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12/10/08 aftercare/the family afterward/emotions/weight gain
Oct 03, 2009 03:53AM
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Suzi, You have raised some VERY valid and interesting issues regarding "the aftermath" or the "family afterward" type stuff. I had prepared a fairly lengthy response, but I did something silly and *poof*, I lost it. Maybe it's just as well that it went *poof* or I might be banished to some other MedHelp site dealing with things other than addiction (TO DRUGS) !
I suppose if I am unqualified to render advice on which vitamins to take to assist in one's withdrawal, I have no business offering advice on the impact of tramadol on our relationship with our spouses. Suffice it to be said, I DEFINATELY do concur with your thoughts and concerns here.
OK, I am winding up again... I too must confess that this drug made me unpredictable, moody, and an unaffectionate person as well while I was on it. And I think it would be fair to say that the affect on men goes well beyond the emotional mood thing too. Definately not gods' gift to sexual health and relationships to be sure. (did I do OK so far in the discrete category?)
I think we all do need to be gentle with ourselves. In this area too, the key is progress not perfection. And I have never been a big proponent of guilt. As far as I am concerned, no good thing ever came about as a result of attempts to make someone else change their behavior by "virtue" of guilt.
I seriously doubt that anyone who has never been addicted to a drug such as tramadol, GETS what it was like for us, how miserable it was to get off it, or possibly on the ongoing impact of our past use on current relationships. And that would include doctors, friends, and spouses. This is not to say that our doctors, friends, or spouses do not care a great deal about these things, it is just that too often, they didn't get what it was like while we were using it, they didn't appreciate what it took to get off it, and I am not altogether sure they realize that recovery is more than the 4 days of "hard time" it took BEGIN our recovery, yet just a day at a time.
It is probably incumbant on us all to eventually sit down and have a heart to heart with our loved ones IN OUR OWN TIME...I suppose...
Possibly someone else has a better idea on some of these things...but we do need to be a bit discrete here I think.
Oh, and the weight gain? I was thinking of bath tubs, so I just stepped on the scale and indeed, I have gained six pounds in 8 days. YIKES! I heard discussions about weight gain before, but I pretty well blew it off. Now I suppose I'll need to join another MedHelp website for overweight people if i can't get a handle on it. Thanks for calling these things to my attention - I think...
Fred
I suppose if I am unqualified to render advice on which vitamins to take to assist in one's withdrawal, I have no business offering advice on the impact of tramadol on our relationship with our spouses. Suffice it to be said, I DEFINATELY do concur with your thoughts and concerns here.
OK, I am winding up again... I too must confess that this drug made me unpredictable, moody, and an unaffectionate person as well while I was on it. And I think it would be fair to say that the affect on men goes well beyond the emotional mood thing too. Definately not gods' gift to sexual health and relationships to be sure. (did I do OK so far in the discrete category?)
I think we all do need to be gentle with ourselves. In this area too, the key is progress not perfection. And I have never been a big proponent of guilt. As far as I am concerned, no good thing ever came about as a result of attempts to make someone else change their behavior by "virtue" of guilt.
I seriously doubt that anyone who has never been addicted to a drug such as tramadol, GETS what it was like for us, how miserable it was to get off it, or possibly on the ongoing impact of our past use on current relationships. And that would include doctors, friends, and spouses. This is not to say that our doctors, friends, or spouses do not care a great deal about these things, it is just that too often, they didn't get what it was like while we were using it, they didn't appreciate what it took to get off it, and I am not altogether sure they realize that recovery is more than the 4 days of "hard time" it took BEGIN our recovery, yet just a day at a time.
It is probably incumbant on us all to eventually sit down and have a heart to heart with our loved ones IN OUR OWN TIME...I suppose...
Possibly someone else has a better idea on some of these things...but we do need to be a bit discrete here I think.
Oh, and the weight gain? I was thinking of bath tubs, so I just stepped on the scale and indeed, I have gained six pounds in 8 days. YIKES! I heard discussions about weight gain before, but I pretty well blew it off. Now I suppose I'll need to join another MedHelp website for overweight people if i can't get a handle on it. Thanks for calling these things to my attention - I think...
Fred
