Pissed at daycare - the saga continues!!!

[Tanker Chic]

Okay, this is unbelievable.  For those of you that don't know, this started about two weeks ago when the daycare gave my son cereal in a bottle without my permission.  I never told her she could give him cereal and I never brought any up there for her to give to him.  I left her a note, letting her know, I didn't want her giving him cereal at this time... I was only giving him cereal once a day and it was with a spoon not a bottle and I would be the one to give it to him.... And I "thought" that would be the end of it....

Well last tuesday (2 days ago), I switched out his bottle up at the daycare (so I could clean it really good myself)...  Well last night, I grabbed the bottle and gave it to my son.. the formula started pouring down his chin.. I was like "what the heck".. I looked at the nipple and it had been cut... I coudn't believe my eyes... That b!tch cut his nipple and has been feeding him cereal (from a cut nipple) three times a day for the last two weeks!!!!  I was fumming pissed... I was up past midnight last night stewing over it... by this morning I had calmed a bit and didn't want to just to a wrong conculsion... maybe the nipple tore on its own???  maybe?? Or maybe that wasn't even the nipple from the daycare, maybe it was one of the ones I had at home... ???  So this morning I took a new bottle with me to daycare and went and got the one that I had left there 2 days ago... and sure enough  the nipple was cut... again, I COULDN'T BELIEVE MY EYES!!!  That b!tch not only ignored what I told her specifically not to do, but she thinks I'm stupid... This lady is lucky she isn't there in the mornings when I drop him off... I took the two cut nipples to the directors office and showed them to her... her immediate response was, "oh well she is probably putting some cereal in his formula"... I was like "exactally what I told her not to do" and explained the situation to her... The director apologized, expressed her concern over the situation and assured me it wouldn't happen again...

How am I supposed to ever trust this lady again???  I can't... so today I'm going to call around and see if I can find an opening at the other daycares.. :(  I can't believe she would totally ignore my wishes like that.. and that was only bottle he had up there, so she must have been giving him cereal 3 times a day like that.. you couldn't put straight formula in there after you cut it,... it flowed way too fast...

Do you know how hard it is to find a good daycare with an opening!!!

[kris123]

hey girl, i think you are doing the right thing - take your baby out of there, they dont care or listen to what you told them to do, what else are they doing - not to say they are hurting babies, i am sure she did this maybe to not have to feed your baby as much - LAZY - keep looking i am sure you will find another daycare.  my sis watches my baby and i am going to die when she won't be able to anymore

[cantwait4baby]

I almost think that may be a legal issue - you should call one of your local news stations and tell them to do an undercover investigation.  They will love the story and the moms will find out what is happening to their kids.

Sorry - I am no help because I would be in jail right now if I were you.

[Quinns momma]

I would be absolutely seeing red if this happened to me. It is a pain in the butt to find a new daycare but you really need to. They have complete disregard to you and how you want your son fed. I agree with Kris they are lazy and just trying to fill him up quickly so they can hurry and move on to the next baby and feeding!!

I am grateful I work full time from home. It is hard at times putting in 40 hours and taking care of a 19 month old but when I read stories like this I know it is so worth it.

Good Luck!!

[BabyHardiman]

I think it's a good thing that b!tch was not at the daycare today.  In my honest opinion she SHOULD be fired, or you can do as cantwait4baby said and call your local news station... give them that ultimatum... either she goes, or I call.  

How many times a day should he be given cereal?  Do they give you a slip showing how much he ate each day, and what he ate?  That is so dangerous!!

[wannabenana]

I would be beyond livid!

You have no choice, but to withdraw him from that daycare.

[girliegrl1723]

i definately would not continue to enroll your son in that daycare. beleive me, i understand the situation you are in as i have to have my son in daycare sept. - june since thankfully my mom watches him during the summer. i have had situations with my daycare provider where maybe i wasn't clear enough about the way i preferred things to be done with edward and when i would see something i didn't like, bring it to the director's attention. each and every time it came to this though, i never had the same problem again. that is something you need to have in a daycare provider if you are ever to feel comfertable trusting your son in their hands day in and day out. they are suppose to respect parent's wishes and direction - bottom line. edward's daycare gives me a full detailed list of what he ate/drank/slept in a day as well as each and every diaper change and what was there. they even describe his bm's on the sheet as edward has a history of constipation issues. they call me for everything. even if he is having an "off" day. just to let me know, and that phone call they make to me is reflected on his daily sheet. i would expect that in any daycare provider now that i have had that with edward's daycare. i don't think it should be any other way. is this woman the only one you have had a problem with so far? in that case, i would go to the director and tell her you will be removing your son from her facility unless that woman is no longer there. then let her make the choice. i have had situations where i LOVE the people there in the mornings, but in the late afternoon, there are a lot of younger girls working there who "help out" after school and who weren't giving me all the info i needed about edward's day. i brought this to the director's attention as well and she assigned one of her more experianced staff members to care for edward only during the last hours of the day. i understand that this may not be possible in every situation but it is an example of how they should at least try their best to meet your needs and make you feel comfertable. im so sorry you are going through such a hard time. it only makes you feel worse as a mother to have to trust your child to other caregivers every day. i hope it works out for you. that they either fire her or you find a place you are happier with. good luck.

[JJety]

I agree, you have no choice but to withdraw him or see that this woman is fired.  She absolutely should be fired.  

I don't know what state you live in, but in Michigan I would report the daycare to the State (you can search online and find the case worker contact info) and their license would be yanked unless they punished or fired the offending employee.

I would absolutely not put up with this.  

[Kim1989]

yeah i would be doing the same thing your doing by looking around at different daycares. why is she so hell bent on feeding your son formula? you already talked to her ONCE she should have listened!

[kjbutcher]

I would call the state!  Being a daycare provider that has always scared me (someone calling the state on me) and I have never given that advice on this forum, but this time it really is the health of your child at risk.  is cereal really going to hurt him, probably not, but you not knowing what he is really eating and feeding him differently at home, that could probably make a change in his health.  It isnt right and she directly defied you and that is WRONG!  you may want to start making his formula at home and putting it in bottles and taking it like that.  It sounds like she is going to do anything she can to get around this.  Also you may want to talk directly to her to find out why she is doing it.  It really could be a good reason taht you want to look into or it can be a bs reason.  To be honest it could be a money issue.  The centers get paid by the state for food, but they have to feed certain things.  If your son is old enough for cereal according to the state and they dont feed it to him, they dont get their money.  It could be as simple as telling her that you will tell the state anything they want you to if they feed your child the way you want him fed.  I would ask to see the cereal they are feeding him.  Put her on the spot and make her show you.  As tons of questions like where did you buy it, how long ago did you buy it.  Just make sure what she is putting into your son is "good".  Make sure it is at least something you would feed him if you were feeding him that way.  Worst comes to worst just let her give him the cereal, but you buy it and decide how much he gets of it.  Lastly, try to find out the times that they feed him and show up there one day or several days and see what is going on.  Even if you miss the feeding, if you do it enough she will do it correct for the off chance you catch her feeding him.  Good Luck.

[Atlanta Girl]

Unbelievable... Sorry this happening to you and little Jacob. I would be absolutely pissed to say the least. Please, find a way to leave ther NASTIEST review somewhere for that daycare. I don't live anywhere close to where you live, but I wish they loose all their business.

[becca_3456]

I cant believe she has the nerve to totally go against what you told her not to do. I would be pi$$ed and I would have to have a "talk" with her, and when I say talk I mean YELLING at the top of my lungs so she could hear me loud and clear. What is she thinking? This is your child not hers!! I am sorry you have to move him to a new daycare, I hope you find a new one soon:)

[deanne11]

Hey Girl -

I had huge problems with my daycare too.  Must be the little Jake's of this world.

Of course my little guy wasn't being fed at all....Yep, that's right.

He went from 7a-2p without any bottles....they couldn't figure out why he was screaming.
I was livid.

Then 2 weeks later it happened again.

I would call around, look at local churches or YMCA programs.  You don't even have to be the same religion.

I just got my kids in a church daycare/nursery school.  I love it !!!  My DD has become a different person.  I will never go back to a 'chain' center again.

[deanne11]

Just wanted to add, here in PA we can report things as well in our state...I have!

I would definitely do that once you find Jacob a new, safe provider.

[spade22]

Unbelievable!  

I would lay a formal complaint against this women AND the actual daycare center.  What if your son was ALLERGIC to the cereal and had an adverse reaction?  For her to just start giving him the cereal without your permission in the first place and then to continue to do so after you specifically instructed her is something I can not wrap my head around. How many other baby's is she doing this too without parents permission?  You should definitely take this further to protect other baby's from this women.

[alikat1205]

it is time to find another daycare.  put your concerns in writing and send them to your current daycare, certified, and ask for a response and a conference with the teacher and director.  that way at a minimum, it will all be in her personnel file.

[spade22]

Ohhh - something else I wanted to point out.  What could be a problem is that you left her a note stating your wishes - she could always "claim" she never received the note.  That doesnt change the fact she gave him the cereal in the 1st place w/out your permission but I bet she will lie out of her teeth that she didnt know you had a problem w/ it - people will do anything to save face especially if their job is at stake.  

[Tanker Chic]

Well even tho this started off as a totally crappy day.. it is turned out to be a GREAT day... back when I was pg, I put my name on the waiting list a couple of daycares around town. My first choice was the YMCA but it is hardest to get into so initially I didn't even call them..  I called 2 other places on my list and neither one had an opening.... I was starting to feel sick to my stomach... I thought what the heck, I'll call the Y... you never know, it could happen... well GUESS WHAT????  They had an opening and since I had been on the list since Oct 07, I got it!!!  Jacob gets to start on Monday... I am so happy about this... And my sister's kids go there too.. this could not have turned out better :)

I am going to report this to DHS.

They do give us sheets which are supposed to list everything they ate that day.. that is how I know she gave him cereal the first time... after I wrote her the note, she never put cereal on there again... I always knew she wasn't completely truthful tho.. because she always puts that he eats 7oz of formula x3 at day... Jacob hardly every takes 7oz from me, so I knew she was making it up.. I had told her several times to only write down as much as he actually drinks and everytime she would act like I was crazy for thinking she did otherwise.. I have also seen the bottle sitting there several times with 2 to 3oz in it... it is only an 8oz bottle so he couldn't have drank 7oz if there was still 3 in there.... i finally gave up...

[deanne11]

So good to hear!!!  I'm getting my Jacob into the Y program too here locally.
I can't wait!

[peekawho]

Please do report it to DHS or whoever governs day care in your state.  Can you imagine what else they are lying about?

That's what I would worry about.  They are probably lying about lots of things.  Good centers don't tolerate things like this.