Now My Sister

[nyc lady]

Last week my sister went to the ER, she was having bad stomach pains and they did a CT Scan (without contrast) and found what they are calling a cystic mass behind her uterus.  They do not know if it is attached to her uterus or colon.  She went to the OB/GYN today who wants her to be seen by a GYN/ONC because of MY HISTORY!!!!  My history?  My history?  It was a horrible feeling to be told this, I know not my fault, I have no control over it, but with stage 1A, do I have a history?
I am lost....I know don't waste a good panic and I am doing great at keeping positive for her but this is really scary and I don't want her to have to go through any of this.  Not even surgery and not even surgical menopause.
I know, most cysts are benign.  My poor mother...like she said to me today, if I have to go through this again, I won't make it.
I just need to vent, to let out my fears.
Love,
Pam

[cirella]

Oh Pam!  I am so sorry to hear this!  Take a deep breath.  I guess you do have a history and aren't you glad that your sister is being treated immediately instead of being bounced around?  I know it's scary and it's obvious you love your sister very much and don't want her to experience anything that you had to experience.  Let's just get her to the onc and see what they say and go from there.  You WILL make it b/c your sister will need you to.

Vent away.  Email me if you need to!
LOVE YOU!
L

[Sharon2714]

pam i am so sorry about ur sister ... i praise god that the doctors took into account that this could be serious and arent playing around with it ... that is the only good part to a famiy history (my sister's cancer put me ahead of the game a little) ... and i praise god again for u that ur sister has a loving and supportive sister to help her thru this that truly understands what is going on so she doesnt feel so lost and scared ... i pray for peace for both of u ... i pray for ur mom as i cant even imagine her heart but i pray her comfort ... u and ur sister are obviously quite strong in spirit
love
sharon

[Knotmeg]

Pam,
I'm sorry to hear this about your sister. I'm glad you have a place to vent... to voice your worry.

We'll keep her in our thoughts....

Love
Meg

[butterflytc]

Dear Pam,
    Your right it is not your fault here. Sisters want to share many things, but this is not one of those things. I can understand how you feel, but look at it from sis's side..she has someone very close to her, who knows what she is feeling, expert help to any fears or questions she may have. Not sure it helps, but do know I am here for you. Vent away
Love
Tc

[lvfrogs]

Pam,
I am very sorry to hear about your sister. I will keep her in my prayers for a good outcome and in no way, should you feel responsible!!! It is good that they consider you have a history in the respect that maybe they will respond to your sister faster than they seem to do for so many women. I hope that made sense! Prayers and hugs all around,
Colleen

[JC145]

Pam .. sorry to hear your news.  I feel very positive that it is benign, but won't stop the surgery.  I cannot imagine how your mother is coping.  Know we are all here for you.  Prayers for all of you.  Judy C

[Searching48507]

Sorry to hear about your sister.  I will keep all of you in my prayers.
Hugs,
Karen

[Mary 53]

Oh Pam,

I just got on line and saw this post. It JUMPED out at me with such rawness. I am sending positive thoughts your way. I know what you mean about keeping positive  and I know that you are good at that...really. But you can't help but have a feeling of helplessness at least initially.

And, I know you well enough that you, I just know, have assured your Mom that all of you will make it through this together... No matter what the outcome!

To my One true Surgery Sister (and for some reason, you have been on my mind SOoooo much lately....hard to explain) I send Minnesota warmth and Sisterly love,

Wishing Good Health and Peace to your family,

Love, Mary

[Brownie3321]

Oh Pam, your post just breaks my heart. I could feel your pain through your post. I am so sorry, but try to remain positive. This could be benign, in fact stats are on her side. Keep us updated, much love, Deandra

[dawnlyn]

Pam,

I am so sorry to hear about your sister.  I will be keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers that your sister's cyst will be benign.  I too was staged at 1A and I have four sisters.  My sisters doctors all asked for the details of mine.  So I am hoping they are going to be watched closer.  You are a wonderful person, and as Mary said above you will all make it through together.

Love,
Dawnlyn

[jlock]

Your history is what may save your sister!  I was dx in Nov. 2004 with 3c.  My sister decided to have herself checked, She was having no symptoms or pain at all. She had a ulrasound and low and behold a 5" mass was found attached to her ovary.  Because of my dx.,the gyn worked quickly and had a onc/gyn in attendance at my sister's surgery.  The mass was benign,with a positive cytology test,which makes my sis a 1c.  No chemo was needed,...just surgery.  I know how scared you are...I would go through all the surgeries and chemos all again.just to not have my sister even have to have this exp. I'll sit in the chemo chair for her!!!  I wish she had a clean surgery..but now she at least sees the Onc as often as I do,with the same ca-125 and ct scans..  That was 3.5 years ago and she is still fine.  Stay positive and strong....(((hugz)))~~~Joanne

[nyc lady]

Thanks everyone....I know all the positives and I am trying really hard to hold on to them.  
I know that if it weren't for my diagnosis my sister would not be going to the specialists, I just feel bad that she has to have this added aggrevation.  
Hopefully we will have some answers on Friday when she sees the GYN/ONC.  (wish it were my doctor she was going to).
Again, thanks for being here!!!!
Love,
Pam

[SimplyStar]

I am so sorry to hear this, but with you at her side she will feel better and have more strength.  Hope the tests friday come out fine.  

[silver&gold]

Dear Pam I hope everything turns out well on Friday , one of my sisters had a recent scare and is now being monitored it is a very frightening experience, I was stage 1a also .

Thinking of you both , Angie

[Dino491]

I am so sorry to hear about your sister.

I know it's hard not to worry with everything you and everyone else on this board has gone through but it is more than likely benign.

[Jan214]

Dear Pam,

I am so very very sorry that this has happened.  You ARE NOT to blame for this.  As someone else said, you having cancer is actually a blessing for your sister, because given your history, and yes honey, 1A is still a history, she is getting aggressive, immediate treatment.  I know I got this mutant gene from my mom who died of OvCa in 1964, but not for one second have I blamed her.  Do you think she deliberately passed that gene to me?  Heck no.  I know she would have given anything for me not to have this.  I hope my two girls dont' blame me if they end up with it.  We discussed prophylactic surgery for them, but they are only 23 and 26 and neither has children yet.  Besides it is a giant myth that you can't get ovca if you don't have ovaries.  They will be monitored very closely and because of my history and my mother's history and her mother's history, my girls stand a much better chance of being taken seriously by their Drs.  So, in a way, I am glad I got this if it will keep them from thinking it might skip a generation, because so far it hasn't.  Besides honey, you don't know anything for sure yet but if is cancer than she will have someone by her side who knows all the ups and downs and can help her avoid the trial and error you had to go through concerning side effects etc.  Your family will be in my heart and prayers.
Love,
Jan

[Casey06]

Hi Pam,

I know I haven't been in touch or on the forum much, but wanted to say I am so sorry for your worry and hope it is just a bad scare with a benign cyst. Thinking of you and your sister. Take care.

Love,
Debbie

[kimmywah]

Lets hope and pray that this all turns out ok.&nb