My husband won't touch me

[tomi47]

My husband was caught cheating on me after 38 years.He had 3 different women and when I confronted him he lied.I have tried everything to rearouse his interest but to no avail. I cannot compete with a 35 year old.I have tried going braless to doing a lap dance for him to no avail. Should I give up.Do you think there may still be someone else. I check on him all the time and there is one women he still calls once in awhile.He keeps wanting me to going visit my parents all the time.He won't touch me and shows no real interest in changing things.


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[jenkaye21]

I am so sorry for your position.  You remind me of my mom, she found out my father was cheating this past summer, they had been married for 36 years.  For months she begged & pleaded & siad she would do *anything* to keep him, it was so sad and pathetic to watch her go through this.  
I know at the time she thought her world was ending and she would never recover  But finally, she has come to realize that she is *much* better off alone than with a worthless piece of cr@p who would treat her that way.  She also thinks that he had been cheating all along, though she never suspected it at all.  
I know it is difficult to reinvent your life after so many years together, but YOU ARE
WORTH MORE than that!!
Good luck, hon.

[heatherlynn22]

he cheated.....why are YOU beating yourself up for him??? he's obviously not worth it. he's a piece of poo. a big piece of poo!!!! don't torture yourself with him anymore!!! i know easier said then done but the man flushed a 38 yr marriage down the crapper for some random women. who knows how many and how long this has been going on! and what if he does come home with some lovely diseases one day? do you really want to end up catching something from a guy who can't keep his fly zipped?

start thinking about yourself. think about what's best for you! not how to keep him happy. HE should be on his hands and knees begging your forgiveness! kissing your feet and telling you that you're his queen. buying you expensive gifts to not kick his worthless but to the curb! not you giving him lap dances and going braless to try and please the lying, cheating, dirtbag!

[glanzaf]

my opinion is that you leave him and find someone else....yeah i know that you are married...but where is his respect where is his love to you .... i wont stay without this in the relastionship and another thing you want him to touch you again to have sex with him i wouldnt do it when i know that he went with another 3 woman YOU DONT KNOW IF HE GET HIV FROM OR OTHER SEX INFECTIONS? i surly will kick his ***

from stephanie

[iam1butterfly]

Sadly, it sounds as though he's emotionally disengaged himself from his relationship with you. What you must decide is whether or not you can, or want, to continue living this way? He may not be ..."interest[ed] in changing things," but maybe, you are!

[eel81]

i don't want to sound harsh but it sounds like you would be better of without him. he obviously is still seeing someone else, and in saying that he obviously doesn't love you.