We get multiple posts day after day about these on the forums.  Honestly, we can not really help you much at all with these sorts of questions until after you've went to the clinic and were seen and had a work up started. Some bumps are completely normal. Most lumps and rashes have nothing to do with sti's.  We can not diagnose you online so you need to go and be seen and get these looked at. Once you have done that, by all means come back and post and/ or give an update for us and we'll give you our 2 cents and some support but we can not really help you much at all until after you've had the most basic of testing done.  Honestly not everything is sti related and it takes proper evaluation and testing to figure out what is going on.

Thank you for your understanding with this.

This is directed to men but women feel free to chime in.

Why is it so difficult to carry a condom in your wallet and actually use the condom when you are going to have sex? When I was in college and shortly after college I was dumb and never used condoms. I know why is the pot calling the kettle black? Well because I have wised up and finally I see that all guys need to have condoms. I don't care if the woman says, "I'm clean or I'm on the pill so don't worry" Just because someone says something does not make it true. What if I told you that I had sex with only 6 women and had Gonorrhea 5 times? What if I told you that I had 50 women and never had an STD? What if I told you that I have been with 20 guys and never had an STD? Or was I with 2 guys and has 2 STD's?

Bottom line is it doesn't matter who you are with or how many times you are with them. STD's are all around us and if we are not smart we are going to keep getting them and giving them. Wouldn't it be nice to wake up one moring and hear on the news "The last case of gonorrhea has been cured"? Or how about "Syphilis is now a thing of the past"? Instead with dumb people thinking only of 10 minutes of pleasure we will hear, "Gonorrhea rates spike the year" Or maybe even, "HIV is now more common then the common cold."

Start thinking before you take off your pants. If you don't have a condom then don't do it. Trust me no "piece" is ever worth an STD or HIV. And if you choose not to have sex because you don't have a condom and your partner gets pissed or is not willing to wait, then that is the person who you will see at the clinic and she/he is not someone you want to be associated with.

This was a test of myself if I could be out with friends and just have 1 or 2 and I passed. I had 1 beer before dinner and another with dinner and refused a 3rd later on.
This is not going to become common practice but I wanted to see if my will power was strong.

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I would like to hear from people on what they think about porn. Please men and women respond.
First do you like to watch porn? How do you feel after you have watched it? Do you use it in your relationship? Does your spouse watch it to? What do they think about you watching it?
Do you make your own porn?
Do both parties think it bring spice to the relationship?

Do you have moral objections against porn?

I used to watch porn a lot when I was single or in casual relationships. I would watch it alone and watch it with a partner if she was interested. But after getting married my desire for porn has gone down and now if I do watch it it is from the internet and I don't get much from it. I have watched it with my wife when we were dating, she said she liked watching 2 girls and after teasing her about it she wanted to stop watchng it...but it was all in good fun but I think she took it another way. But also I have started going back to church after several years and found that when I watch porn now I actually feel bad that I am doing it. The church that I worship at has never said anything about porn but I think my own morals have told me that watching porn is not something I should be doing because of the lust factor. I can watch porn that I have made with my wife with no guilt but when I see it with another woman/couple then the guilt starts to set it.

So what are your thoughts about it and about my questions?