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Female, 22, sudbury - ON, member since Dec 2006
I've now been dating my bf for 2 years on July 6th...We conceived in December 06 and got our BFP on Jan 4th, 2007..I will never forget that day..The pregnancy experience was filled with alot of controvercial things, however I am looking forward to a happy, calm, stress...
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it makes me SICK...venting
May 12, 2008 03:44PM
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i cant believe anyone could be so f*cking selfish...i have a friend who has twin boys who are going to be 2 in november. After having a m/c at 4 months her and her ex fiance PLANNED these babies.. I have tried being supportive towards her decision to break up with him and whatnot but it sickens me...since her babies were about 4 months of age she started bar hopping etc and he would babysit.. well when we last spoke she was all about partying.. this girl will go out every weekend in the week...doesn't matter.. she is back to living with her mom because she could no longer afford the appt she was living in.. I am really beginning to put 2 and 2 together.. I dont think that some of her friends are very supportive of her because IF she manages to have her boys for a weekend they will make her feel guilty of not going out and that it wasnt the same because oh poor little her she had to stay home with her boys.. hell f*cking lo she is a MOTHER and she is going through a seperation.. these boys ought to need her more than they have ever needed ANYONE....she used to complain about how she didnt like that her ex fiance would look at porn on the internet...but yet they never had sex because she was always too tired but yet was never too tired to go out and party and get smashed.. it just drives me insane.. now with the long weekend coming up it is ALL she has been mentioning on her chat name.. i would LOVE to just tell her to smarten up and take those kids as a priority because in my eyes as well as those who have a head on their shoulders...she is being irresponsible and not thinking about her children first...
also...it sickens me REALLY much that women can look down at me like im trash because I look young and have a baby but my gosh.. i take darn good care of my kid.. he has more than he needs and always will.. i wanted him and i am not going to turn my back on him.. he will get priority to everything before anyone else.. it doesnt matter if i had to go to the end of the world to get it OR if i had to die for him to have it.. i would do ANYTHING for my baby...but yet it disgusts me how some women will look down on me.. yeah so what i'm 22...what about those women who are in their late 20's and their kids stink.. wear rags while the mom can afford to buy herself a 200$ pair of brand named jeans but yet she can't even spend 20$ on an outfit for her kids OR even spend a dollar at the dollar store to buy them some cheapy toy...that makes me sick too.. i hate women who are like that.. they will look down on you for being young but FACK...at least im trying really hard...im not out partying...im not out drinking...im not out doing whatever with whoever...im with my son.. and if someone doesnt want my son around they can just go to hell...i am sick of these kinds of people.. they are selfish...
then you get these nasty a$$ people who complain about how they cant afford FOOD for their kids but yet will SELL literally toys.. dryer whatever just to get a case of beer...my friggen god who the hell do you think you are???? it makes me sooooo mad....people like that shouldnt be able to have children EVER... a pitty excuse for a mother...then dont even get me started about those maury cases... my god.. you spread your legs without using protection and once that baby's here NOW you want money???....REALIZE IT BEFORE...(i know some situations are a little difficult so thats a little more different.. mistakes happen BUT sleeping with 5 different man in a MONTH..thats NOT a mistake...) and another thing this might be the hormones talking because im PMS'ing but if you feel offended by this look away because you are probably one of those poor excuses of a mother too....i dont regret any words i have said in here...this is my honest thoughts and blog and i have a right...if people think they have the right to look upon on me like that and think I am a horrible mother because of how young I look..then why shouldn';t i be allowed to express my views????
also...it sickens me REALLY much that women can look down at me like im trash because I look young and have a baby but my gosh.. i take darn good care of my kid.. he has more than he needs and always will.. i wanted him and i am not going to turn my back on him.. he will get priority to everything before anyone else.. it doesnt matter if i had to go to the end of the world to get it OR if i had to die for him to have it.. i would do ANYTHING for my baby...but yet it disgusts me how some women will look down on me.. yeah so what i'm 22...what about those women who are in their late 20's and their kids stink.. wear rags while the mom can afford to buy herself a 200$ pair of brand named jeans but yet she can't even spend 20$ on an outfit for her kids OR even spend a dollar at the dollar store to buy them some cheapy toy...that makes me sick too.. i hate women who are like that.. they will look down on you for being young but FACK...at least im trying really hard...im not out partying...im not out drinking...im not out doing whatever with whoever...im with my son.. and if someone doesnt want my son around they can just go to hell...i am sick of these kinds of people.. they are selfish...
then you get these nasty a$$ people who complain about how they cant afford FOOD for their kids but yet will SELL literally toys.. dryer whatever just to get a case of beer...my friggen god who the hell do you think you are???? it makes me sooooo mad....people like that shouldnt be able to have children EVER... a pitty excuse for a mother...then dont even get me started about those maury cases... my god.. you spread your legs without using protection and once that baby's here NOW you want money???....REALIZE IT BEFORE...(i know some situations are a little difficult so thats a little more different.. mistakes happen BUT sleeping with 5 different man in a MONTH..thats NOT a mistake...) and another thing this might be the hormones talking because im PMS'ing but if you feel offended by this look away because you are probably one of those poor excuses of a mother too....i dont regret any words i have said in here...this is my honest thoughts and blog and i have a right...if people think they have the right to look upon on me like that and think I am a horrible mother because of how young I look..then why shouldn';t i be allowed to express my views????
lol you go girl, i agree with what your saying. Let it all out
A-fricken-men. I agree just about 110% with everything you've just said and I'm sure when I am 22 I'll be saying the exact same things you just did [I'm not there yet, and I don't have my son just yet, but kind of in the same boat, being young and all] I feel children should be top priority over everything. I'm taking the time now before he arrives to mourn over everything that I will have to sacrifice and although I know I will go without doing a lot of things girls my age will get to do, I have already accepted it and I am perfectly okay with that.. no matter WHAT, my son will ALWAYS come first and I plan to try as hard as I possibly can to do whatever I can for him, even though I know how many other peopld will look down on me for being young. You are not alone.
I really hate people like that. Gosh if I go out its only like once a month and I NEVER drink and am only gone for like 2 or 3 hours. Even then all I do is talk about Aspen or think about her. Every time I have extra money I am always buying things for her. I don't even remember the last time I bought something for me. Plus I've decided that if I do start dating I don't want her to meet ANY of the men until we are in a steady relationship since I don't want too many people coming in and out of her life. I take Aspen EVERYWHERE with me. Even when I go to play volleyball or something I bring a blanket and let her play with toys and always ask one of my friends to keep an eye on her when its my turn to play. I even bring her to my modeling shoots and make them stop when she gets fussy so that I can calm her down and take care of her needs. I don't care if people get annoyed with it or wish that I had left her at home. She is my daughter and I want her with me!
People that can't make their child their top priority make me sick. They shouldn't even be having kids. I have so many people look down on me for being a young mother but at least I can say I give Aspen everything and more and am always there for her when she needs me.
People that can't make their child their top priority make me sick. They shouldn't even be having kids. I have so many people look down on me for being a young mother but at least I can say I give Aspen everything and more and am always there for her when she needs me.
I'm sorry for having vented but it just makes me sick...I mean like how can people do this to their children.. Regardless your age single or not it is your responsibility as a mother to provide for your child by any means you can(legally of course I hope...) but a mother SHOULD do anything for her baby.. Heck if i really had to I would steal or ask for money or freggin sell my body...type of thing.. maybe i wouldnt..i'd be way too shy...and feel gross....but you know what i mean.. i would do anything for my baby boy...i stock stock and stock it's all i do...speaking of...mommy duty calls..
Its called reality. Its why I'm pro choice. There are women who are not meant to parent. I see them every day.
I agree with you, makes my blood boil as well to see mothers not looking after their kids, I always feel sorry for the little ones thinking they never asked to be brought into this world.
On a different note, your baby boy is beautiful!! Such a little sweetheart!! :)
On a different note, your baby boy is beautiful!! Such a little sweetheart!! :)
i agree 100% i had my first at 18 and the looks i got were ridiculous. i look after my kids i am now 26 with 3 kids and get the same response everytime have they got the same father. it so annoys me. i am not a wh*re just because i have 3 kids at a young age. i can look after my kids, my kids get food and clothing and anything else they need before i even think of myself. no matter waht they come first. people need to stop looking at young mums with disgust we are not all sl*ts just out for an easy way to get money. i have seen kids at my kids school with no lunches, it breaks my heart and its not there fault, i always say to my kids if you see them with nothing share, but i don't really see why i should feed someone elses kid. now don't get me wrong i don't mind doing it, they can't starve after all, but you would think these parents would want to look after there kids, were is that maternal instinct. it's not always the young ones either that do this. going out aprtying or whatever, so people need to relise that young mums are just as good if not better then some mums.
SO DON'T JUDGE WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW
SO DON'T JUDGE WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW
u hit the nail on the head. i get the looks b/c im 22/23 in a month and i have two boys. my oldest will be 4 next month, makimg me 19 when i had him. i worked and stayed in college through out the pregnancy so that i would be able to do good by him. my best friend isn't a 'party mom' but i fear she had her son, simply b/c i had a baby. she never takes care of him. she's almost lost him TWICE! he ran out of a restraunt and was gone for 15min b4 she knew it and found him at a dunkin donut drive through, she lets pills all around the house and he eats them and instead of taking him to the ER cuz she knows she'll get in trouble she manually pumps his stomach (he's 2) or sticks her fingers down his throat till he vomits. you just foucs on ur little one and thats all that matters, show them how a real mother mothers a child. hopefully they will wake up and see u being a role-model and follow.
I just stumbled on this post when I put up a suggestion, but way to go honey. You vent all you want. It THOUROUGHLY disgusts me that people have children and than treat them worse than a person in a concentration camp. I have seen FAT a&& mother's with children that look like they are from a 3rd world country and yes I can tell when a child is just skinny and when they are underfed. You can see it in there facial structure. The stories of atrocities that take place against some children is so HORRIFIC I can barely watch the news anymore. I told a lady in the grocery store one day that I wondered what her kids would remember most, her slapping the **** out of them or her calling them f..king *******; they were about 2 & 4. I got her license plate number, found out her info from DMV (I have friends) and called child protective services. I am glad I did, turns out the home was a rat's nest literally and they took the kids and they are being raised by a very loving aunt and uncle. I ran into her about a year later in the same store and she started such a scene they had to call the cops. Let this be a warning, if you are going to make a public spectacle of yourself don't do it with an ounce of weed in your purse, which the cops found when they searched her before they hauled her off.
When I got divorced when I was 32 I had two small girls and to this day my oldest one's biggest complaint is that I didn't go out enough with my friends and I was ALWAYS home, when not at work or college. I'll take that complaint!!!!! LOL As for the Maury thing? If you don't know who your babies father is after 2 tries you are officially a s!ut. On another note, if you love your BF enough to sleep with him love him and yourself enough to use protection.
If you are living with someone who is not your babies father, and the child calls him daddy, which I have seen many times than make him marry you. If you love him enough to let your child call him daddy, than love him enough to marry him and let your child know that his daddy is your husband. Same goes for the guys.
NATEMOMMA27: I know it is hard to report a friend, but you have a legal and a moral responsibility to report this friend for her CRIMINAL behavior. H*ll send me an email with the info and I'll do it. What happens if that baby dies and that is a very real possibility? How would you feel than about not doing anything? Do you understand what it does to a baby to vomit constantly. PLEASE report her and save that baby a lifetime of misery.
TO ALL YOU YOUNG MOMS: Screw people's stupid looks. Don't ever let them see you look down when they look at you. Don't allow them to make you feel ashamed or uncomfortable about having your child. Those same people may be older, but they may be lousy parents also. People used to get married and have kids in their late teens, which I certainly don't advocate at all, but the only reason people think it is wrong, is because it is viewed as wrong now, but it wasn't always. Do not take this to mean I approve of people under 18 having kids, but good Lord, people don't help anything by making you feel like white trash. I am sure these same people consider themselves good Christians. They turn there backs on others in a shameful manner, they are just lucky that God does not turn his back on them.
Good luck to all of you young moms. Remeber, when it gets stressful raising a child by yourself and it does at times, there is help out there. There are a ton of free programs and if you get involved with other moms, it won't be so stressful. Share the load, find a friend who has kids and swap off babysitting so you can go out occasionally. No one expects any parent to give up their whole life.....just most of it.
When I got divorced when I was 32 I had two small girls and to this day my oldest one's biggest complaint is that I didn't go out enough with my friends and I was ALWAYS home, when not at work or college. I'll take that complaint!!!!! LOL As for the Maury thing? If you don't know who your babies father is after 2 tries you are officially a s!ut. On another note, if you love your BF enough to sleep with him love him and yourself enough to use protection.
If you are living with someone who is not your babies father, and the child calls him daddy, which I have seen many times than make him marry you. If you love him enough to let your child call him daddy, than love him enough to marry him and let your child know that his daddy is your husband. Same goes for the guys.
NATEMOMMA27: I know it is hard to report a friend, but you have a legal and a moral responsibility to report this friend for her CRIMINAL behavior. H*ll send me an email with the info and I'll do it. What happens if that baby dies and that is a very real possibility? How would you feel than about not doing anything? Do you understand what it does to a baby to vomit constantly. PLEASE report her and save that baby a lifetime of misery.
TO ALL YOU YOUNG MOMS: Screw people's stupid looks. Don't ever let them see you look down when they look at you. Don't allow them to make you feel ashamed or uncomfortable about having your child. Those same people may be older, but they may be lousy parents also. People used to get married and have kids in their late teens, which I certainly don't advocate at all, but the only reason people think it is wrong, is because it is viewed as wrong now, but it wasn't always. Do not take this to mean I approve of people under 18 having kids, but good Lord, people don't help anything by making you feel like white trash. I am sure these same people consider themselves good Christians. They turn there backs on others in a shameful manner, they are just lucky that God does not turn his back on them.
Good luck to all of you young moms. Remeber, when it gets stressful raising a child by yourself and it does at times, there is help out there. There are a ton of free programs and if you get involved with other moms, it won't be so stressful. Share the load, find a friend who has kids and swap off babysitting so you can go out occasionally. No one expects any parent to give up their whole life.....just most of it.
i hope know one thinks here htat i meant that i have three kids to 3 different fathers, i don't theu all have the same father, we are now happily married and have been for 3 years we ahve bben together for 8 years now and love being parents.
i do agree that you can't let people get away with this. i personally don't know if i could report a friend but if i knew something was wrong then i would ahve no choice, it is in the best interest of the child
i do agree that you can't let people get away with this. i personally don't know if i could report a friend but if i knew something was wrong then i would ahve no choice, it is in the best interest of the child
it is ALWAYS in the best interest of the child HENCE why i chose the field i am in...I am a Child and YOUTH worker and i have reported a friend before for hitting her 2 month old baby because he would not stop crying....HE IS A BABY!!!!! My friend's ex mother in law called the cops on her and the cops said nothing no charges or anything could be done because what she does on her own time without the kids has nothing to do with anyone....So yeah get rid of your kids make them sleep elsewhere so you can party hardy? RIIIGHT...our system now days is full of CR*P
i agree, we ahve these children and we don't want to give up our party lives it is so ridiculous, these children are our blood and we need to protect them and to leave them elsewhere to go out partying all night is not ok in my books. i would rather be at home with my children then be out drinking. i would rather get paint all over my good shirt, then go out with friends, or go away for the weekend without them. children are our lives they are our future and they need to be taken care of.
to jan214
i did report her to child protective services and they did a sh*tty job! they demanded the baby be taken for a check up, which she did...but by the time they got around to her case (4 months later) the baby was 'fine'. they never even did a home evaluation. i do feel so badly for that baby. he will be 3 in November and he doesn't speak well/much at all because no one works with him. im lost as to where to turn next so if any one has any suggestions please let me know, i have no shame in helping a child if it mean reporting his parent(s).
i did report her to child protective services and they did a sh*tty job! they demanded the baby be taken for a check up, which she did...but by the time they got around to her case (4 months later) the baby was 'fine'. they never even did a home evaluation. i do feel so badly for that baby. he will be 3 in November and he doesn't speak well/much at all because no one works with him. im lost as to where to turn next so if any one has any suggestions please let me know, i have no shame in helping a child if it mean reporting his parent(s).
keep reporting...thats how our system works here.. if they get enough reports they finally do something its just sad that sometimes the kids die and it HAS happened and that drives me nuts.. ive worked for the system and i would like to again and maybe make a difference.. maybe not in the whole system but making a difference in one child's life will give me ever so happiness...
Hi.People who put case of beer and pack of cigarettes before their children make me sick!!!! . My wife was just diagnosed with Ovarien Cancer at 28 and we might never have children....my blood boils hearing this!!!! .
CYW I am so glad you wrote this .Keep up a good work and be there for your child no matter what. My Dad took of when I was 2 years old and my Mama raised me on her own to be a good man.
Tke care, John.
CYW I am so glad you wrote this .Keep up a good work and be there for your child no matter what. My Dad took of when I was 2 years old and my Mama raised me on her own to be a good man.
Tke care, John.
Your friend hit her TWO MONTH OLD?! I'd have reported them as well. Just keep writing and venting, get all those feelings out! You're only one year younger than me and I have 2 children, trying for our third. I am very mature for my age, always have been. And yet I see some looks, but *I* know that I'm a great mother, so I don't let it get to me. Don't worry about what others think about you, CYW! Your son looks well-loved and happy!!!
i totally understand it is horrible to have to hear and see peoplr treat there kid that way
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