Negativity
Jul 09, 2008 04:54PM
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I am so mad at my husband. He's been in a bad mood for days now and is very negative. He says it's all my fault (as usual) but I know that's ********. His negativity is making my bipolar depression worse. I tried to tell him but he so busy running his mouth he doesn't listen. Right now I hate him and wish he would drop dead. I don't know if I should stay or leave because I don't want to get sick again and part of staying well is being away from negativity.
It's hard because I have a young child but I think if he can't work this out then I'm going to leave this time for ever. I can be friends with him but I can't put up with someone else's bad mood, especially when it lasts for days and days like his do. I think he's bipolar but he would never admit it or get help for it, he's "better" than that. But I know what I know about him and he's sick and needs to do something about it.
Well next time I write I may be living elsewhere if he doesn't seek help!!
It's hard because I have a young child but I think if he can't work this out then I'm going to leave this time for ever. I can be friends with him but I can't put up with someone else's bad mood, especially when it lasts for days and days like his do. I think he's bipolar but he would never admit it or get help for it, he's "better" than that. But I know what I know about him and he's sick and needs to do something about it.
Well next time I write I may be living elsewhere if he doesn't seek help!!
good luck to you and please stay strong. you will get past this and you know what is the right thing to do not only for yourself but for your childs sake. good luck to you and if you need anything please ask.
jen
jen
Thanks so much. This is such a difficult time because he never admits when he is wrong. We had a trip planned to LA next week and I'm not going with him since he's acting this way!
I know how it feels to hate someone for the way thier mood is constantly so bad and negative. That was my ex husband to a tee, although I'm not bi polar I couldn't put up with it.
Take care of yourself in this situation and whatever you decide will be best for your child too. Remember your baby needs a happy mother and it doesn't sound like you're in the right surroundings for that. Take Care sweetie!!
Take care of yourself in this situation and whatever you decide will be best for your child too. Remember your baby needs a happy mother and it doesn't sound like you're in the right surroundings for that. Take Care sweetie!!
Erin, I'm so sorry. I had the same thing. Its awful to live with someone who is always so mean and nasty. If you need anything, please pm me
Preachin to the choir sister!
I'm so sorry your husband is a Men sorry all the men out there but that is how they are typical. lol
No not all of them but I have the same trouble with my husband to and sometimes I think you know is not all there fault we want them to understand us but we also have to understand them is hard for them to deal with us to and our problem in my case my husband dosen't have a problem with addiction so is hard for him to understand my problem and I don't want him to understand I want him to respect that should not be hard to do. So think about it does he respect you enough to stay with him? and if not them there you have it.
Good luck and maybe get a therapist to work with you both mine is great she works with me then him another day then both another day and that way I don't have to make him understand me of feel my problems.
No not all of them but I have the same trouble with my husband to and sometimes I think you know is not all there fault we want them to understand us but we also have to understand them is hard for them to deal with us to and our problem in my case my husband dosen't have a problem with addiction so is hard for him to understand my problem and I don't want him to understand I want him to respect that should not be hard to do. So think about it does he respect you enough to stay with him? and if not them there you have it.
Good luck and maybe get a therapist to work with you both mine is great she works with me then him another day then both another day and that way I don't have to make him understand me of feel my problems.
He frustrates me tp no end when he goes through these periods of anger. I think he's the one who needs to see a therapist to deal with his anger. I have one but she is going to tell me what I already know, if your not healthy and happy-leave! For me it's easy because I can leave. I need to be in a "healthy" environment, not one where someone is mad and yelling every night.
Right now I don't care to help him, he has to help himself and if he's not going to do that then I am more than happy to go my own way with my son.
If he knew I was seriously ready to leave he would try and get help, I think. That's what happened last time he got like this and I left for a hotel.
It's just so upsetting because I'm in the middle of job hunting and I don't need to be house hunting but if that's what needs to happen so I can stay well, than I will do that.
He can go to LA by himself as far as I'm concerned. I'm so close to done for good it isn't funny.
I have just decided that my foot is going down today, I won't take one more day of this garbage so the ball now sits in his court.
Right now I don't care to help him, he has to help himself and if he's not going to do that then I am more than happy to go my own way with my son.
If he knew I was seriously ready to leave he would try and get help, I think. That's what happened last time he got like this and I left for a hotel.
It's just so upsetting because I'm in the middle of job hunting and I don't need to be house hunting but if that's what needs to happen so I can stay well, than I will do that.
He can go to LA by himself as far as I'm concerned. I'm so close to done for good it isn't funny.
I have just decided that my foot is going down today, I won't take one more day of this garbage so the ball now sits in his court.
Love, kindness, and being sweet wins everytime, think about it!!!!
I'll think about it. It hasn't gotten me very far the past 2 weeks. Thanks!!
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