Problems with my boyfriend

[bellababie]

Okay, I have been dating my boyfriend whom i've known for 5 years prior and we dated in the past but he cheated on me. It's been 4 years since we dated and now i am dating him again and it's been one month. The first 2 weeks he was perfect, such a gentleman, spent every day with me called me all the time, we were pretty much inseperable.
And for the last 2 weeks he's been blowing me off, taking me home early so he can go to his "buddies" house. I bought him three 40s of whiskey, food, and let him borrow money in which he never gave me back yet. He says he wants me to move to Calgary with him to be with him, and I said maybe but why would he be acting like this if he's serious about taking me with him? Also, he changed his status on facebook back to single a week ago, and when I confronted him about it he said it wasn't him and that someone went in his account and changed it. He's also been doing blow behind my back, selling drugs, taking ecstasy too. He lies to me all the time too, and never gives me a straight answer. I don't know whether he's cheating on me again or blowing me off to do drugs. He never spends time with me anymore. He never calls me back when he says he's going to and when he does he apologizes for not calling but comes up with some excuse like "i worked 14hrs til like 2am drywalling? " .. and "i had my son tonight" .. its always different every time. And i can never get a hold of him cause he doesn't have a steady place to stay. Sometimes i wonder why i even bother with him because he treats  me like **** and i do everything for him to make him happy. What am i doing so wrong for him to treat me like this??? And i put up with it because i love him and i can't let him go, i want to be there for him.

Please help.. i need advice on what to do and what i'm doing wrong

Thanks

[Kim1989]

its not you its more than likely hes getting bored or theres someone else hes talking to

[spunderellazz]

it sounds like hes either; getting bored,blowig you off to do drugs and live the drug life.(thats what drug addicts do)has another woman, or just simple doesnt want you in his life. This is your time to realize that you can either wait and get hurt time and time again. Or you can be a strong woman and move on! i strongly suggest that you move on and find someone worth your time and effort. He obvisiously dont want to date, or have that kind of responsiblity. Sounds like to me he has a drug problem, and he needs to seek help. It sounds like your young, like me. Men come and go, they will break your heart, over and over again if you let them. Stop the cycle now. be strong and do better for yourself. Theres someone out there who will be good to you, just lose this loser and find him.

[bellababie]

Thanks Kim1989, yeah i figured maybe he's that kind of guy that can't be in a committed relationship without getting bored or being with multiple women. I just was hoping it wouldn't be true..

[bellababie]

Thanks for your advice.. you are very right. I need to be that strong woman and let go, but it's just so hard.. so many days go by and I keep saying "that's it.. i've had enough i'm gonna just end it" .. but then he calls and says sorrry and makes it sound so meaningful so i just forget what i really wanted to tell him, and just pretend like everything is okay. But he's going to keep doing it if i let him. So yeah, best choice for me would be to leave him.. he's going nowhere in his life.. and i am.. but i'm letting him drag me down.

I really needed to hear that, so thanks for making me see it from a diff. perspective i am usually one a "one-way- thinking path" lol