i think my bf is cheating

[eimperati]

well to start i am 28 weeks and 3 days pregnant and our relationship has changed a lot...he doesn't seem into me anymore and i know for a fact that he cheated on me once before..this pregnancy was planned, but he is just changing..he never wants to kiss me and we haven't had sex in awhile...he doesn't even do anything to get me off or anything...i don't know what to do...any advice would be helpful

[teko]

Forgive me for asking this and I do appologize up front if I offend you in any way, but I am really curious as to why young people are having children left and right but no one is getting married anymore? Is it my imagination or is marriage gone?  Anyway, in answer to your post.

It is very normal for guys to back off intimacy during a pregnancy for a lot of reasons. They do not want to hurt you, it turns them off, some even feel like they will hurt the baby. Or it could be that he just is not into the responsibility of it all and is now getting cold feet. Which reason why in your situation, only he can tell you. Congrats on your little boy, I hope all goes well for you. Do you have a name?

[Melissa70817]

Well, I had 2 children and did not get married so don't worry about not being married.  You do not have to be married to have children or have a loving relationship.

I was with someone for 9 years, during that time we had a daughter, while I was pregnant he treated me the same as yours is treating you and then he totally left me and started seeing someone else.  We did not get back together until my daughter was 5 months old.  6 years later I became pregnant with my son, he did the same thing to me again except this time he kicked me out, hid my daughter from me and moved someone else in that very weekend.  They ended up getting married but I'm the bad guy.  He hates every man I date, they(both he and his wife) talk down about me to my children, they have said I'm ugly, etc.  I know this is pure jealousy but he was the one who booted me, not the other way around.  Now that I look back it was good riddance, I cannot imagine living the life she has to live with that man on a daily basis.

Good luck to you and I hope your relationship doesn't come to the point that mine did.  Is he abusing you in any way? Is he staying out or has started going out?  Is he interested in the baby at all?  

[treazzure007]

hope you're using protection.  if he's cheating again, he will bring you and your child terrible diseases

[extrmeski]

I'm sor sorry to hear that.  Not all us guys are like that, but it seems that the good guys loose out and find the cheating girls and the girls do the same.  What is with this world??

[extrmeski]

Sorry to post again but as I was thinking more about this the madder the whole thing made me.  I know you dont know my circumstances, but you can read my posts to gain some insight.  I'm sorry but I just don't get it at all.  I don't understand cheating, I don't understand why no one understands committment anylonger I don't understand why a guy wouldn't want to share in the joy of pregnancy, I would give anything to have a nice strong relationship and to share every moment..  Nice guys ALWAYS finish last.

[mami1323]

I think that just by you thinking this way gives a lot of women some hope out there.  Nice guys don't always finish last, you just have to be pickier about the women you allow into your heart.  You will eventually find a nice girl if you allow yourself to.  Good luck.

[teko]

My mother always told me that you will fall in love with someone in what ever circle of people you hang in. You hang in a bar, you will fall in love in a bar, tennis court etc. Choose your circle wisely. Also love  can be identified when you put that person first, before your own needs, and the other party does the same. When you meet someone who does the same back, it is true love. Do not settle for less.