So big and 14 more weeks to go

[Marcus's Mommy]

Hi Ladies...
I'm feeling so big that I don't think there is any room left.  My belly button is about to pop and this will be the first time ever and I have 14 weeks left to go and during my other two it never popped.

I even gained 3 pounds from yesterday to today on my scale at home...  the more upset I get the more I just want to eat.  What an awful cycle.

And talk about a mother in law with such nice words to say ... I got dressed up for a buck & doe on Saturday, and I asked her how I looked. (She was looking at me funny and I was extremely exhausted from the day) She shrugged her shoulders and said fine.  I continued with how tired I was and how uncomfortable I felt, just plain fat feeling.  Well her kind words to me were.... you've always been fat. I've never known you not to be..... well I mentioned I have been pregnant most of the time, 4 times in 5 years.  BUt that I lost all the weight after the first one for my wedding and was back in a size 8, didn't I look good then... she shrugs her shoulders.   Gotta love the outlaw mother.  And of course she never says this infront of my husband.  I went to the car to wait for him and cried.  He came out and was shocked that she said it but didn't confront her and just said forget about it.  I've been forgetting about things she says for the last 5 years.  When do I get to slap her?  I met her when we first got pregnant and she was sweet as pie for the first year... since then every once and a while she opens her mouth with the most rude or hurtful things.  

How do I deal with this... I've gained 20 pounds now, on my scale.... doctors will probably tell me 30 tomorrow... lol.  Anyone else have this problem with in-laws?  It makes me want to have the baby and become anerexic... which I know you just can't turn it on and off, and that it is not a good thing... and I love food way to much.  But I just want to show her...   Oh and I told my mother and she was floored but said that she is just a #$%^#$ and totally understands because she went through similar problems with my grandparents.  

I'm now 188 lbs...   I always have my kids at 205 & 208, and lose it all.  I'm all belly this time and look bigger than when I was 205 & 208 and I have 14 weeks to go!  I could just cry... and have.

[eimperati]

i know how you feel...i feel so fat...i've gained almost 30lbs so far and i am afraid to step on the scale today at the doctors...but most of it is baby since they say he is already alittle over 3lbs

[whitlack]

I can honestly say I have great and loving in-laws who would never say such mean things.  You never tell a women she is fat or big no matter what the situation is.  My husband jokes with me sometimes saying things like "big girl" and he laughs and jokes after he says it but being pregnant, fat, and hormonal, I find it very offensive.  He appologized the other day because it really hurt my feelings even knowing he was just playing.  I feel like my space in the belly is running out too!!  I have never been so ready to not be pregnant anymore.  I am ready to get the baby out, and go on a diet and get my pre preg body back.  I miss shopping for normal clothes.  Maternity clothes are starting to get old!!  My ankles are actually getting swollen already and  I still have 13 1/2 weeks to go.  As far as you inlaws go, if she keeps saying ugly things to you, I would confront her in a loving manner and let her know that she hurts your feelings because if you let it keep building up you are more likely to go off on her and say some ugly things back which could cause problems between you and your husband.  Good luck with your situation.  And about the wt gain thing,  I have gained like 3lbs in the last week so I am sure to be a true heffa by October lol!!

[aabarnett]

Don't let her get you down.  Most women get bigger with each child they have and hello????  Are you Wonder Woman 4 pregnancies in 5 years and you went down to a size 8???  Now that is just not fair!!!  Well, I guess she is the perfect reason why there are all those mother-in-law jokes and scary stories.  My husband doesn't associate or even acknowledge his mother, he adopted mine a long time ago so I don't have the whole monster in law problem but I can say that she sounds horriable.  I mean did she have 4 in 5 yrs???  No??? Well she should just shut her mouth then.  At least you know you are healthy, the baby is healthy, and you are a STRONG woman (4 in 5, you gotta be strong).  Hang in there girl, we are all feeling like beached whales and fat heffers, we're all in the same boat with you.  Next time she says something mean just use the prego evil glare, or pop back off with something equally mean & then if anyone gives you grief about it, blame it on the hormones, they can't argue with that. =D

[HeathJo]

Last weigh-in showed I have gained 14 pounds (at 24 weeks), and with twins, this is a bit on the low side (especially becase Henery weighe 1 lb 8 oz and Cadence 1 lb 7 oz.)

BUT I GAINED 30 POUNDS TTC--went from a size 4 to a size 12, so I, too, feel like a blimp.

Only 5-7 lbs of baby weight is actual fat. The rest is fluids--your body produces 50% more blood, you retain water, the placenta and baby also weigh a lot. Try to keep it in perspective until after the delivery, at which time you can breastfeed, which REALLY helps drop lbs I have heard, and chase after your little tribe to get your pre-preg bod back.

Love yourself for making these beautiful babies, and know that your MIL is probably feeling competitive or jealous b/c her days as a young, beutiful mom are over.

[jesslee83]

slap her now.....if she hits you back, it's considered attempted murder in some states lol(if the "victim" is pregnant, it's a physical attempt on the child if perp knows of pregnancy)....hehe.....just kidding.....
screw her, i'd reply back with, "well, it's been a minute since you've had kids, and your @$$ is still kinda heavy yourself"....or if she's a skinny cow, i'd tell her you look down on drug use....don't tell her WHY you said it, it'd be YOUR inside joke hehe.....

[Marcus's Mommy]

Thank you ladies... :)  

You all made me feel better and laugh.  I figure I will just stay away for my own sanity and limit any conversations to a minimum.  

And yes she is short and fat.  Or at least plump.  I wear a smaller waist then her.  I'm also 5 1/2 inches taller.  

I guess some people lack consideration and respect.