Just making sure I am not crazy

[KIMBERLY98]

just curious if any girls out there think it's ok for your boyfriend to:

1. get off work at 2 and hang at a bar ( without you) for 7 hours
2. does the above at least 4 nights a week
3. leaves you home alone after a car accident for 6 out of 7 nights
4. blame you for the rain
5. doesn't spend your birthday with you
6. would rather watch football than go to the keys for your birthday
7. get mad at you for spending time with your brother on your birthday
8. goes and does as he pleases, but gets mad if you do ANYTHING
9. text you over 100 times ago
10. calls you names ( nasty, hateful ones)
11. makes you sleep on the couch when you are upset that he has been gone for so long
12. ask you to cook when you are sick
13. wake you up when you ask him not to
14. never asks you to go with him
15. make you pay for dinner on your birthday
16. make you feel like ****
17. say things JUST to hurt you
16. tell you you do not come first
17. make you second guess what you KNOW is not ok!!!!!!

Guess I am answering my own question.
I am afraid to leave him, yet afraid to stay.
I love him, but i can't stand him.
I am good to him and put up with his ****
Went back to him after he's already beat me up in the past!!!!
What is wrong with me?
I need help, feel like I am going to lose it! :(

[BabyHardiman]

HELL NO GIRL!!  THESE THINGS ARE NOT OK!

[Vance2335]

Ok if this is 100% truthful and you are still with him then you are dumb. I am sorry if it's too blunt for you but it's truthful.

Leave him after you read this and never look back. I have a daughter and when she is old enough for a boyfriend and he ever did anything like this to him I would kill him. No one deserves to be treated this way.

[GRose]

GET OUT NOW.
Seriously,what if you end up pregnant by this guy, you don't want to be stuck with him forever.

[GRose]

I just read some of your previous posts so I guess my statement above is irrelevant.
While reading  your posts it became obvious that this guy just really doesn't care about you. What are you waiting for? What is holding you back from leaving him?
You are so much better than this and you deserve so much better.

[mami1323]

You did answer your own question.  You know what you need to do, you just have to do it.  Good luck.

[mayflowers]

Kimberly - there are places that will help you get away if you really want to.  Women's shelters, churches.  It sounds like you are being abused, and have been so abused that you now even feel like you deserve it.  Nobody deserves it.  Nobody.  If your daughter was in this situation, what would you tell her?  This isn't "love" that he is showing you.

I hope you can get out of this situation.  God Bless!

[jo929]

Read your post as a stranger would and then ans this quwstion should i stay and wait for the axe to fall or a broken leg, my face smashed in or better yet will i stick around to be apunching bag and it does get better there is always the chance the abuse escalates and he might just kill me, and death is so final, and yet this happens to many people that are dumb enough to stick around i would think more of myself than to take this, and you should also where is you guts and your self esteem  cant you see that he is using you and enjoying every minute of it in plain words he has found a sucker  luck  jo  this is meant for a wake up call

[Agiesmom]

The only thing that makes you crazy is that you are still referring to him as your boyfriend.

I didn't read your previous posts, but from another response above, it sounds like you've already brought children (or are about to) into this mess.

Call a women's shelter.  Call churches in your area.  And get into counseling.  It's time to make a clean break.

[GRose]

You said that it sounds like she has already brought children into this mess. I am assuming you got that from my response. If so, when I said that "my response above is irrelevant" I meant because I had just read some of her posts and found out that she is past child bearing age in addition to other reasons of why she doesn't have to worry  about getting pregnant. I wont get into those reasons because it is not my place.
I just wanted to clarify.

[KIMBERLY98]

Thank GOD, I don't have any children. I do want them, but can''t get pregnant......or maybe I could if I am finally with the right man!

[cowgirlnerd]

That isn't love - and no you aren't crazy unless you stay in that.  Ask yourself - "does this person add positive things in my life?"

Even though there are 2 sides to every story - you obviously have issues with this person and the only crazy thing would be to stay with someone because you...."Love him" -   Honey, that's not love.  

Take a time out from him and be on your own, and if roaches don't crawl out from under the rug (meaning that the reason he stays at the bar, doesn't trust you, and keeps tabs on you....), then - think about being with him.  I will just bet that some roaches (secrets) come out into the light.

Run, run fast.  

[Agiesmom]

Sorry for the incorrect assumption.  I did go back and read through some older posts.  They aren't good, Kimberly.  You really need to get away from him (for good), get into counseling, and don't start dating again until you are certain you will make a good choice in a man next time.  Oh, and PLEASE use birth control, even if you don't think you can get pregnant, if you do decide to continue with him.  If you don't, your next post won't be about drugs, hurting you during sex, abuse, or sitting at a bar all night.

All the best to you.

[extrmeski]

From a guys perspective....  Get out as qucik as you can.  That guy is horribly selfish, has no feelings about you what so ever!  All guys are not like that!  Run away fast as you can if you haven't already!