Some worries and questions......help me.

[JennaDeuel]

Hi everyone.  I haven't yet posted on this board but I will be alot from now on.  I am due dec 26th.  I find out what it is on Aug 5th.  This is my first baby and so far its pretty rough.  I had back surgery 2 years ago for a fusion and sacroiliac joint problems that hurt alot.  So far, I am in alot of pain and I know that it is only going to get worse.  I have an appointment on the 29th with a special doctor 2 hours away to talk about options for the rest of the pregnancy and delivery.  I have had to take vicodin and ultram just to tolerate the pain to sleep at night.  Anyone else feeling like this?

Also, I am not sure if I have felt the baby move yet, I am 18 weeks today.  Is that ok?  I do have alot of lower aches in my abdomen but they say its just ligament stretching.  When I had my back surgery, they went through the front so I have a vertical scar to the left of my belly button that is 6 inches and goes almost to my pubic bone.  I keep getting this burning, ripping sensation.  They said that it could be that some of the ligaments that stretch when you are pregnant have adhered to my scar tissue, so that scares me a bit.  I keep worrying that my scar is going to rip open and my baby is going to fall on the floor.  Unlikely I know ,but  still a scary thought.  

They said that after the first trimester you should stop going to the bathroom so much.....not me.  I keep thinking that I have a UTI, but they keep telling me no.  At night it is the worst but I seem to have this insatiable thirst, so I pee literally every 5 minutes.  And when I go, i still feel like i have to go more when I am done.  I have tried pushing it out, which hurts my stomach, leaning side to side, leaning forward, pushing on my bladder.  Nothing.  It is the most frustrating thing EVER!  

Let me know if anyone can relate to any of this! Thanks for listening!

[NikiNoo]

Sounds like you are having it rough.

I can't help with some of your questions... but for a first baby, you are more likely to feel him/her move around 21 weeks. And as for your scar popping open, you are bound to fear it (we have some pretty weird thoughts during pregnancy) but unless to have your back surgery they had to cut through your uterus too, there is no way your baby is going to fall out. And your doc should keep an eye on your scar anyway.

[LACh1]

I have the same thought as the comments above.  But i also am into my 2nd tri and the urge to pee all the time has not lest me yet.  In fact this is my third pregnancy and i never had any let up with the peeing with any on them.  I think it is the way you carry.  I am very low so the baby is always pushing and kicking on my bladder. Yes i can feel my baby quite strong but remember this is my third pregnancy and you feel it soon each time.  I also have my placenter on the back of my uterus which means not much padding at the front and a lot more feeling felt.  As for your pain in the front - yes stetching of ligiments (especially in the first pregnancy) cam be quite painful and feel almost like a stitch or period cramps.  As for your back i am really sorry about all the pain,a ll i can suggest is going to see a physio or something to help you with some exercises that may help or support garments that may help with weight support.

[KellyA74]

As far as frequent urination goes, I'm 20 weeks today and still feel the constant urge.  And when I go, it's a trickle...feels almost like my ureter is swollen and the pee won't come out......All night long too....at least 3x/ night.....

As far as the back problems go.....Unless the specialist can do something for you (possible injections, etc), you may have be on light duty or partial bedrest.......I'm not sure how long the Vicodin is OK to take during pregnancy......I'm sure you've covered that already though.

The baby is probably moving but you may just not be aware of it....People say that it feels like flutters or gas....I explain it more like a nerve twitching (like when you get an annoying twitch in your eye)......Just pay close attention for a whole day and I'm sure you'll notice!

[star_girl]

Ive never had back surgery before, but i had my ovary and fallopian tube taken out a year ago and i have a scar that goes from hip bone to hip bone, im 19 weeks pregnant now and there are times that it burns and feels weird, they have said the same thing to me about the stretching and the fact that scar tissue takes forever to grow back.  I too feel like sometimes my scar will just rip open and out comes baby!!!!  So i understand what your feeling in that sense.  

Im sorry you in so much pain.  Again i havent had back surgery but my back is all messed up so i have really bad back pain as well, im sure not as much as you though, so i dont really know how your feeling completely here.  

Good luck with everything though!  

[JennaDeuel]

Thanks all for the great advice.  I actually think that I felt the baby move today.  I was laying down and I had my hand on my lower stomach and i felt a small little bump on my hand.  Just the slightest, tiniest thing but I am positive that it wasn't gas! So I have had a reassuring day.  Thanks everyone.  I will keep everyone posted!