Nov 16, 2009 06:09PM
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I've been running around like mad with doctor appointments, school meetings and therapy sessions for my little man. My head has not been screwed on quite straight and my emotions have been on the surface. I did not want to write anything until I felt a little more grounded, but really is there anything that can knock you off your feet harder than feeling helpless in regards to your children?
As some of you know Caleb was diagnosed ADHD, ODD and in the autistic spectrum (now leaning harder towards very high functioning aspergers). I have been working with the school district and having tests done through them in regards to a IEP. I have no idea what I'm doing and feel like I'm flying by the seat of my pants at every turn. We finished up the testing last Thursday. Caleb refused to do most of the test. I could tell he was very nervous. He began to shut down when he got to a question he did not know the answer to. Up until then he was doing really well but his anxiety took over and no amount of coaxing to get him to come back out of his shell. I got teary and the psychologist gave me a big hug which of coarse made me full out cry. She is in agreement with me on a few points and that makes me feel better about this whole process. She agrees that intellectually he is at a eight or nine year old level if not higher. Emotionally he is about three. She also said he should not be in a restrictive special ed class, but finding a good fit is going to be hard. She suggested home schooling. Oh God, if only I could he would have been there months ago but with the medical bills this is producing even if it was slightly possible before it is not now.
Our therapist has suggested a play group in our area that is for high functioning kids in the spectrum. It focuses on social skills. I'll be trying that next month. It's just hard to fit all this in to the limited time we already have together as a family.
I really hope I'm doing the right things. Most things I've done as a parent are pretty black and white. Patience and living in the gray area are not my strong suits.