Baby?

[emuhlee]

I'm young, when I say that I mean it. But, I want a baby. It sounds so retarted. I just want something that's mine. I don't have the best family life, but I want a baby soo bad. It's rediculous though how young I am. My boyfriend and I have talked about having kids, someday. My friend, she's 18 and she has twins. They are with me more than they are with her and I loove everything about them. I want my own though. I am two years younger than her and I know it sounds rediculous, what do I do?

[AJH84]

Maybe you could start with a puppy.
I'm not saying this to be rude, so please don't take it that way. You can get unconditional love from a puppy, raise it, feed it, care for it, spend your money on it, bond with it, and it can be all yours. Your bf can be a part of its life too.
Wait to have a baby until you're older. Finish your education. Get established in a career. Get married. Then think of bringing a baby into the world.

[mommytobeagain]

I agree with AJH84. get a 6 week old puppy and start with that. see how it really is.you have to get up at night with it feed it provide for it and show it plenty of love. trust us on this. i am 23 yrs old with a 15 month old little boy. at your age i thought i was pregnant for a guy i have nothing to do with today. knowing now what i didnt know then i was lucky not to have a baby so young. you need to make sure you can provide that baby a good life. having your friends babies is one thing, but when your acually raising them is another. get threw high school first and then get married then start thinking about having a baby. enjoy your life while you can. your still just 16 yrs old. that is way to young to even think about sex much less starting a family.

[slow_healer]

Finish school and get a job. The best thing you can do for your baby's future is to become well educated yourself. Studies show that the mother's education level has a tremendous impact on how well the child turns out. Plus if you really can't wait, start babysitting toddlers and older kids. Babies are supercute and wonderful, but they grow up. Figure out if you're ready for all that too.

What's the problem with your family life? Realize that having a baby won't automatically bring a new and better family life with it. You're still entrenched in your old family, probably living with them still. If you really want to put everything into starting a family, work hard until you can do it *right*.

[angelbabies]

this is a whole life your taking about, you realy need to think about this do you have a job, your own house and secure relationship? haveing a baby because you have a bad family life is not the answer!! its not fair on the child unles you are ready and you need to be ready in so meny ways you dont wanna do this then regret it do you? what you gonna do with a cying hungrey baby no job or money no place to live of your own is this fair on a child? please think about this im not at all saying your be a bad mum you might be great but babys need more than love x

[jo929]

having a baby at your age would be a terrible thing especially for the child how would you feed it do you have a good paying job? do you pay rent? have you the money to buy clothes and pay medical bill? just try going to a dr and see what it costs you are not thinking with your head also you have to sit up nights when they are sick sometimes you lose so much sleep plus the crying, and remember children are a lifetime job 24/7 you do not get to go out and date, really you need a good education first then a good job, then marriage then the children, then i think you will make a good mom, but not now the welfare rolls are full taking care of unwed moms with no education right now is a bad time i agree with the others love all kids but wait untill you can afford them to have them  luck  jo  a puppy sounds like a good idea

[msgorgeous]

I agree with the other posters your young i would wait till your out of highschool have a good secure job. I think maybe because you dont have the best family life at home you want a baby to replace whats missing from them. your still a child yourself. and bringing a baby into this world just so you can feel loved isnt the way to go. im not trying to be or sound rude but thats just the truth. babys are hard work there a 24/7 job which you do not get paid for. this day in age you need a collage degree to even have a good paying job and how to you suppose your gonna finish school with a baby. your family situation you say isnt the best so who would watch it while your at school. you dont have a job to pay for daycare or a babysitter. going to school and having a full time job so you can support you and the baby wont work it may but i dont think soo you will be at school then youd have to go to work thats alot of money going out to a sitter. and no time with the baby anyway i would wait till your older get a puppy. they will love you unconditionally. learn from that puppy.

[nessie12]

enjoy them while they are not yours...it is way too much to handle...i even think its a horrible idea since you say that your family life isnt great, you cannot make it on your own, so why is it logical to bring a child into a situation you dont enjoy yourself.

you may not know it every second of everyday but people care about you...they care in so many different ways a magnitudes having a baby just because "you want something that is mine" because i think you dont feel like people care so maybe you feel you need to care for someone else...or you want to know that you are capeable of love and to be loved...find another way less perminate and life altering way

I would suggest after school getting a job in a preschool like toddlers ( I loved it) i loved everyone of them they love you, they get so excited to have your attention, they need you, they drive you crazy,you care for them when they get sick, then you get to send them home.  

what do you do? find a way to fill this need to nurture or be nurtured...wait to have a baby