Is this Rude?????? Please Respond

It is not rude at all.

Its one of my major gripes with the big push in the hospital for family centered care.  Its a circus in the delivery room now.  Anyone and everyone can come and gawk at your perineum while you experience the most private and special moment of your life.  
They can be there, possibly making you feel self conscious when you offer your breast to your baby for the first time in those first wonderful, awkward moments.
Many new mothers simply cannot say no to family members, and thus the flood gates open so that no ones feelings are hurt.  

If I have a vote, I'd say nix everyone except for very, very close family (if you choose to have them) until you guys are home and in some sort of routine.  

peek you said it perfectly!  lindsey i have had two kids and i can say its a wonderful thing to have mom visit, maybe your best friend, but really when you are having gas pains, sore areas, the frustration of trying to nurse for the first time and its not going well, it can be overwhelming to some.  i think people should wait, give it at least a week, the baby isnt going anywhere lol.  good luck and congrats!

I agree. Other than close family you should feel comfortable asking the others to give you some time to settle. This is your special time and they should understand.

i agree also!  when i had my first it was an emergency c-section and i wasn't prepared for the pain i felt afterwards and was really scared of dropping the baby or something...  now that i look back i know that was silly but at the time i was really scared.  so anyways, i wanted to hold off for just a little to hold her (and i was in and out of conciousness too) and w/ all the family we had there visiting, i ended up being the last person to hold my new baby girl!  

now that we've gone through it a few times, my parents (and sis) and dh's parents are there when the baby is born (but they're always around on a regular basis anyways) and everyone else will come and visit at the hospital once before we leave.

you're definately entiltled to do things how you want and everyone should respect that!!!  

Thank you for all your advice. I am just afraid that people are going to think of me as being ignorant

This is one of the few times in life when what you want overrules what anyone else wants.  You are the one having the baby!  The rules I set with my family were not popular, but I stuck to my guns, and despite some complaining, they respected them.  I wanted some time to get into a routine at home before having guests, but I knew that our families would want to see the baby right away.  As a compromise, I said they could come see the baby in the hospital but to leave us alone once we got home.  My fil is always in a hurry, so he showed up at the hospital while I was still in early labor.  I REFUSED to let him come in- dh went to see him in the waiting room.  I didn't want any of my own family there, much less my fil!!!   The visiting hours were from 9am-9pm, and my dd was born at 9pm exactly, so she gave us 12 hours of bonding time before the family started showing up.  
One thing I didn't consider is that the baby sleeps for most of the first 24 hours after birth.  In retrospect, I wish I'd spent more of that time sleeping and less "hosting" family, because that was my last chance to get a lot of sleep!  Honestly though, at the hospital there is always someone waking you to take your temperature, give you medication, etc, and there was no way I could keep my family from seeing this baby they'd waited for for so many years.
My mom was very disappointed because she'd had a fantasy that when I had a baby she'd come and live with us for the first month to help out.  I'm sure with some mothers/daughters that would be welcome but not with me and my mom.  She kept making little passive/agressive statements, and I kept ignoring them.  This is YOUR time with YOUR first baby, and you should do whatever feels right to you.  

Do whatever feels right for you. I can remember so many people coming to visit in the hospital and I was absolutely exhausted.  After being induced for 5 days and then a c-section I was like a zombie but people kept coming. I wish I would have put my foot down. I could barely keep my eyes open and I felt awful. Good luck and best wishes to you! :)

it is absolutely not rude to want your time with your new one, not to mention get some recovery time! I was shy and so afraid of hurting someones feelings when I had my children and suffered through the inconsiderate drop by visits after a c-section and I wish I had the guts to have sent out the message to give us some recovery time as well as bonding time with your new one.
I applaud you!

normally people make it a point to not bother you during that time. i got a few phone calls like the week that we got my daughters home just to check on us and congratulate us but they made it short and said they would be by when we were nice and settled in. i was very grateful. no its not rude at all! it should be common sense to people. :) i dont think anyone will take offense

My hubby is a fireman and I remember with our son, who had horrible feeding issues (did then and is 3 1/2 and still does) was trying to nurse and about 10 firemen and their girlfriends showed up in my hospital room.  I knew the guys- although some of them not very well and others really well but not a lot of their girlfriends. Most of them  are younger than us and therefore, go through girlfriends too quickly to get to know any of them.  It was the most uncomfortable situation I have ever been in.  Here I am, in a hospital nursing gown, haven't taken a shower, just delivered a baby, and my room is full of people- guys that that that I don't know very well.  If I had it to do ove,r I would have asked my hubby to go hang out with them in the waiting room. They also stayed for about 2 hours laughing and joking like they were at the firestation.  HELLO- just delivered a baby here-  I do like my family being there though and I have found that the more kiddos you have, the more you welcome the help.  This will be #3 for us and I'd have my mom move in!!!  After our first, my mom stayed about a week and my MIL came for about 2 days which was perfect. We have no family in town so I don't have it to worry about on a regular basis.  I say do what YOU want.  Like I said, if I could have done that over, I would have in a heartbeat.  I'm banning firemen from my room this time!  I've already told my hubby!!!