct and there  is some seperation anxiety,  Some counseling may be a good idea as she seems so distressed. Perhaps also you are making too much of an Issue  and she hears and picks up on it, play it down more and let her have her own bed and even her own room,  you'll have to be firm but she will get used to it,possibly you are feeling guilty aswell and trying too hard she is probably aware of this and is making as much of it as she can. Seems to me you care a lot and have a really soft spot for her,  and who wouldnt have, I bet a lot of returning Military folks feel like this,As for going out, as long as she is in good hands with people she knows, just tell her the time you will be home and do it, You dont say if there is a partner in your life can help also. I would also like to thank you for your service to America we all appreciate you a lot.