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Jan 22, 2010 - 18 comments
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Last year I wrote about my cousin that had 4 kids and pregnant and in and out of prison..just incase you didnt read it here it is..then read the bottom for my concern:


AUGUST 5, 2009
Okay my cousin that is 26yrs old has 4children......She has been in and out of prison and on drugs and keeps having babies that she cannot afford.....I was gonna get her oldest girl from her about 3yrs ago but she so called straightened up and I didnt bother....All of a sudden this weekend she calls CPS and tells them that she doesnt want her kids anymore and that she doesnt want any of the family to have them.  I was so heart broken..2 kids belong to one dad and 2 kids belong to another one.  So the oldest two kids are 5 and 7 and the youngest are 3 and 2.  The oldest 2 are with my uncle (thier grandpa)  which he is not physically able to support both of them and the youngest 2 are with thier dad's side of the family and their dad's mama (thier grandmother) is taking care of them since the dad is on drugs too....................  So now My husband and I have only been married for 1month now and I mean we have the means to take care of one but not more than that.....We have good jobs, 3bedroom house and a large fenced in front/back yard for her to play in...but my concern is ...am I ready to give up my freedom to make sure at least one of the kids arent in the generational curse of drugs and prison and have a healthy loving life.........I find myself being very selfish......because I have a year and a half left of skool and hubby and I dont have anykids.........but at the same time.......I use to pray for children and I used to pray that I got custody of the oldest...now that my prayer was answered..Medhelp what do I do.....................I want to do what God wants me to do ............And Im not sure if I should get her and raise her or should I just pick her up everynow and then and spend a lil time with her............When my DH heared about this his first reaction was ........"baby do you want to get her" and I was kinda shock at how fast he asked me if I wanted to get her.........so We are just boggled............ps my mama and I are gonna take her shopping on Sunday to get all her skool clothes.......I need all the opinions and all the prayer I can get!!!!!!!!


AUGUST 30, 2009
Okay remember this story about my cousin that has issues    "read below"   !!!!!!!   I JUST FOUND OUT SHE IS PREGNANT AGAIN!!!!!!!   LORD HOLD MY MULE........I HAVE MY FAITH AND I AM WAITING ON THE LORD TO BLESS ME WITH A BABY.................I JUST DONT GET HOW HER BUTT ALREADY HAVE 4 KIDS THAT SHE THREW AWAY AND ALL ARE NORMAL WITH NOOOOOOOO HEALTH ISSUES AND WAS ON DRUGS "BAD DRUGS" WITH ALL OF THEM......(LITTLE OLE ME AND HUBBY WANT TO BE PARENTS AND I HAVE ONE TUBE THAT GOD IS REPAIRING AND WE HAVE A 3BEDROOM HOUSE, FENCED IN YARD, GOOD JOBS, EDUCATION, NEVER DID DRUGS.....AND SHE GETS TO KEEEEEEEEEP HAVING CHILDREN)    okay I  am not mad I just had to vent!!

ps we are only 6months apart we both are 26 this year and we were raised together and was close until the drugs...................but same age different living styles...and she has 4 beautiful children and here comes number 5......I think ima adopt this one though.....maybe this is what God has 4 me a newborn!! I just pray that this one is healthy as well despite their stupid mom!!


JANUARY 22, 2010
I got a phone call that my cousin has 5yrs this go round... And she is due April 4th.  We dont know what the sex is and who the daddy is...she wrote my other cousin today and told her she didnt know what to do with this baby...  So the family asked me and I havent told anyone that I MAY BE PREGNANT...  Anyways what do I do ....Im so confused... I am going to write her and see but if Im not preggo we will adopt the baby with all parental rights handed over because I refuse to let another baby be raised in poverty...yall I need yalls opinions please!!!!!!

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by LandM2009, Jan 22, 2010
could you afford to do both? I would totally agree that this baby needs you. When will you know if you are prego? Pray about it. I will pray for you too. There is a reason this is being placed before you. Take care.

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by Tiffiepooh, Jan 22, 2010
I think if your not pregnant you should deffinatly take the baby. You deserve it and it deserves you. I think this would be Gods way of helping two peopl out at one time. I think its horrible that she has had this luck with the miracles God has given her. And it makes me sad that she gave them all up. I hope and pray that she gets a wake up call and realizes what all she has missed. If you aren't I think you should adopt that poor baby and give it a life that it deserves. And i hope and pray that he or she is healthy like the rest.

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by LIL_LADY24, Jan 22, 2010
@ LandM2009---Yes there is a reason this is being placed on me....I think that God is saying well you prayed for babies ..here you go. but thanks so much and thanks for the prayers..I definetly need to test soon now.

@Tiffiepooh----Yes sooooo true I would give this baby the best life..better than its siblings...I guess I just need to see what God wants me to do huh....thanks so much

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by Tiffiepooh, Jan 22, 2010
Your welcome test soon and let us know.

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by ladybug82, Jan 22, 2010
Children should never be in such a bad situations i would totally take the baby and if you are preggers i think you can handle it ...You are such a wondiful person and haveso much love to throw up in the air .... hugs ****** TEST ALREADY lol <--- jk

*:O) erika

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by LIL_LADY24, Jan 22, 2010
@ladybug82----never thought I would be in this situation....but yes ma'am Ima test Sunday lolooll

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by dg99, Jan 22, 2010
Wow, the fact that you have been considering giving a home to her children is so wonderful. You obviously have a big heart!! My only concern would be the possibility of her being able to get this baby back once she is out of jail. Would you be able to adopt the baby or would it just be guardianship??
   There should be more people in the world like you! Best of luck! An adoptive mother once said to me that some babies grow in your belly, and some babies grow in your heart.
Take Care!
  Danielle

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by LIL_LADY24, Jan 22, 2010
@dg99----thanks for that, when I write her this weekend I am going to tell her all parental rights will be signed away and that hubby and I will raise as our own and she will not get the child back.  When the child is older i will tell them that their birth mother is the real mother and that i am really the cousin but that would be about middle school or highschool or when they start asking those questions about where'd they come from....and so on... but thanks so much I really have a big heart and would take in every child if I could!  

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by MiracleOfLife, Jan 22, 2010
You will be an awesome mom! Wish you best of luck on Sunday, that's when you'll know what to do - and if you will end up with both - great, I am sure you will find a way... I will pray for you!

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by LIL_LADY24, Jan 22, 2010
@miracleoflife---thanks so so so much!!!!!!! Yes Sunday will be the day!  Im excited foe God giving me both options and the opportunities!!!!!!! Thanks for praying for me!

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by turkee23, Jan 23, 2010
i remember reading this story...it is very sad about your cousin and why she keeps making babies.,...  when do you find out if your prego?.... you dont think you could do both? take the baby and still have you own?... i know it would be alot, but your strong...... you are very special for wanting to take on another baby that isnt "yours"... god is good and is going to bless you very soon......

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by szw2008, Jan 23, 2010
I don't know you, but you seem like a VERY sweet and loving woman. If I were in your shoes, I would go for it. I think if you didn't try, you might regret it in the future. If God saw fit to open the opportunity to you, it must have been meant to be. Good luck. If you are pregnant, I'd still go for it. This is just a guess, but I think you probably have enough love to go around. (=

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by Ready_4_Baby_2, Jan 23, 2010

Omg this is a blessing! You asked God for a child and he's giving you two! Just pray and ask God to lead you in the right direction and leave it up to him.

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by Ready_4_Baby_2, Jan 23, 2010
Now will you test ready! Lol imma be check Sunday after church. Lol

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by anxiouslywaiting910, Jan 23, 2010
You need to test Honey!!!  I would say that you definately need to see if you are pregnant before deciding. God will give you the answers you just have to pray about it. But you could always send me the other baby if you are pregnant =) lol I will be praying that you come up with the answers that are right for you. And for goodness sake POAS ALREADY!!!! I'm about to die to know =)

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by LIL_LADY24, Jan 23, 2010
@turkee23--thanks so much...I cant wait to hear from God!!  Lastnight I prayed about three diff prayers lolol

@szw2008--aww thanks I try to be sweet lol but yes I have a heart the size of the universe lol

@ready_4_baby_2--Yes that is what I said I prayed for babies and God said ok here ya go lololol lol Yes ima test Sunday and hopefully I will have such great news and go to church and give God alllllll the glory

@anxiouslywaiting910--Ima test in the morning lololol And You know Ima pray and ask for guidance..lol Imglad you dont live close to me you probably would hold me down to POAS huh lolololololololololol But we shall see....cuz I have no symptoms at all except lower back pain but I have that with AF as well...so we shall see!!!

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by anxiouslywaiting910, Jan 23, 2010
And you know it..I'm bigger than you so you know I would have you held down until you POAS =) and you know pregnant people can't hold their pee for too long lol Yeah its a good thing there are several states in between us!!  We would be too much for one state =)

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by babiblu, Jan 25, 2010
Either way I think you should take the baby!!! Regardless if you think you a pregnant or not. This maybe a test from God to see where your mind state is.

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