is he cheating?

[mandy8]

my boyfriend for almost 8 months i think could be cheating or lying to me i really dont know but last friday he went to the bar for his friends birthday which is fine he never goes to the bar so once is fine and he never really hangs out with his friends so i didn't care. He had to be there at 10 i got out of work at 7 i wasn't feeling good either i had bad allergies i asked him if he wanted to come over for a little before he left he says no because he was busy cleaning around the house. Ok thats fine i understand that but then he leaves to go to the bar earlier i thought he was cleaning around the house? He tells me hes only staying to 10 but he whind up staying to 1 am when he had work at 7 and he won't go pass 10 to bed so that was different and weird. He said he would leave early because he would be bored but he stayed because he had fun yeah idk what kind of fun...he says his 2 guy friends came down they don't even know his friend amanda (the 1 that had the party at the bar) so thats just a conquiences? idk...now over a sudden hes go over time and is working to 7 30 he usually gets out at 3:30. Now another thing is on monday he came over we went to the movies then at 7 30 he went home because heros the show was starting and he wanted to leave early to go watch it since it wasn't over to 11 and i wanted to watch one tree hill at 10 which is fine but then today if you know what myspace is theres a truthbox application on myspace whihc is you just write things about someone on there page and no1 will know you wrote it. its 100% annoyoms i got one that said " yeah your boyfriend doesn't want you we just finished having sex and hes not even into you he wants to dump you" it is most likely not true and just someone jealous trying to start problems but it is just weird how me and him are toghter a lot and that 1 night we weren't i get that comment. Lately he doesn't talk to me on the phone as much hes always having to help his mom or grandma which is fine but it takes 2-3 hours just to do laundry and 3 hours to do the dishes im just not believing that. I really do love him but if hes cheating then its not worth it. Is there a way i can find out for sure? Anyone got any ideas? Thanks for reading this

[RockRose]

Mandy, after reading your whole post I agree with you.  It sounds like he's cheating.  I think you should just sit down and have a heart to heart conversation.  It really sounds like he's on the way out.  

You'll go through a lot of boyfriends before you find one you want to spend your life with.

Best wishes.

[jo929]

just wait, watch, and listen, if he is cheating soon he will trip himself up, and then you will know for sure, but do not say to much to him about what you think or that will give him the excuse to really cheat   luck  jo

[jo929]

i missed Rock Roses ans she has a good point there, maybe he will tell the truth  luck  jo

[AnxiousGurl]

yea....I agree with RockRose....confront him about it and see what he says...if he denys it ....wait and see as jo said....he'll slip up
good luck!

[mami1323]

He will deny it....you need solid proof.  Have patience, it will show itself to you.  Don't let him know you're suspicious because then he will be more conscience of hiding things.  Let him feel really comfortable and secure and he will slip up.  Good luck.

[mandy8]

thank you for your advice. I did tell him i thought he was and of course he denied it but from now on i will keep it to myself and see what happens. He did cheat on me back in june with his ex girlfriend the mother of his baby (yeah he has a son) i did forgive him but it took a while he really felt bad and did anything he could to get me back he came to my job with flowers, candy and a card so it was cute we were back toghter because i heard if a guy really trys to get you back after he cheated then give him a second chance because he prob won't do it again.

I was never ok that he had a kid i hated the idea for the pass months but i was only 17 a junior in highschool i just didn't feel right about it but i did really like him. He treated me like a princess (not so much now lol) Now im 18 and a senior i know not much difference but i care now im there for him and i see him now when his son is there( he only sees him on saturdays) but now i really am trying now the kid is cute hes austic and can't talk but hes very cute. Now i don't mind doing things the 3 of us like going to the park, or the zoo or whatever. I really didn't like who i was and now im changing but its still akward knowig hes a "father" at 22 before me and him have kids (if we ever do) but i really hope hes not cheating now when i thought eveything got better because if he then what is he telling me that he doesnt like the new me that he liked the old me better when i wasn't ok with it and was never there or cared and i didn't want him there either?

[mami1323]

I really don't know what to tell you.  If someone is telling you he's sleeping with her on a night that he wasn't with you, I would believe it.  Other women don't lie, they tell the truth to mess up your relationship.  The man lies.  Do you think it could be his ex sending you that message?  I would be on my toes if I were you.  I just found out that my fiance was cheating on me.  He's regretful, I'm giving him another chance but my guard is up and I'm still paying close attention.  You never know.  I wish the best for you and hope for his sake and yours that he isn't being unfaithful to you again.  Good luck.