Oct 06, 2011
Update Dec. 6, 2011: Well, as you all know, the doctor has put me on bedrest (or at least modified bedrest) with all the stress at work and the size of the baby. I believe I also wrote a comment on this journal to indicate that I had filed a complaint with my company's Human Resource (HR) department and with the government's Equal Employment Opportunity Council (EEOC) to document and hopefully help fix all the discrimination issues my company was causing with me.
The complaint with HR was responded to but was leading nowhere because it was just a bunch of people (though never the two people who were causing all the issues) talking about what happened but not coming up with any solutions & they kept telling me I just need to "grow a thicker skin" to deal with all the criticism I had been receiving. (Even though a lot of the "criticism" I was receiving were exaggerations or out-right lies about my performance at work).
As far as the EEOC, like many government agencies, they are somewhat slow to respond and seem to give the alleged offender (my employer) months to build their case and try to respond to my complaints. Finally though, I was able to tell my employer that I wished for them to respond to the EEOC by letting the EEOC mediate our case and help walk us through how to mend the relationship at work. However, a few days before we were going to meet with the EEOC in person, I went out on medical leave so my employer said we'd need to reschedule because "if I can't be at work for medical reasons, I shouldn't be able to attend a meeting with the EEOC for my medical reasons."
Fine. So we pushed the mediation back to Dec. 7th and were going to do a conference call tomorrow even though I objected that I may be induced early. However, I get a phone call this morning from the EEOC saying my company's attorney needs to reschedule AGAIN for some lame reason and now they want a letter from my doctor saying it's okay for me to even do a conference call since I have "medical issues."
I am (very likely) DAYS from giving birth to our miracle and I feel my employer is just trying to brush this whole thing under the rug. They don't know I'm not planning on coming back after work but they may have an idea that I won't so I feel like they are doing anything they can to procrastinate in hopes that I just throw up my hands and drop this whole case. I don't want to do this but my GOD, this is ridiculous! I just want to address this issue before we have our daughter and get it over with and I don't want them to get away with this!
I am just disgusted with my employer and can't believe they would be this horrible about resolving an issue like this so I can have our baby in peace! I really just need some encouragement to keep on fighting them on this because I truly feel what the two bosses did was wrong. I just don't want to keep on causing un-due stress to myself though by having this case drag on forever. Please, just a few words of wisdom/encouragement would mean so much to me right now! My husband is very supportive but I know he's just as sickened by them as I am right now.
work is not going well. I think they are trying to get me to quit or build a case to fire me. They cut out my bonuses today & my boss has made allegations that are untrue or embellished to make me look bad to his boss. I know that the U.S. is a very litigious society but my husband and I are beginning to put together the fact that, since I got pregnant and told them the news at work, things have gone downhill in several ways.
I just started this job in mid-November 2010. Before I had told them I was pregnant (I didn't tell them until mid-June), I was granted a bonus after only 2 months, then an increase to that monthly bonus right before I told them I was pregnant. Since mid-June, when I told them, I can no longer seem to do anything right and any "mistake" I make is blown way out of proportion. For example, they have made claims that "I didn't fax something that I should have faxed" or "I didn't change an address on a client's account" when they told me to. The first claim regarding the fax was totally fabricated and luckily, I had documentation to support that I had faxed the item. When I proved it to them, they said nothing and offered no apology for their oversight/accusation.
Regarding changing the client's address (which I was just accused of today), they copied me on the e-mail they sent to another co-worker "Barb" and they said "Hey Barb, Please change the address on client's account to ......" So they didn't even tell ME to change it, just copied me on the e-mail, AND Barb has been gone for 3 days since they sent this e-mail and is the ONLY one in our office who has the ability to change an address yet I am getting blamed for the address not getting changed...
There are many other examples such as they tell me to run a report for them a particular way. I do this and give it to them. Then they ***** because they say I did it wrong when I did it the way they just told me to do it. They then tell me a DIFFERENT way to run the report and claim they don't know where I ever got the directions for the other way. This has happened multiple times.
Today, they took me aside yet again to berate me and tell me all I'm doing wrong. This time, however, they tell me that they are also taking away my bonus until/unless I can do better. Before, I was scheduled to receive up to 4 bonus increases and they were supposed to review my progress every 3 months to determine this. Like I said, the first time, I got the bonus before my 3rd month. The second increase came at about 7 months. The third review (I think) happened but no bonus was mentioned at all so I figured, "I guess I have to work harder for the next review." But now they are taking it away completely.
They are making my worklife miserable and I am stressing out a lot over this. This whole week (aside from Tuesday when I called in sick because I couldn't take another day of being reprimanded) I have cried in the bathroom at work at least 3 times a day. This is NOT how I normally react to criticism at work.
My husband and I are really beginning to think this is becoming a theme and that they are trying to get rid of me. They are probably hoping that I quit so they don't have to pay unemployment or short-term disability benefits (when I have the baby). I hate to make it sound like a conspiracy on their part but I have NEVER been treated like this at work in my life and I have zero history of being called out on "mistakes" like this to this degree. Sure, I am not perfect and I have had critiques during reviews at former jobs but never like this.
I am trying to document the lies they make up and continue to do my job but it is getting harder and harder to go to work and not worry about what will happen that day. I was so sick with worry today I could barely eat or stop crying==both things I know are not good for our baby. My husband is SO supportive and is on my side no matter what (and is leaning towards just having me quit). I don't want to do this though in some ways because I don't want these jerks to think they were right about me. However, I can't take this stress much longer and the more lies they make up, the more I start to wonder if it really is me who is the problem.
Thank you for reading this and PLEASE give your advice if you have ever been in a similar spot or knew someone who went through this. I am desparate for help on this subject.