my child is causing problems everywhere she goes

[a_mother_in_pain28]

my child is 9 and i have two more in the home as well, i have been divorced for 2 years and she has been acting constantly, she hides her homework, wets herself and the bed, doesn't clean up behind herself, keeps redoing every grade that she attends in school, refuses to do homework, spends 8-10 hours on her homework at home, teachers constantly contact me about how she is carrying herself and not eating in school, but when she comes home she smiling saying that she had a good day. she gets the attention, as a matter of fact she gets more attention than the other to siblings and it doesn't help, when the time comes that i find out she's lying it get DCF involve with situations such as physical abuse or sexual abuse, once the truth comes out that it is a lie then she apologize, DCF have visited my home on 3 different situations, false allergations, i don't know what else to do. i do disipline her, i have put her on time out away from the tv, outside playing, ect. but she makes it seem like i am a bad parent, knowing i am a single parent. the other siblings are afraid of being taken away from the home because of these problems. she abuse herself, refuse to eat and if she does eat, she makes the food come back up. i have been having problems with her ever since  last october. she would rather tell someone about another adult problems other than what her problem is. she tries to make everyone think she's going pass out after she gets confronted about a problem, or put up a fight to keep from going school, last october in the mist of accusing adults of physical and sexual abuse she refused to go to school for about almost 4 weeks and when i got tired of it i brought her back from the bus stop and call the police on her so the school wouldn't get DCF involved and it cost me to get in trouble, i have be referred to counseling for myself and her and now DCF will be at my home again tomorrow and i am so afraid cause i love her and i tell her everyday no matter what. i don't know what else to do. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?????


This discussion is related to 6 yr old son having trouble at school/home/everywhere.

[margypops]

Perhaps you could both get some counselling you been offered, she sounds as if she is upset and you are finding it hard to cope it is best to let someone outside step in and help you,so let the dice fall where they may tomorrow, tell them you are both going for counselling ,what ever is going on will then be dicussed and you can formulate a plan of action for both you and your Daughter .Is her Father in the picture can help out with her, maybe having her stay with him sometimes. You do need help with this so let the counsellor advise you what to do,