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I need help.
Aug 31, 2009 01:06PM
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My name is Danielle, I'm 15 i have been taking care of my little brother & sister sense i was 6. And my mom thanks that i never do anything for her or clean the house. I made dinner for my brother & sister for over 3 years and took care of them. When I was 8, my mom would go out at night and didn't come back for like 2 or 3 days I kept telling my 2 year old sister it was ok, and mom would be home soon. And then we moved in with my aunt and my mom got and job. She was only home after 7 p.m until we left for school. After school i took care of her kids. My aunt would come home from her first job and be there for us just for a couple of hours but it was the closes thing i had to a mother. Then she would leave to go to her 2nd job. than our mom would be home at 7. Most nights she told my aunt she was going to her boyfriends, and she wouldn't be home until the next day. Now after taking care of her kids for so long I just want a break. she think sense I don't do as much as I use to that I don't help at all. I clean up after my brother & sister, I clean up the living room, the kitchen, and my & my sisters room. She is taking me to court so I can get help. She think that I don't listen, and i take over the mother role, and I'm an unruly child. But when you take care of your little siblings for over 9 years it hard to just lay back and let your mother finely try to do her part. So if any of you who read this know anything that can help me and my mom get along please tell me. Thanks
Hi Danielle,
I'm sorry that you had to grow up way too fast because of your mothers selfishness. You have done nothing wrong, and for your mother to think that you are being defiant and need help because you no longer want her responsibilities, she is the one that needs help Danielle. I know that kids blame themselves for things, but in this case, I hope that you do not blame yourself for the relationship problems with your mom, because she is at fault 100% for not being a mom in the first place. I'm sorry that you feel that you are the one that should be asking how to make your relationship better with her, because it is her that should be asking herself that question.
I think that no matter what you do for your mom, and you have obviously done more than any kid could or should do, she will never be happy, and not because of anything that you have or haven't done, it's because she is not happy with herself. She probably has alot of guilt and anger over her own actions as a parent and is taking it out on you because she has no one else to take it out on.
So please know that you have done more for her than any kid should ever have to do, and she took away part of your childhood and someday she will regret choosing her needs over her childrens and that she was not there for you.
If you need someone to talk to I am here. Take care
I'm sorry that you had to grow up way too fast because of your mothers selfishness. You have done nothing wrong, and for your mother to think that you are being defiant and need help because you no longer want her responsibilities, she is the one that needs help Danielle. I know that kids blame themselves for things, but in this case, I hope that you do not blame yourself for the relationship problems with your mom, because she is at fault 100% for not being a mom in the first place. I'm sorry that you feel that you are the one that should be asking how to make your relationship better with her, because it is her that should be asking herself that question.
I think that no matter what you do for your mom, and you have obviously done more than any kid could or should do, she will never be happy, and not because of anything that you have or haven't done, it's because she is not happy with herself. She probably has alot of guilt and anger over her own actions as a parent and is taking it out on you because she has no one else to take it out on.
So please know that you have done more for her than any kid should ever have to do, and she took away part of your childhood and someday she will regret choosing her needs over her childrens and that she was not there for you.
If you need someone to talk to I am here. Take care
However you are still living at home and as you said you want to get along with her, have you asked her to listen to you,tell her how you feel ,perhaps you could ask the Aunty to say something on your behalf,it sounds like you have done an awful lot,you have a lot of good years coming up and maybe when you are feeling low you could focus on the positive things that will happen , how is school going, have you got friends, tell Mom you want time to see them and go to a movie ,time for you. How do you mean she is taking you to court?
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