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What a baby shower it was... if you can call it that
Jul 20, 2009 11:34AM
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So LUCKILY we had 2 showers or other wise, we would have been completely screwed!! We had our california shower last weekend, it turned out small but decent. We got a lot of stuff, mainly clothes and diapers. Didnt get any bottles, no lotions or soaps, no entertainment things, basically nothing off of our registries...(not even gift cards) so we have a lot we still have to buy and the move just caught up with us so we dont know how thats going to happen, but thats a whole other story...
Our shower here in Vegas was this last Saturday. We really only had it because i had an enormous amount of people telling me that they better be invited to the shower, they wee so excited, they couldnt wait...So 2 months ago i started planning it and sent out evites. They also got reminders one month before, one week before, and 24 hours before. Well, we had 5 people, YES 5 people show up, 49 were invited....im seriously trying not to cry now...its not about the gifts at this point. We went through HELL last year loosing Aidyn and didnt get to have a shower to celebrate him, we had a funeral and yet no one, not a single person that threw a fit about us having a shower showed. We even had 14 people RSVP with YES and yet 4 of them changed to NO Friday. The person that was suppose to bring the games and prizes didnt even have the courtesy to call me Friday, she sent an email saying she wasnt coming that i didnt get till Saturday morning, so i had no clue. We had to rush out Saturday morning to pick up prizes (which actually ended up working GREAT, we bought the little bottles of alcohol and condoms and wrapped them up together, they turned out to be a great hit with the 5 that showed so...) And thank goodness i still had left over games from the previous week. Someone that was even bringing food sent a text just a few hours before (2 hours exactly) that she was going to be late but will def be there, she never showed.
So the next time some one needs me for whatever reason, to help with this or that, to bring something to the party, to sew this up for them...SORRY, i just cant do it for whatever reason. The house was completely decorated, i made an awesome cake, drinks, snacks, just the fun of celebrating the new baby and NO ONE CARED enough to even let us know they werent going to make it...i now know the true difference between my friends and my acquaintances!! I am so thankful for the few that did come. I know now too that at least i mean as much to them as they mean to me...
Our shower here in Vegas was this last Saturday. We really only had it because i had an enormous amount of people telling me that they better be invited to the shower, they wee so excited, they couldnt wait...So 2 months ago i started planning it and sent out evites. They also got reminders one month before, one week before, and 24 hours before. Well, we had 5 people, YES 5 people show up, 49 were invited....im seriously trying not to cry now...its not about the gifts at this point. We went through HELL last year loosing Aidyn and didnt get to have a shower to celebrate him, we had a funeral and yet no one, not a single person that threw a fit about us having a shower showed. We even had 14 people RSVP with YES and yet 4 of them changed to NO Friday. The person that was suppose to bring the games and prizes didnt even have the courtesy to call me Friday, she sent an email saying she wasnt coming that i didnt get till Saturday morning, so i had no clue. We had to rush out Saturday morning to pick up prizes (which actually ended up working GREAT, we bought the little bottles of alcohol and condoms and wrapped them up together, they turned out to be a great hit with the 5 that showed so...) And thank goodness i still had left over games from the previous week. Someone that was even bringing food sent a text just a few hours before (2 hours exactly) that she was going to be late but will def be there, she never showed.
So the next time some one needs me for whatever reason, to help with this or that, to bring something to the party, to sew this up for them...SORRY, i just cant do it for whatever reason. The house was completely decorated, i made an awesome cake, drinks, snacks, just the fun of celebrating the new baby and NO ONE CARED enough to even let us know they werent going to make it...i now know the true difference between my friends and my acquaintances!! I am so thankful for the few that did come. I know now too that at least i mean as much to them as they mean to me...
You definately know who your friends are now. Sorry things didn't turn out the way you expected.
I am so sorry, things turned out that way. You should have a two huge parties to spoil you! That is why I always wish my MH friends lived really close, because we would have given you one heck of a party!!!!
Just know that we care and we are all here cheering you and Bryce on!!!!!
Rachel
Just know that we care and we are all here cheering you and Bryce on!!!!!
Rachel
im so sorry. some people did that to me. they told me oh yeah they were comming and they were bringing this and that...they either did not call and just not show up...or they sent me a text oh about an hour before the party started!
its good though that your first shower turned out really good. yes you may not have gotten things off your registry...but at least you got a lot of clothes and diapers
its good though that your first shower turned out really good. yes you may not have gotten things off your registry...but at least you got a lot of clothes and diapers
I am so sorry. That is so frustrating and disappointing. Look at the bright side you know who your true friends are and u can push the rest out of your life.
Sorry your shower didn't turn out as planned. I agree with the ladies above, now you know who you can really count on...My showwer is August 1st and I know that I will be in the same boat...people RSVPing, but not showing...I am not going to let it bother me and just enjoy my day with those who loved me enough to be there for me during this awesome time in my life!
Hugs,
Tijuana
Hugs,
Tijuana
Oh Amber...I teared up just now reading that. I would have been there for you in heartbeat. Funny that internet friends seem stronger than the real life ones sometimes....
You just focus on your precious little boy and trust me when I say that when you see him for the first time that nothing else matters.
Hugs,
Kele
You just focus on your precious little boy and trust me when I say that when you see him for the first time that nothing else matters.
Hugs,
Kele
Well, I'm going to have to say..hmmm..... these days and with these hormones, I HOLD GRUDGES! I would be hurt and ANGRY if I were you. I think I would take the immature route and not share any details with anyone, hee, hee... I'm so sorry for you because it was YOUR day and some chose to be insensitive.
Thanks ladies, I honesty do feel like I have stronger friendships with the woman on here then I do with the people I know offline. And I know any of you would have been there for us!! We all understand each other and that makes us bond even without actually meeting =)
As for what you said Kelly, that's how I feel! It hurts that no one wanted to celebrate this miracle with us, like Juana said, it's the most awesome time in our lives but whatever!! Were doing fine is all they need to know since they don't obviously really care anyway right? Oh well, 9 more weeks and this little monkey will be here and WE cannot wait to meet him!! (oh and just to add, my mother is one of those that isn't even here for us)
As for what you said Kelly, that's how I feel! It hurts that no one wanted to celebrate this miracle with us, like Juana said, it's the most awesome time in our lives but whatever!! Were doing fine is all they need to know since they don't obviously really care anyway right? Oh well, 9 more weeks and this little monkey will be here and WE cannot wait to meet him!! (oh and just to add, my mother is one of those that isn't even here for us)
Your own mother didn't show up?
Oh my gosh!!! That is so awful and you do have a right to be upset. I had a baby shower like that once, that my MIL threw for me. She invited HER friends (people I didn't even know) and 2 or 3 showed up. It was so awkward and weird. With my 2nd daughter she wanted to do another shower and the only people who came were my 2 SILs. She never invites my family or people I know.
So I do understand the disappointment (not even talking about gifts!!! Just wanting people to celebrate your little miracle)! *HUGS*
So I do understand the disappointment (not even talking about gifts!!! Just wanting people to celebrate your little miracle)! *HUGS*
First off, I'm so sorry your shower didn't turn out like you wanted. Secondly, they didn't care enough to show up for your shower, so don't let them know when little Bryce comes into this world!!! Payback is a B****! That's what I would do. I'm sorry sweetie, I know that showers are not about the gifts, but about celebrating a new life that is soon going to be with us. We should throw you an online shower....
I am soooo sorry you went through that!! That is just awful. I would be really mad and upset as well. At least you know who your real friends are!! (((HUGS)))
You guys are too kind, I mean at least you all understand what I'm sayig, I didn't want the people that didn't come to think I was upset over gifts. We will get all we need by all means but just being here with us would have meant so much and it really hurts. As for my mom, she lives in Wisconsin so I already knew she wouldn't come but she has no intentions of coming when the baby is born. She has already said that basically. And you would think that she would try harder to show her excitement about the baby but believe it or not, every time I talk to her, which isn't often, all she talks about is her work, her bf, and her bf's mom... Like we don't even matter. I have to say I was so blessed with an amazing MIL who I love so much and she is beyond excited so I at least have her and my FIL who both call often to check on me! I invited her into the delivery room and she was actually speechless. Just wish my actual mom was as excited!
Thank you all for your comments, it's over and done but I've been crying off and on and the things you have all said have at least brought some smiles, we all need to find a central place an meet one day =)
Thank you all for your comments, it's over and done but I've been crying off and on and the things you have all said have at least brought some smiles, we all need to find a central place an meet one day =)
It's too bad your mom isn't more interested in being apart of the baby's life. She should be thrilled for you! I've learned most people don't live up to expectations and someone will always disappoint you. I hope you can get passed it and not let it bother you. Just know we are all here for you. We cried tears of sadness when we read about your first born and soon we will cry tears of happiness we you get to hold this sweet new baby in your arms.
geez have 2! make me cry at work will you! :)
Asking- so sorry your shower didn't turn out better... and I am sorry your mom is being this way- I can't imagine how hurtful that is! but like you said- only 9 weeks! and we all wish we could hold him in our arms!!! :)
Asking- so sorry your shower didn't turn out better... and I am sorry your mom is being this way- I can't imagine how hurtful that is! but like you said- only 9 weeks! and we all wish we could hold him in our arms!!! :)
Amberlee......you know I would have been there for you in a heartbeat!!! No questions asked.......I would have celebrated that day with you as if it were for one of my own!!
Im so sorry hun....people really so S*ck sometimes...its just how it works!!
Lots of hugs your way girl....just know that we all love you!
Im so sorry hun....people really so S*ck sometimes...its just how it works!!
Lots of hugs your way girl....just know that we all love you!
Oh, sorry to hear that Amberlee. Something similar happened to me this weekend too. I was expecting about 50-60 people and only 45 showed up. I hate when people RSVP and then don't even bother coming. I guess they don't realize the true meaning of RSVPing and the expense attached to it. When a person RSVP that means they ARE COMING! It's ashame but what can you do. I had two of my "friends" tell me on Friday that they would be there and didn't bother coming on Sat. Oh well, my shower turn out well with or without them. I'm sure not going to return their emails or calls with a lame excuse for about a week. LOL. That's what they get for messing with a preggo hormonal woman!
I remember when I had my shower for my second, I went through a situation where my best friend said she was going to throw the shower, be involved, this and that-- and then it all fell apart (loads of excuses started pouring in, and we drifted apart). She showed last minute to the shower my mom stepped in to throw, but I was very hurt by her conduct during that pregnancy and some of the others that said "i'll be there'' or ''can't wait to come''- and then never showed or apologized for not making it. It hurt a lot. When I came on here to vent, some people told me to just get over it and I *appeared* selfish, it was a little saddening. I know pregnancy hormones played a part, but it is never fun to hear: '$uck it up' after you already feel terrible. Honestly, to me it was not about gifts or anything else. I just wanted my good friend to be there for me, and I was mourning the loss of our friendship. I have since learned to lower my expectations of people in general and remember those who I know I can always count on.
In your case, after all you have gone through, I am so surprised that there were not more people out there that showed up just to support you and celebrate this precious new life! What an honor to be counted worthy to come, shame on those that backed out and left you hanging. I am sorry to hear this happened. I think it happens to the best of us. I am sure if we all could have made it, we would. It is such a special life we are talking about! It is amazing that you only have 9 weeks to go, and we will all be here to celebrate when that time comes. Congrats on making it this far, and remember that little baby is the real treasure!
~Bops
In your case, after all you have gone through, I am so surprised that there were not more people out there that showed up just to support you and celebrate this precious new life! What an honor to be counted worthy to come, shame on those that backed out and left you hanging. I am sorry to hear this happened. I think it happens to the best of us. I am sure if we all could have made it, we would. It is such a special life we are talking about! It is amazing that you only have 9 weeks to go, and we will all be here to celebrate when that time comes. Congrats on making it this far, and remember that little baby is the real treasure!
~Bops
That is so sad. I cancelled my own baby shower for that exact reason I knew I would spend a lot of money putting it together and nobody would show. :( I can't believe how some people are.
Keep your head held high~ Hugs!!!
Keep your head held high~ Hugs!!!
So sorry you had to go through this after everything you have been through. It is a time to celebrate and enjoy not be upset by inconsiderate people. It is hard to believe that people who are "friends" can behave that way!!! Cherish your real and close friends because they will always be there for you. I really believe it is best to have few really good friends rather than a whole bunch of ok ones!!
Either way it is such a miracle and you have so much to celebrate!
Either way it is such a miracle and you have so much to celebrate!
Amberlee.. I am so sorry that happened. You would think with all that happened last year your friend would be super excited to celebrate with you..I'm glad you have you MIL and FIL.. The weeks will go by fast and you will have you blessing in your arms.. Congrats again!
Dont get discouraged...you really know whats important and what counts!
OMG how awful!! I am so sorry you had to go through all of that!! Keep your chin up girl it will be time to celebrate soon!! Hugs!! :)
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