End stage liver disease

[SisterSue]

My sister has cirrhosis due to HepC.  In the past two months she has lost over 50 pounds in muscle mass, her immune system can't heal leg sores and she has profound weakness.  Her meds include morphine and methadone for pain control, but she needs a lot.  I am her caregiver and need to get input from others who have been there near the end of life and need some help with what to expect.  She has bouts of hep. encepalopathy, ascites, thin blood.  She in on Pegysus therapy.  I know she is nearing the end, but the Doctor says she can't give any time frame, which I understand.   She can't be left alone at all due to pain management and frequent falls.  Thank you.

[cuteus]

Having you with her through her transition to another existence is the best gift she can have.  Is hospice available to her?

They can make this transition a significant experience for all involved and provide you with much needed medical information on the end of life.

A wonderful psychologist wrote several books on death and dying(Kubler-Ross) when you feel strong enough to read them.

best to you and your family

[Amerabrit]

I am so terribly sorry your sister is suffering so much;  I can only imagine how hard it must be for all of you:(

While she may not always be able to express it, your sister must feel blessed to have you with her, she must love you very much...

Stay strong..

[catherine194]

Your sister will eventually go into a hepatic coma. It is imperative that she continue to receive pain control with a morphine drip and ativan for rest. She should be positioned to comfort. If she chooses not to eat or drink that is ok. She will need mouth care and perineal hygeine. Hospice is ok but if you feel she needs more morphine or ativan intravenously and the nurse doesn't speak up. Insist on it. Pallative care is of the utmost importance. Talk to her and if you are comfortable with this tell her it is all right to go. Make sure you have the living will and medical power of attorney on record. If she is a do not resusitate that does not mean no care. She is very lucky to have such a caring sister. My prayers and support.

[woodbeegood]

be sure to take some time for yourself-i know how hard that is to do-i was my mother's primary caretaker in her last weeks; it can be so overwhelming-my thoughts and prayers are with you & your family

[thanbey]

Please clarify why your sister is on Pegasys therapy and is that sick.



Pegasys therapy has no value for an end stage patient and it can make her suffer more.



Is she seeing a hepatologist? If not, why not? If you have a university medical center remotely close to you, has she been seen there? If not, why not?



Has transplant been discussed, and if not,why not?



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I'm hoping that we can make your sister more comfortable, at least, and functional at best.



My heart goes out to you.



thanbey

[twotells]

God bless you for your devotion to your sister.  The end stages of liver disease are difficult to hear about- but important to know about.  I'll pray for you and your sister.



My pain management for neuropathic pain includes a drug called Neurontin.  I don't know whether part of your sister's pain is neuropathic, but if it is, you might want to discuss it with the doc.  Bless you,  Dave

[BD146]

God Bless the two of you. Your sister is blessed to have you by her side when she needs you the most.

I lost my only brother 8 years ago today to the other disease, Aids. You will never imaginge the guilt I have today that I did not spend more time visiting him at the nursing home prior to his departure.  If I had it to do all over again, I would have taken time off from work, which would have been approved through FAMILY CARE LEAVE, and would have been there to at least hold his hand.  He was in the nursing home for 18 months, lost his sight and his mind, and was bed ridden. The only comfort I have is that my mother never missed a day. Even during a blizzard she made it to the nursing home.

I will pray for both of you.  I will pray for her comfort, and I will pray for your strength.  

God Bless.... Edgar

[Sujo]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister.  She is truly blessed to have you in her life.



Sue

[MajNeni]

I know you are experiencing a very difficult, wrenching time.  The others have said many good things already; I would add that you must make sure to take care of yourself, as well.  You need some time out to walk, see the sun, chat with someone, rest, and laugh a little.  Otherwise the load is even heavier.  I know.  I've been there.   Maj Neni

[jonilynn]

God Bless you, and everyone here who has given caring informed advice. I can't even imagine what you are going through.

my prayers are with you.

[LvdByGod]

Sistersue,



this is hard to share but,last year i went through the same thing with my mom. she had the same situation with the cirhosis,leg sores and everything you mentioned...i went through an extreemly hard time with it all...it is a very difficult time you are entering...my heart goes out to you and of course my prayers...



first,i would ask your dr.if they have any hope that she will come out of this. if not, you really should take her off the hepc meds...as mentioned above...they are painful in and of themselves and will not add anytime to her life and is probably making her more sick and miserable...it is a very hard drug for even a "healthy" person to be on...



if she is given any time by the drs and if she is a canidate then i would pursue a transplant vigorously,if at all possible...that is her only hope at this stage in the liver damage...



perhaps the interferon alone, like a "maintanance" dose (which is usually alot less medicine and no ribaviron) may help with the liver inflamation some but,the plan of eradicating the virus at this stage isn't necessary if she doesn't have enough time...(because the liver condition is deteriorating fast with or without the virus at this stage).



so ask the dr what's the point of having her on those painful meds?



maybe they're trying to clear her of the virus before the liver transplant...is she on the list?...if this is the case getting rid of the virus makes sense...get to the bottom of this liver plant issue with the dr...like i said when you are at this point in the disease the transplant is the only hope for survival.



After you get the transplant you can resume trying to kill the virus if you haven't before the transplant...there are people here who have done that very thing...



the hardest part for me to handle with my mom was when she was at the very end, after she went into the coma. the drs proposed that we should take her off various medicines designed to keep her alive...this is where hospice could have helped me i think and her...but,before the coma my mom did not want to talk about it and she said no to the hospice care she didn't want to talk to anyone about what she wanted in the end...that left me and my brother to have to make her decisions for her after she lost consciousness...that was extremely difficult for us because i instinctively wanted to keep her alive no matter what...



for example; in the very end,when the drs decided she was going to die reguardless,they began asking me and my brother to make some very difficult desisions...like, do you want us to stop feeding her and giving her certain meds to keep her going? (not pain medicine of course)...like meds to keep the heart going etc...we couldn't handle these questions emotionally at that time...it was tearing us up...i had wished my mom had signed a last will and testament and let it be known if SHE wanted heroic interventions taken in the end like resuscitation OR for us to just make sure she's kept comfortable and let her go...



see, in the end it's about either making them more comfortable or trying like heck to get them to survive this. you would think that would be the same issue but, it's not... getting food through a tube down the mouth is not comfortable for a dieing person...and they don't need it when there body is shutting down...etc...



so,i hope you can talk to your sister about these things ahead of time so she can decide her own plan.



the other thing i learned is what catherine said above that the real issue,in the end is...pain management...and lots of love and support...spending quality time with her and making her last days meaningful for you both...



i pray for your whole family in this sad time...we had a pastor come talk to us and pray for us in the hospital and this was very good...it gave me alot of peace...and alot of people want to connect spiritually at the end of there time here on earth...they want to understand what happens afterward...she may want to talk to a pastor or have a some scriptures read to her...i personally believe that this is NOT THE END Spiritually for them. the body may die but the person will live on eternally...this is what God in the bible Promises us...and i for one belive it with my whole heart...



i have told you some very hard things...but it sounded like you really wanted help knowing what to expect...i hope i havent been insensitive in what i've said. i feel i can understand what your going through and wished i understood more about when it was happening...but i didn't...and it made things even harder...i kept trying to "save" her life and i think i caused her more pain...but i didn't see this until it was over...i did do my best though out of pure love given what i knew...and that's what counts...



there is a support group on the web that is very informative about cirrhosis care and they will be able to help you in some other ways that are more medical...the people there are really sweet and caring too...perhaps they can hit on somethings we're forgetting about or just don't know about...



my heart and prayers go out to you and your sister...remember,God is our great Comforter...and He loves us so very much and wants to be with us. Cling to Him and he will help you both...reading His word particularly the Psalms and New Testament helped me so much and i and the pastor read them to my mom and it gave her alot to hope for and alot of comfort...my love and prayers go to out you and your sister,  sandi





http://groups.msn.com/CirrhosisSupportGroup/_whatsnew.msnw

[SisterSue]

Thank you everyone for your kind messages and support.  My sister is on Pegysus to keep the viral load down and she has no sides from it.  She was on interferon, peg-intron, ribaviran and Pegysus.  Her liver