Perfect baby? Yeahh... not so much.

well he is a good babie to what my daughter was and still is  she had colic for 6 months did not sleep when she should of then teething and now at 5 years old she wont sleep all night and comes in with me and kicks her dad all night that makes him go in her bed . just as well she has a double bed

yes babies can just want to eat and eat and eat.  do you live with your parents or the father? have them bring you a sandwich or something.  if you really feel as though you are going to lose it, call someone to come help you.  please if you ever feel as though you just will do whatever to make him stop crying, put him down and get a neighbor or anyone.  with saying that, its very normal behavior for a newborn.  they do that, sometimes worse.  what i did is i got my boppy out and sat in the recliner.  i had the baby attached to my boob most of the day, and it gave me rest and her a full tummy and needs met.  it only lasts a short time (i know days here can feel like months) and when its all over you will think how you overcame that you can overcome anything!  

Hey ... I know how your feeling about doing it by yourself.. but we're young so it's gonna happen. And just remember he's a baby you know? I know you can do it. Why dont you ask your mom if she can take him for an hour or so ... you can get rest and I am sure you'll feel better.

He finally went to sleep after writing this... My mom was sleeping. I don't know.. some days seem so hard just to get through to the end, but they never seem to even end because he's got me up at all hours it seems like the day never stops. I get so exhausted sometimes I start to fall asleep while I'm feeding him his bottle. Numerous times. I have to move positions to wake up. That's only right after he wakes me up from my .. what ? 1 to 2 hour naps.... My mom said she'd take him for a while.. Whenever I need, but she's not availaible 24/7.. She works nights and sleeps a lot during the day. But, she'll be losing her job after next week. Which is bad, but good because she said she'd help me out... And no perttykitty, I live with my parents, the father is irresponsible, he doesn't help with the baby much at ALL.

It sounds like the same issue I had with my oldest son when he was a newborn, and his issue of colic went undiagnosed for 6 months, all the baby wanted was to eat, because the warm milk would settle his stomach but would end up feeling so much better that he fell asleep when he ate. It was always worse at night then the day, and he would literally cry all night, he might have slept for an hour or 2 but would wake up screaming again. Maybe he isnt being burped good enough? Not that your not doing a good job, but some babies require a bit more force to get their air pockets out. I was always told to try and burp before feedings to get rid of the gas pocket and prevent spit ups.

As far the dad goes, men feel just as helpless when it comes to upset babies, even helpless with happy babies. Men need to be told how to do stuff and are less likely to just *try* something to see if it helps. My DH was the same way until I handed him the baby and said *im taking a bath or im going out formula is in the fridge, diapers are on the changing table with the wipes, so you deal with it while im gone. And eventually he got good enough at it that he would tell me to go take a nap or a bath to give me a break.

I know you guys are brand new to this and are learning as you go, but if he isn't going to be *willing* to learn with you....make him.

If your supplementing his feeding with formuls I would suggest trying a Soy formula, some babies are very sensitive to the milk based ones because of the lactose. If you do suspect colic or it is diagnosed with your pediatrician, they make special colic formula that will literally take care of the issue withen 24 hrs.

My youngest son was lactose intolerant and had the same issue, and was up all night just crying, I even tried the colic formula which didnt help because I thought he was colicy, but as soon as I put him on the soy formula he was fine and I had him sleeping through the night by 2 months of age.

Good luck and don't give up hope, If it gets that bad, lay him in his bouncy chair or crib or bassinet and go outside for a 10 min breather, my doc always told me that if they are fed, changed and not running a fever, it's okay to let them cry.

be proud that you've made it this far, and managed to keep up the nursing. you're doing good, and tomorrow will be better.

it can be very overwhelming, can't it? but it shows you're being responsible and doing your job as a mommy.

i think a link to this journal entry should be posted to all of those threads started by teens saying they are TTC. You're doing a great job, doing everything right, and have been blessed with a good baby (well... til today :) despite all of this, it is overwhelming, and would be to anyone regardless of age. it's not all snuggles and kisses!

Ugh! Thank you, tiredbuthappy. I think sometimes I just need to hear things like that to help get me through.. :( It's tough, no doubt. It doesn't helpme when I get to thinking how I will never be able to take one day off of being a mom. Maybe get a day away from him every now and again, but this is what I will be from now on. It gets overwhelming at times. When I think of him growing up, in all honesty.. I get happy thinking about experiencing so many things and teaching him and watching him grow up and getting to know him.. But at the same time, I almost dread it because he will be attached to me always, and always depending on ME. I really don't think his father is going to step up any time soon. Knowing that there will be many more days like these.. It kind of makes me sad, looking at the other girls my age, even ones that are older, who are child-less and have care-free lives and can actually leave their house without planning every little detail. And are actually permitted to get up and leave their room to use the bathroom or make food, or take a shower or sleep throughout the night!!! Ahhh..  It's amazing how many small things I took for granted. Looking forward to him getting here, so badly.. I do enjoy him, on the rare occasion that he's settled and content [usually when he's asleep] But Jeeze.
I have mixed feelings about this, obviously.. But only because I am in the moment and living day to day, minute by minute.. But I know that one day I will look back on this and miss it. Just not right now. lol
I have to keep telling myself everytime I wake up that Today is a new day. Sometimes it's not, because I only got a couple hours of sleep, in which case I have to just live by each hour... And I think you're right that all other teenagers wanting to be me right now should take a look at what I'm saying.

ah i remember how frustrated i was when dominic would eat and eat and thats all he would do. he would hardly sleep because he wanted to eat so much.

your young so its going to be hard. trust me on that one. man i was so use to having a bath at least once a day, i was use to being able to do my makeup everyday, i was able to wear something cute and have it last the whole day, i was able to sleep (every teenager loves to sleep) all hours of the day, i could eat a HOT meal, i was able to 1 entire show all the way thru.

NOT ANYMORE!

i can go a day or more (shhh) without taking a bath...i dont have the time to
i either have to change my shirt 3 times throughout the day or just leave my milk stained shirt on.
whenever i try and sleep its like he knows and wakes up!
ive learned how to eat my meals cold, he always seems to kno when food comes out.
i cant tell you the time i got to watch a whole show straight through.
i havent had my nails done in a year (12 months) i use to get them done every other week
i havent had my hair done in about a month (use to get that done every week)
i try and be a responsible mother and give ____day gifts to his fathers parents
i try and be responsible by still trying to be civil with his father even tho somedays i fail.
peeing without a baby in the room got thrown out the window

but your right is is very very overwhelming at times but it does get easier to some degree as time goes by. i remember when he first came home, after i was healed from my csection, man i swear i lost it. i would try and cook, he would cry, he wasnt hungy, he wouldnt play with his swing or play mat, i hadnt bathed, i had to pee, the dog kept peeing on everything and going in trashcans and taking and tearing up things. i would find myself sitting and crying to myself..."how in the hell am i supposed to do ANYTHING?"

after calling my mom in tears with "he doesnt want to do anything but just cries" she told me hes more than likly bored and needs to be stimulated! well we went and got a baby einstine dvd and its works! i would put him in his bouncy seat, watching his dvd, and i was able to breath! i could cook and actually eat it! (he still smells it sometimes and cry but for the most part hes good) i learned how to take a quick bath while hes watching his dvd. if its a long bath i bring a rocking chair that doesnt do anything and is very boring into the bathroom and he will sit there and look at me, the lights, or his feet. i can bathe now! i work off of not a lot of sleep now.i was so so tired last night tho and i needed to sleep because i was hardly functioning, yes i gave him a tiny bit of cereal and he was OUT from 11pm - 7am! i was so happy and now i feel great! what shows i "have to " watch i watch what i can and then wait till it comes back on again so i can get the whole episode. ive givin up on wearing something cute all day unless im going out. t shirts are my best friends.my hair and nails im getting done sometime this week for graduation. but ive giving up on getting that done unless its something special.

it will get a little easier with time!!!!!!!! dominic wnated to eat all the time. yes its true hes in the "heavy weight" category but it was only a little while where i could have sworn i always had a baby attached to my breast! it comes and goes with spruts and will not last!

Ha! I think everyone goes through what you're going through, and it's not because you're 16. I had a rough couple of days with my son and remember telling my husband "he's just not cute to me anymore." I felt like I didn't know what I was doing and he wasn't gaining weight, which made it worse. You'll be a pro in just a few more weeks, and then you'll look back at these times and laugh about how crazy everything was. I remember when I started breastfeeding and I had to have like 8 pillows and a whole freakin' set-up just to feed the kid. When he was a week and half old, I finally fed him just holding him in my arms waiting in the room at the doctors...I was so proud of myself!

You'll get better, and so will he. Make sure you're burping him well! That can make all of the difference. He'll start sleeping more and more, and so will you. Things will get better! I promise! Everything will fall into place :)

Please don't take this the wrong way, but remember to never take your nerves out on your son. There were a couple of times where I had to walk away because I was acting crazy. After you have a newborn for a couple of weeks, you start to understand how mothers lose it and hurt their children. With hardly any sleep, food, etc, you can lose it pretty quickly. Lay him in his crib and walk away!

Even now (my son will be 2 next month) I constantly remind myself what he might be feeling and why he's acting the way he is. He's speech delayed, so he can't tell me what he wants and what is bothering him. I just keep saying in my head "he's one! give him a break!"

Good luck! It will get better!

Awee Im sorry hun that you feel like that but you are doing a great job... it will get easier for you... i think you need to post on the 20 and under board and let some of those girls really understand what its likes to be that young and have a baby with all the responsiblities :o)

aww, I think your doing a great job, especially for someone whos doing it on their own! When I tried breastfeeding my son it was so hard, he was in the NICU for six days and they bottle fed him so he was used to the bottle and it made it harder, also I to had to use the nipple shield and omg was that a pain in the butt, it always came off and became slippery and by the time I got it all figured out he'd be to frustrated to eat so I pumped exclusivley for eight months every 3 hours. I think it's so great that you are still breastfeeding you are doing a great job! I can't say that my son was always crying but there we're days that I was frustrated and needed a break, what I would do was put on some music and sing to him, just a thought. I also would go onto you tube and we'd watch baby vids he loved the cutest laughing baby.

If your having trouble burping him my lactation consultant suggested that i lay him flat on his back and slowly raise him up as if he we're doing sit ups and gently and slowly lay him flat again and keep doing it like ten times or so and then try and burp him again. It worked great for me.

YOUR A GREAT MOTHER, no matter how tough it is at the moment just remember it gets better and easier =] I know this girl who has a 18 month old daughter and she is 18 I think and you have done more for your son then she EVER has for her daughter.

I also you think you should post a journal link in the forum for teens who want to get preggers, the girl I know wanted her baby but you couldn't tell now.

i dont know much about breastfeeding because I didn't even attempt that route but I think i will IF I ever have more but we will see...My baby used to be awesome, always happy etc etc never cried.. slept his nights from early on you name it...NOW!!! He is 9 mos old, will not sleep in his bed or playpen or anything.. I have tried everything...I am at the end of my wits and I've tried letting him cry it out for a few days...well almost 2 days until I could not handle it anymore.. Nap time its all he did.. both times,, bedtime same thing for about 4 hours and i went and got him.. I could handle crying this bad myself anymore but I want him to sleep in his bed.. so I know how frustrating it is BUT that's just the joys of being a mommy!!! They are so worth it no matter what and you will realize it more and more as he becomes more mobile.. You are doing a wonderful job and it's normal to get frustrated.. Take time for yourself...even if its just a quick shower or walk outside 2 mins take a breathe and go back in.. It's hard being the only one doing all the work.. I know I haven been doing it alone since DS was born and with barely any help from his father...he never fed bathed him etc...and now we are taking a break...so hold on you are doing the best you can and it may get worse before it gets better but it WILL get better!!! keep up to great work hun:)

This is such a normal feeling and just to let you know, I have my son's father in the picture and still had to do most of the work anyway.  Some days they are so good and some days are awful.  I thought the same about my son, the first few weeks are wonderful, once they hit that 1 month mark they are crying and crying for what seems like an eternity.  My son cried for 4 hours straight once.  Sometimes, there is nothing we can do, they will tire themselves out.  Just be there to comfort him.  My son is 7 months old this week and yesterday he was rotten.  Didn't sleep much from Saturday into Sunday and usually he sleeps through the night.  He was whinning all day and throwing little tantrums.  Once they hit 3 months...it does get better.  They are less gassy and sort of grow out of that crying phase but things do come up....they start teething, they get sick, they are constipated....there are so many other things.  Every day is something different.  It's all part of the parenting....it is the hardest job anyone can ever do.  It doesn't matter how old you are, lack of sleep, crying baby...it all is frustrating.  You just have to try different things.  My recommendations are...buy a swing if you don't already have one...they are very soothing.  Buy a carrier and just carry your son, they are more relaxed that way and being close to you is comforting for them.  You can actually get stuff done.  Try one of those slings...I think they allow you to position the baby close to your breast so that you can carry them and then just feed them at the same time.  So those are my recommendations.  See if a friend or family member can give you a small break to eat or shower or even to sleep.  You are doing great, remember, this is such a short time, it will get easier.  You will find your rhythm with him and it will come a little easier.  Don't be too hard on yourself...it is very frustrating, just hang in there though.  When he starts sitting up on his own and being more independent and pushing you away when you kiss him, you will miss him being a newborn.